Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Poems, Self-Determination

Poem: Them | By Sara Kaplan

They look in the mirror and it is not right. They strive for perfection, and what’s reflected back doesn’t work for them. They aren’t comfortable being bound by boxes and binaries. They are themselves although that’s an intimidating place to be. They hold their ground and position with a ferocious stubbornness. Proven first, with their… Continue reading Poem: Them | By Sara Kaplan

Bathrooms, Human Rights, Intersex People, Prejudice, Short Messages

A common question I am asked: How do you go to the bathroom?

  I am asked often: How do you go to the bathroom? My joking answer and to the point: I find a bathroom, go into the bathroom, if it is a stall, I shut and lock the stall door, sit down and do my business like you do. My more serious answer:  1) I first… Continue reading A common question I am asked: How do you go to the bathroom?

Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Intersex Traits, Jim Costich, The Man with the Hidden Playground

Intersex is Not a Gender Identity By Jim Costich

By Jim Costich  September 22, 2019 It is not appropriate to use the term “intersex” to describe a gender identity.  Intersex refers to a person’s sexual anatomy, hormones or chromosomes.  The most important thing to remember about the definition of the term is that it describes a person’s body, not their identity.  The United Nations’ Intersex… Continue reading Intersex is Not a Gender Identity By Jim Costich

Intersex Activist, Short Messages

My idea: How medical forms could respect everyone.

Here is a sample that might work in respecting everyone when filling out forms for hospitals, doctors, mental health, or councilors. This would be a huge relief to me if I showed up at an emergency room and was given this instead of some conflated two options "male" or "female" that would not be accurate:… Continue reading My idea: How medical forms could respect everyone.

Homophobia, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Phobia, My Intersex Story, Transphobia

What It’s Like: A WJCT Podcast with Anunnaki and his husband James

Episode Info:  Anunnaki, who was born intersex, was raised as a female, the gender his parents chose. Annunaki and James’ marriage survived Anunnaki’s transition to living as a man — how he identifies — and James’ adjustment to life as a gay man. Click here to listen:   What It's Like WJCT Podcast: Anunnaki and… Continue reading What It’s Like: A WJCT Podcast with Anunnaki and his husband James

Bridge Building, Poems

Poem: I’m Not By Alex Rae

I'm Not  You ask me who I am Who I like How I feel You say I can tell you anything That all I have to do is be honest So I am I like everyone Just...not like that. 'Oh, that's not okay' 'Everyone likes someone like that,' you say 'But you're engaged,' you say… Continue reading Poem: I’m Not By Alex Rae

Gender Nonconforming, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Self-Determination, Short Messages

Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

How the government and I define my existence:  My Biological Sex: Intersex My Legal Sex: Intersex. As proven with medical documentation after going to Florida Court to prove I was born intersex, and now as documented accurately on my Colorado Birth Certificate: Intersex. At this time, my driver’s license and social security both legally say… Continue reading Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

Bridge Building, Cultural Dysphoria, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Intersex Phobia, Prejudice, Self-Determination, Transphobia, United Nations

Cultural Dysphoria: Stop conflating anatomical sex with gender identity.

  My thoughts today and the way I see it. (Revised July 23rd, 2019) I feel that one of the biggest problems society has right now, with the confusion of sex and gender, is that most people conflate anatomical sex with gender identity.   After the medical invention of sex in the late 1800s, anyone… Continue reading Cultural Dysphoria: Stop conflating anatomical sex with gender identity.

Cultural Dysphoria, Intersex Erasure, Self-Determination, United Nations

Always up against the wall: Could I go get my Masters in a gender binary world?

I am seriously investigating a Florida University here and talking to professors to see if Earth's gender binary belief, that is not mine, is going to keep me from being successful if I go back to school to get my Masters. A Masters that I want to get that would possibly enable me on my… Continue reading Always up against the wall: Could I go get my Masters in a gender binary world?

Civil Rights, Cultural Dysphoria, Culture Dysphoria, Gender Nonconforming, Genital Integrity, Hope, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Prejudice, Self-Determination, Short Messages, Transgender

A Woman’s Penis & A Man’s Vagina

My own personal genital nonconformity, for me, brings a whole new meaning to being a gender nonconformist.  The way I see my vagina is a boy's vagina if it belongs to me, and I am legally a man now.  If a beautiful woman happens to have a penis, it is her penis.  Calling her penis… Continue reading A Woman’s Penis & A Man’s Vagina