Bridge Building, Celebrations, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, PFLAG, Relationships

PFLAG Rockford Chapter is the 2nd to become INTERSEX Inclusive.

I am excited to announce, and celebrate that  PFLAG Rockford Illinois is the second PFLAG Chapter to responsibly include intersex.   My chapter, PFLAG of Jacksonville is the first.  This happening after they made me their Director of Gender/INTERSEX Education.  It is my goal now to help other PFLAG chapters add the “I” responsibly.

While traveling to the PFLAG’s National conference in Portland, this October 2017, I met Phyllis Gallisath the Founder and President of PFLAG Rockford Chapter.   It was one of those serendipitous moments, where we discovered ourselves sitting on the plane together during my connection in Chicago.  We introduced ourselves and quickly learned that we were both headed to the same conference!  This was the beginning of a new and amazing relationship and some very long educational discussions around intersex.

During that time Phyllis opened her heart and her mind while learning the differences between LGBTQ and the special needs of us intersex people.  While also seeing that a good number of us intersex people and parents of intersex kids, are without inclusive community and supports due also identifying as LGBTQ+.

I gave my presentation at the National Conference, as a workshop, and during it, I talk about adding the “I” responsibility to LGBTQ+.   It is very important to me that the “I” is added with full responsibility and not carelessly.  My job going to PFLAG’s National conference was in honor of all us intersex people and the parents of intersex kids.  I am very excited to be doing this work!   This would not be happening without my friends and supporters from Jacksonville PFLAG Chapter, so a huge thank you to them too!

Thank you, Phylis, for making your PFLAG Chapter the second!

 

 

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Founder & President of Rockford PFLAG Chapter: Phyllis Gallisath with me at the airport traveling to the National PFLAG Conference in Oregon, 2017.

 

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PFLAG Rockford Chapter
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PFLAG Rockford Chapter

You can “like” their facebook page:  PFLAG Rockford Chapter

Here is their website: PFLAG Rockford Chapter


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My related Blogs Regarding Intersex Inclusion: 

Intersex Inclusive PFLAG Chapters

Why I feel INTERSEX should be added to the LGBTQ rainbow

Making History! PFLAG of Jacksonville, Florida, includes INTERSEX.

Adding the “I” responsibly to LGBT

If you would like to add the “I” with responsibility, I would love to show you how, and look forward to hearing from you too:

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Bridge Building, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Relationships

Why I feel INTERSEX should be added to the LGBTQ rainbow

I feel it is now time to create more allies, create more supportive organizations, and give a way for organizations that want to become intersex inclusive direction on how they can help us end these atrocities that intersex people face.  These human rights violations are in regards to aborting healthy intersex fetuses, and ending non-consenting cosmetic corrective surgeries that are not medically necessary that are being done to intersex infants and children.  Surgeries that often fail miserably, create genitals with poor sexual sensitivity.  Surgeries that often assign us the wrong gender, are not reversible, take away our fertility, and sadly lead to repeat surgeries.  All of this leading to psychological and physical trauma throughout our lives.

Many organizations such as PFLAG are now showing they are welcoming to intersex, and many PFLAG chapters are wanting to become more inclusive to intersex.  However, adding the “I” needs to be done with great care and I personally can be contacted to make sure that this is done responsibly.

Here is my e-mail: anunnakiray@outlook.com and a page dedicated just to PFLAG chapters who are ready to become intersex inclusive: Intersex Inclusive PFLAG Chapters.

