Hate Crimes, Intersex Erasure, Intersex Phobia, Memories, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships, Transgender, Transphobia

Poem: You couldn’t protect me, they erased me

To my mother: When I was born I became a thorn in your pocket You wanted me to be Anthony I disappointed you You raised me as Antoinette My picture not even in your locket You couldn't protect me, they erased me To my living sister: When I grew up You called me Toni with… Continue reading Poem: You couldn’t protect me, they erased me

Intersex Awareness, Intersex Phobia, Prejudice, Relationships, Short Messages

PTSD and being an Intersex Survivor during the Holidays

I have a few friends, like myself, who have horrible PTSD, and who were violated in various ways and also assigned the wrong gender. The cost: their genitals, fertility, not knowing what they would have naturally looked like, losing friends, losing family, losing their jobs; every aspect of their lives touched and sometimes destroyed by… Continue reading PTSD and being an Intersex Survivor during the Holidays

Intersex People, Poems, Prejudice, Questions and Answers, Transgender

Poem: Over 50% would have died.

Over 50% would have died. I just survived what most would not have. No I do not like this world. It is a cruel and cold place for intersex people and transgender people. Most would not have switched their gender to save their lives. I can't respect that. I just survived what most wouldn't have.… Continue reading Poem: Over 50% would have died.

Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Poems, Relationships

Poem: Where did you all go? Was it all because of a penis?

The power of changing one's gender is sad, surreal and even amazing.  Suddenly some of my friends no longer wanted to relate to me, talk to me, or even acknowledge that I was in their life anymore.  All, simply because I now appear more male.  This poem is to all those who vanished from my life… Continue reading Poem: Where did you all go? Was it all because of a penis?

Civil Rights, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice

When you do not include the “I” in your human rights efforts, this is why it hurts me and other people born intersex:

I am not transgender.  I was born intersex.  But since I was raised the wrong gender, and had to reclaim my true gender, Guess what?   Almost everything that can happen to a gay person, lesbian, transgender person, or gender non-conforming queer person, has happened to me.    I now know I am not alone.… Continue reading When you do not include the “I” in your human rights efforts, this is why it hurts me and other people born intersex:

Human Rights Violations, Poems, Prejudice, Short Messages

Another Intersex Poem: It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend.

    It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend. What will your friends say, when they find out, that I was born in-between, or was once called a beautiful woman with a "disorder of sexual development",  or a "syndrome"? * I now appear a queer gay man, I won't even conform to… Continue reading Another Intersex Poem: It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend.

Celebrations, Emancipation, Freedom, Human Rights, Self-Determination

A fun blog: Limahl, Adam Ant, Chris Kattan, Pete Burns, and me!

As a teen "girl", in the 80's all the short rock stars and movie stars haunted me and intrigued me at the same time.  Limahl was one of them.  He was in the group, Kajagoogoo, as well as being a musician on his own.  He haunted me because I was not allowed to be a… Continue reading A fun blog: Limahl, Adam Ant, Chris Kattan, Pete Burns, and me!

Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice, Self-Determination, Transgender

The Surgical Assignment of Gender and the Public Bathroom Problem in America

I would like to bring to attention, that to change one's gender, if assigned wrong by the authorities at birth,  in some states in America a person has no choice but to have genital surgery to match the typical genitals for the male and female binary. To find out the laws in each state that… Continue reading The Surgical Assignment of Gender and the Public Bathroom Problem in America

Emancipation, Poems, Relationships

Poem: Why did you want me to die?

Why did you want me to die? The last I heard you were "Devastated" that I saved my life. "Devastated" that you now have a brother "Devastated" that I did not die a broken and A very sick intersex woman Why did you want me to die? Did I ruin your plans for my funeral?… Continue reading Poem: Why did you want me to die?

Celebrations, Civil Rights, Emancipation, Freedom, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Activist, Self-Determination

Poem: I Will Sing My Song

I Will Sing My Song How could you see my angel wings, you were blind, you could not sing. I was locked in a Cage. How could you see that I was special, they had lied to you, they told you I was all wrong and you believed them. You locked me up, and let… Continue reading Poem: I Will Sing My Song