Celebrations, Intersex Activist, Intersex People, Jim Costich, My Intersex Story, Poems, Relationships

Poem: When two lonely aliens become brothers

We both felt like we were from another world. You on one side of the country, and me on the other. And we would not know it until half our lives were over.   You would be born a decade before me. Sharing with pride to all your friends your genitals from another world. All… Continue reading Poem: When two lonely aliens become brothers

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Homophobia, Human Rights, Intersex People, Prejudice, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Transphobia

Does my family​ know prejudice?

My thoughts on prejudice today: My dad was a Castilian Spaniard. Our Spanish ancestors were Ashkenazi Jews that escaped Europe into the United States to survive being killed. They converted to Christianity due to Catholic missionaries in the United States as immigrants. My grandmother was so terrified of their speaking Spanish, they forbid it in… Continue reading Does my family​ know prejudice?

Cultural Dysphoria, PFLAG, Relationships, Transgender, Transphobia

Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.

  I am dear friends with Phyllis Gallisath, a mother whos buried her transgender son died last year.   His name was Liam, and he had been found dead, after not coming home one day after completing suicide.  Like many of us assigned wrong at birth, he suffered from horrible depression and it finally took his life.… Continue reading Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.

Celebrations, Gender Nonconforming, Memories, My Intersex Story, Relationships, Self-Determination

Our 24th Wedding Anniversary and Serendipity​ with Pete Burns​

    Little did we know, we married on Pete Burns Birthday, August 5th, 1995. If you do not know Pete was a beautiful man in the '80s and the lead singer for "Dead or Alive". His legacy lives on for breaking the gender stereotypes and living as a beautiful man! I would not discover… Continue reading Our 24th Wedding Anniversary and Serendipity​ with Pete Burns​

Hate Crimes, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Phobia, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships, Short Messages

Poem: Institutionalized approved torture

Today I shared to the world on Facebook: My great aunt suffered electric shock treatment and being locked up in psychiatric hospitals for being a lesbian. She would ultimately commit suicide to escape institutionalized torture. I sometimes wonder if she was also intersex. I can't get any straight answers. If she was intersex, that would… Continue reading Poem: Institutionalized approved torture

Human Rights Violations, Intersex People, Jim Costich, Relationships, The Man with the Hidden Playground

Intersex people must be allowed self-determination about our bodies, our identities, and our lives. By Jim Costich

By Jim Costich April 17th, 2019   Like Anunnaki, I am one of the lucky ones. One of the intersex people who was not mutilated by surgeons' knives.  Also, one of the lucky ones because I did not have a forced gender assignment and although my hormonal health was postponed due to medical malpractitioners I… Continue reading Intersex people must be allowed self-determination about our bodies, our identities, and our lives. By Jim Costich

Gender Nonconforming, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Self-Determination, Short Messages

Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

How the government and I define my existence:  My Biological Sex: Intersex My Legal Sex: Intersex. As proven with medical documentation after going to Florida Court to prove I was born intersex, and now as documented accurately on my Colorado Birth Certificate: Intersex. At this time, my driver’s license and social security both legally say… Continue reading Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

Hope, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships

Poem: Getting over the Grief of Abandonment

This world did not teach you. I could not reach you. This world did not teach you. So you did not know better. • Ignorance creates monsters.   Ignorance creates fear. You were supposed to love me. You hated me instead. We are blood. It did not matter to you. • This world did not… Continue reading Poem: Getting over the Grief of Abandonment

Hate Crimes, Intersex Erasure, Intersex Phobia, Memories, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships, Transgender, Transphobia

Poem: You couldn’t protect me, they erased me

To my mother: When I was born I became a thorn in your pocket You wanted me to be Anthony I disappointed you You raised me as Antoinette My picture not even in your locket You couldn't protect me, they erased me To my living sister: When I grew up You called me Toni with… Continue reading Poem: You couldn’t protect me, they erased me