Bridge Building, Intersex inclusion, Interview, Questions and Answers

Including the “I” in LGBTQIA+ Responsibly: My Interview with Nicki Pappas, Podcast Host of Broadening the Narrative

Here is my latest Podcast from Broadening the Narrative. I Had the pleasure of interviewing with Nicki Pappas Podcast Host and Writer about how to add the "I" to LGBTQIA+ with Responsiblity: Podcast: Broadening the Narrative: Including the "I" in LGBTQIA+ Responsibly with Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez ***Warning for some graphic language, references to suicide… Continue reading Including the “I” in LGBTQIA+ Responsibly: My Interview with Nicki Pappas, Podcast Host of Broadening the Narrative

Bridge Building, Prejudice, Relationships, Short Messages, Transgender, Transphobia

Leelah, I promise to be your voice | Rest in Power 2020

She is not here to speak up, so I will speak up for her in her memory year after year. On social media each year, I share her memory. This year I made this message, using her suicide letter to us. Until society changes, I will remind all of us that society needs to change.… Continue reading Leelah, I promise to be your voice | Rest in Power 2020

Cultural Dysphoria, PFLAG, Relationships, Transgender, Transphobia

Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.

  I am dear friends with Phyllis Gallisath, a mother whos buried her transgender son died last year.   His name was Liam, and he had been found dead, after not coming home one day after completing suicide.  Like many of us assigned wrong at birth, he suffered from horrible depression and it finally took his life.… Continue reading Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.

Bridge Building, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Erasure, Intersex inclusion, Poems

Poem: Together we are stronger LGBTQIA+; with Martin Luther King Jr. and his gay friend Bayard Rustin.

Intersex, Transgender & Non-Binary People: There are few human or civil rights for you and me, the fight has just begun!  And here we are within the rainbow fighting each other. Intersex people outcasting, gatekeeping and judging other intersex people as being posers or fake. Transgender people fighting, outcasting, gatekeeping and judging other transgender people… Continue reading Poem: Together we are stronger LGBTQIA+; with Martin Luther King Jr. and his gay friend Bayard Rustin.

Hate Crimes, Intersex Erasure, Intersex Phobia, Memories, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships, Transgender, Transphobia

Poem: You couldn’t protect me, they erased me

To my mother: When I was born I became a thorn in your pocket You wanted me to be Anthony I disappointed you You raised me as Antoinette My picture not even in your locket You couldn't protect me, they erased me To my living sister: When I grew up You called me Toni with… Continue reading Poem: You couldn’t protect me, they erased me

Intersex Awareness, Intersex Phobia, Prejudice, Relationships, Short Messages

PTSD and being an Intersex Survivor during the Holidays

I have a few friends, like myself, who have horrible PTSD, and who were violated in various ways and also assigned the wrong gender. The cost: their genitals, fertility, not knowing what they would have naturally looked like, losing friends, losing family, losing their jobs; every aspect of their lives touched and sometimes destroyed by… Continue reading PTSD and being an Intersex Survivor during the Holidays

Intersex People, Poems, Prejudice, Questions and Answers, Transgender

Poem: Over 50% would have died.

Over 50% would have died. I just survived what most would not have. No I do not like this world. It is a cruel and cold place for intersex people and transgender people. Most would not have switched their gender to save their lives. I can't respect that. I just survived what most wouldn't have.… Continue reading Poem: Over 50% would have died.

Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Poems, Relationships

Poem: Where did you all go? Was it all because of a penis?

The power of changing one's gender is sad, surreal and even amazing.  Suddenly some of my friends no longer wanted to relate to me, talk to me, or even acknowledge that I was in their life anymore.  All, simply because I now appear more male.  This poem is to all those who vanished from my life… Continue reading Poem: Where did you all go? Was it all because of a penis?

Civil Rights, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice

When you do not include the “I” in your human rights efforts, this is why it hurts me and other people born intersex:

I am not transgender.  I was born intersex.  But since I was raised the wrong gender, and had to reclaim my true gender, Guess what?   Almost everything that can happen to a gay person, lesbian, transgender person, or gender non-conforming queer person, has happened to me.    I now know I am not alone.… Continue reading When you do not include the “I” in your human rights efforts, this is why it hurts me and other people born intersex:

Human Rights Violations, Poems, Prejudice, Short Messages

Another Intersex Poem: It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend.

    It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend. What will your friends say, when they find out, that I was born in-between, or was once called a beautiful woman with a "disorder of sexual development",  or a "syndrome"? * I now appear a queer gay man, I won't even conform to… Continue reading Another Intersex Poem: It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend.