I like to teach that gender is our personality and that a penis and a vagina does not create our gender identity. We are not assigned our personality, we just become it. Just like becoming left or right handed, or being able to be ambidextrous and use both hands. We now trust a child… Continue reading A Penis and a Vagina does not Create our Gender Identity
I have an intersex cousin who was born about ten years after me. They allowed a surgeon to cut off their child's phallus for no good reason. They allowed themselves to be talked into the utterly crazy belief that all there is to be a woman is to be missing a penis. Worse, this surgeon… Continue reading Being rejected by my family because of what I represent when I speak up for my intersex cousin who was mutilated.
I was in therapy learning that I was a girl. Sugar and spice and everything nice. At the same time my little brother's emergence into this world was being celebrated. Snips and snails and puppy-dogs' tails IMAGINE YAY! they said. His penis a glorious thing! He will stand to pee even! He gets to carry… Continue reading Poem: IMAGINE being erased
The power of changing one's gender is sad, surreal and even amazing. Suddenly some of my friends no longer wanted to relate with me, talk to me, or even acknowledge that I was in their life anymore. All, simply because I now appear more male. This poem is to all those who vanished from my life,… Continue reading Poem: Where did you all go? Was it all because of a penis?
Before I emerged from my closet….. I hid in shame, because they said I would be un-lovable. I have now emerged into a world that is full of their own little secrets. I hid in shame, because they said I would be un-lovable. I emerge to a world that has the same shame you instilled… Continue reading Poem: This is a Broken World that I emerge into.
Nature created diversity and variety. Nature did not create the male, female binary. Nature's variations create our genitals, reproductive systems, chromosomes and hormones. Not everyone is sexually born typical, and "typical" is not "normal". There are just more typical people in this world, and needless to say typical people made the rules about "normalcy".… Continue reading Five ways I show that the Male/Female Binary is a Myth, and a Social Construct. Nature has always Created Sexual Variety and Diversity.
Parts are parts! If it belongs to a girl, it's a girl part. If it belongs to a boy, it's a boy part. A penis is not just a boy part If it belongs to a girl it should not break your heart. A penis can be a girl part and Venus and Mars… Continue reading Poem: Parts are Parts, and Venus and Mars can get over it.
THE Female PENIS If you got one, you are told the rules. No make-up, no pink. This world will make you think You can't even act in certain ways or play in certain ways your world becomes blue All these gender roles taught to us Due to two small boxes Male and… Continue reading My Poem: THE Female PENIS
This diagram, above, shows some of the varieties of genital appearance that can occur in some forms of intersex. Often, when a baby is born appearing like one of these varieties of human, it is considered a "psychosocial emergency"; and doctors want to make the child appear as typical as possible as soon as possible. The… Continue reading It is time to stop the “normalizing” genital surgery on intersex infants!
As a person born intersex, October, 2014, I desperately needed to reclaim my true gender. It was for health, mental and spiritual reasons. It had become life or death for me at this point. To get help, I had to seek out a transgender doctor, because no other doctor would go against my assigned gender… Continue reading Why was I diagnosed with GENDER DYSPHORIA?