Below I will talk about the reason to add the “I” to the acronyms LGBTQ+.  Below I show why I am for this inclusion of intersex:

Reasons to add the “I”:

  1. Hida Viloria, the Executive Director of Oii-USA and Intersex Campaign for Equality shares how intersex people often identify, and how some of us will appear simply either male or female or queer:   How Intersex People Identify.  Co-authored with Dana Zzyyn.
  2. Statistics show that over 50% of us intersex people identify with a sexual orientation that appears gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, pansexual, asexual and more.  Statistics from: Demographics from Oii-Australia
  3. Statistics also show that an intersex person can have any gender identity.   Some intersex people are cis-gender (agree with birth assignment) and conform to either male or female.  Some of us are simply queer, intergender, non-binary or gender nonconforming.  There are also few of us who identify as transgender and intersex both. Statistics from: Demographics from Oii-Australia
  4. Cary Costello Ph.D. talks about how some of us who are intersex sometimes appear as transgender or identify and call ourselves transgender:   Cis Gender, Trans Gender, and Intersex  Cary also shares how homophobia is often behind genetic experts suggesting to terminate and abort healthy intersex fetuses:  On Eugenic Abortion of the Intersex.  An LGBTQ organization is going to have the sensitivity to deal with transphobia and homophobia.
  5. When a person, like myself, realizes that they are intersex instead of a disorder and that their biological sex is intersex, finding a safe space among other sexual minorities is important.  I know it was for my family, especially if we may also appear LGBTQ+.
  6. For me being a part of the LGBTQ+ groups showed me it was ok to be a sexual minority.  It allowed me to feel ok with my appearing gay and transgender.  Thus helping my self-determination and not having shame.  I feel it could give this gift to other intersex people who may also naturally appear LGBTQ+
  7. If an organization takes the time to educate themselves about intersex, it could create more safe spaces for us LGBTQ+ intersex people.  Especially those of us who also identify as transgender, non-binary, nonconforming, or queer.   I see how this happened when the “T” was added to LGB.  Although some trans appear heterosexual, some also now appear lesbian, gay or queer, just like some of us intersex people and this inclusion was very helpful to the transgender community.

Reasons to not add the “I”:

  1. The fear of intersex being mixed up as a gender identity or a sexual orientation problem.
  2. Some intersex people consider themselves a disorder of sex development still, and are happy with their intersex diagnosis and don’t feel their diagnosis has anything to do with being  LGBTQ+ or being a sexual minority.
  3. The way I see it, it could simply be a case of  Homophobia, Transphobia, Queerphobia, Intersex phobia that keeps people from wanting to add the “I”.
  4. Some intersex people are cis-gender (agree with their birth assignment) and also appear heterosexual.  They don’t have any reason to need to be affiliated with LGBTQ+, pride parades or any of it.

My solution to those who don’t want the “I” added:

To alleviate confusion, it is important to educate that intersex is about biological sex and biology, and that the biggest problems we face are the forced assignment of gender, surgically, or hormonally.  Intersex advocates, activists, and educators are trying to end our being aborted when detected in-utero and the non-consenting surgeries on infants and children.   When adding the “I” to your organization it is my hope that you will also make it a part of your effort to make this a safer world for those of us born intersex.  Last, it should be always educated that some intersex people do not appear LGBTQ+, nor need to.

Further, for those intersex people who do not even feel they are intersex, that is their right to not declare it and to embrace their diagnosis or conditions as not intersex.  However, just because they don’t feel they have a variation of intersex, nor want LGBTQI+ support, doesn’t mean that over half of the intersex community won’t benefit from it.  Which again, is a person’s right to self-determination and should always be respected.

With all this said: 

I personally feel that it is time to include the “I”, but only if it is done with great responsibility and education about ending non-consensual genital corrective surgeries on intersex infants and children.  While also guiding people to the correct organizations to support genital integrity.  Here is a list that is always necessary to make sure intersex people get the right supports and are not mixed up with transgender:

Important Organizations to Include on your website if you add Intersex to LGBTQ+:

Below are links that will ensure that parents in the USA, Australia, and other countries, are guided to informed and safe people that will reinforce the self-determination of gender,  and that “No Body is Shameful”, and can support  genital integrity:

Two PDF files you can print and distribute:

1) United Nations INTERSEX Factsheet from United Nations

2) Brief Guidelines for Intersex Allies

Links you should add to your organization’s website: 

1) Intersex Campaign for Equality  AKA Organization Intersex International, USA: Oii-USA.org  

2) Organization Intersex International: Oii-Australia

3) Organization Intersex International Network (World Wide list)

4) Intersex Support for Parents (Closed FB Group)

5) Houston Intersex Society

6) InterACT Advocates for Intersex Youth: interactadvocates.org

7) StopIGM.org (Ending intersex genital mutilation) 

8) Mx. Anunnaki Ray Gender/INTERSEX Activist, Educator, Writer and Speaker



References:  Important articles and data that shows me it is time to include intersex to LGBTQ:  

  1. The Forgotten Vowel: How Intersex Liberation Benefits the Entire LGBTQIA Community By Hida Viloria
  2. How Intersex People Identify By Hida Viloria and Dana Zzyym
  3. Cis Gender, Transgender, and Intersex By Cary Costello Ph.D.
  4. On Eugenic Abortion of the Intersex By Cary G. Costello Ph.D.
  5. THEIR TIME After generations in the shadows, the intersex rights movement has a message for the world: We aren’t disordered and we aren’t ashamed
  6. Demographics of intersex people in Australia borrowed from Oii-Australia:

Quote:  An independent 2015 survey of 272 people born with atypical sex characteristics has provided us with good statistical information for the first time. The survey was led by Dr. Tiffany Jones of the University of New England, and it was published in February 2016. It shows very diverse understandings of intersex bodies, sexes, and genders.

Graphics below borrowed from Demographics from Oii-Australia:

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Assuming that human sexual behavior is similar to Australia globally, as you can now see, the evidence from Oii-Australia shows the need.  Thus helping all infants and children be taught that they are ok being born into the bodies they are born into, regardless of how their sexual orientation, gender identity, or actual biological sex is recognized by this world when they become adults.  Adults who may or may not even need marriage equality, if we grow up to appear gay or lesbian.  Here is a personal blog that shares about how my family needs intersex inclusion: Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.

Regardless of how us intersex people appear to this world when we grow up, the self-determination of gender and our genital integrity is our human right.

Here are Helpful LGBTQIA+ Definitions that help to explain Human Sexuality. 

If you would like guidance on adding the “I” responsibly to your organizations’ acronyms please contact me: 

 

 

 


Important blogs I have written that support adding the “I” to LGBTQ+: 

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The Alphabet of HUMAN SEXUALITY: A through Z

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The Alphabet of  HUMAN SEXUALITY:  

A through Z 

This A through Z list includes a mixture of ways to describe, Biological Sex, Gender Identity, Gender Expression, Sexual Orientation, Romantic Orientation, Affectionate Orientation, Kink, Fetish Culture, a few miscellaneous labels, and some labels that are socially taboo!  

 

A

Asexual     Agender    Ally    Androgynosexual     Androsexual     Autosexual    Aromantic     Androgynous    Androgyny

