Gender Nonconforming, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Self-Determination, Short Messages

Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

How the government and I define my existence:  My Biological Sex: Intersex My Legal Sex: Intersex. As proven with medical documentation after going to Florida Court to prove I was born intersex, and now as documented accurately on my Colorado Birth Certificate: Intersex. At this time, my driver’s license and social security both legally say… Continue reading Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

Hope, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships

Poem: Getting over the Grief of Abandonment

This world did not teach you. I could not reach you. This world did not teach you. So you did not know better. • Ignorance creates monsters.   Ignorance creates fear. You were supposed to love me. You hated me instead. We are blood. It did not matter to you. • This world did not… Continue reading Poem: Getting over the Grief of Abandonment

Hate Crimes, Intersex Erasure, Intersex Phobia, Memories, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships, Transgender, Transphobia

Poem: You couldn’t protect me, they erased me

To my mother: When I was born I became a thorn in your pocket You wanted me to be Anthony I disappointed you You raised me as Antoinette My picture not even in your locket You couldn't protect me, they erased me To my living sister: When I grew up You called me Toni with… Continue reading Poem: You couldn’t protect me, they erased me

Poems, Prejudice, Relationships

Poem: Your Open Mind

Telling me you have an open mind makes you think you are safe and that you will allow yourself to be friends with me. I am a minority: INTERSEX  GENDER NONCONFORMING GAY MAN  ♥ With a friendly smile, you tell me you have no problem with how I live my life. It made me worry… Continue reading Poem: Your Open Mind

Bridge Building, Civil Rights, Gender Nonconforming, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Transgender, United Nations

For Parents: How to Screen for a Safe Transgender or Intersex Therapist or Doctor

Both Transgender and Intersex children deserve to be medically and psychologically treated with dignity and respect and be given the human right to self-determine their own gender identity and gender expression.  So below I will share two separate lists of how this can be achieved.  These two lists are very different and will demonstrate the… Continue reading For Parents: How to Screen for a Safe Transgender or Intersex Therapist or Doctor

Intersex Awareness, Intersex Phobia, Prejudice, Relationships, Short Messages

PTSD and being an Intersex Survivor during the Holidays

I have a few friends, like myself, who have horrible PTSD, and who were violated in various ways and also assigned the wrong gender. The cost: their genitals, fertility, not knowing what they would have naturally looked like, losing friends, losing family, losing their jobs; every aspect of their lives touched and sometimes destroyed by… Continue reading PTSD and being an Intersex Survivor during the Holidays

Human Rights Violations, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships

Poem: I am a cliff climber

No words need to be said. Yes, it is utterly and horrifically overwhelming at times I rarely get a break And once again Over and over again Shoved off the cliff I am a cliff climber  After fifty years I am damn good at it too At least now I know I am not alone… Continue reading Poem: I am a cliff climber

Bridge Building, Celebrations, Intersex Awareness, Intersex inclusion, Intersex People, PFLAG, Relationships

PFLAG Rockford Chapter is the 2nd to become INTERSEX Inclusive.

I am excited to announce, and celebrate that  PFLAG Rockford Illinois is the second PFLAG Chapter to responsibly include intersex.   My chapter, PFLAG of Jacksonville is the first.  This happening after they made me their Director of Gender/INTERSEX Education.  It is my goal now to help other PFLAG chapters add the "I" responsibly. While traveling to… Continue reading PFLAG Rockford Chapter is the 2nd to become INTERSEX Inclusive.