B

Bi-sexual    Bi-Gender    Beastiality  Butch Lesbian  Bear   

Bi-romantic  BDSM Pride

C

Cis-gender    Ceterosexual    Ceteromantic    Cross Dresser

D

Dyadic    Demifluid    Demigender   Demiguy   Demigirl  

 Demisexual    Demiromantic   Drag Queen    Drag King

E

Endosex    Erotic Fetishism   Erotopathic

F

Fat Fetish Pride  Femme

G

Gay    Gender Fluid    Gender Queer   Gender Conforming  

Gender Non-conforming   Greyromantic

H

Homosexual   Heterosexual  Heteroromantic  Homoromantic  

Hermaphrodite

I

Intersex    Intergender   Intersexual

J

Jazbo     Jerk Jamby     Johnnie

K

Kink Culture   Kleptolagnia

L

Lesbian     Lipstick Lesbian    Leather Fetish Pride

M

Multi-gender    Metrosexual   Masculine   Master-Slave Fetish Pride

N

Neuter   Neutrois    Non-romantic   Non-conforming Gender  

Non-Binary Gender

O

Oragenitalism   Objectum Sexuals  Objectophilia Object Sexuality  

Ownership  Fetish Pride

P

Pangender    Pansexual    Polymory    Pomosexual    Polysexual   

Promiscuous    Prostitute   Panromantic   Puppy Pride

Q

Queer    Questioning    Queen

R

Rubber Fetish Pride

S

Sex    Sapiosexual   Self Erotica   Sexual Fetishism    

Straight Ally

T

Transgender    Transmasculine   Transexual   Tri-gender  

Two-spirted   Twink

U

Undinism   Urophilia  Unattached   UFO’s  

V

Virgen    Vampirism   Vestiphile

W

Wacker    Wackomantic    Wagtail

X

Xenophile  X-Dresser

Y

Yanking   Yentz   Yodeler

Z

Zoomania  Zoophilia

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By Mx. Anunnaki Ray 

August 24, 2017

A note to reader:

I list everything, no matter how taboo, but did not include many that are out right offensive.  Also, ‘Hermaphrodite’ should never be used unless given permission by the person who is intersex; It is considered stigmatizing to some intersex people, so take care.  Last, I add “ally” and “straight ally”, because sometimes when our allies love us marginalized sexual minorities they become accomplices and often receive hate and prejudice too. 

References: 

  1. Helpful LGBTQIA+ Definitions and Human Sexuality (With Flags and Symbols)
  2. Sex-lexis.com   
  3. Gender Wiki 

 

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Hate Crimes, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Prejudice, Short Messages, Transgender, United Nations

Dear Ally, It is your responsibility to keep us safe, and here is how.

Gender Etiquette 101 Misgendering

This meme was not created so much for me, since I am OUT publicly. I created it mostly for those who deserve to live stealth lives and not be outed. They did not ask for it like i did, and to be “OUT” is not always safe.
Now that I am a public figure, and like many intersex or transgender activist, or advocates, I have shared with the world in order to change this world! I have shared things about myself that most could never imagine sharing about themselves.
Please, if you know me, it is your responsibility to make sure I remain safe. Since my story is out there, don’t gossip about me! Instead, Educate, educate, educate! It is only by changing culture that we make this world safe for all the babies born intersex or transgender.   I strongly suggest you use resources from  United Nations’ Free & Equal Campaign  to accurately advocate for your LGBTQIA+ friends.  The United Nations’ offers many sheets you can print and hand out.

Last, and most important, there are countless others, who are not “OUT”,  and should not have their lives destroyed by rumors, gossip, or people sharing about who they are without their permission.   They are not activist, or advocates, and they deserve their privacy and safety.  So if you are privileged to know an intersex or transgender person, please protect their right to dignity, privacy and safety.   One simple rule of thumb: Always ask the person before sharing.
Here is the intersex  and LGBT Fact sheets created by the United Nations.  These two sheets are an excellent resource to print and share around.  Here they are below in the links provided.

  1. Here is the United Nations Intersex Fact Sheet 
  2. Here is the United Nations LGBT Fact Sheet 

Here are my other Gender Etiquette 101 memes:  Anunnaki’s Gender Etiquette 101

THANK YOU, for helping us to make this a safer world, and to educate and change culture!

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Bridge Building, Celebrations, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, PFLAG

Making History! PFLAG of Jacksonville, Florida, includes INTERSEX.

Garry Bevel President, PFLAG of Jacksonville, and Frieda Saraga, Board of Directors, and Founding Board Member of PFLAG of Jacksonville, have been absolutely amazing to work with.   Both have accepted me, with open arms, and have listen with care, when I felt intersex should not be left out by the acronyms LGBT or LGBTQ.   They have not only listened with care, they have acted on it.

On January 19th, PFLAG of Jacksonville, made it possible for me to educate our city by giving  a presentation about the importance of intersex inclusion, and how to do that responsibly.

After that talk, they clearly could now see the need  in this city for the parents of intersex children, as well as us intersex adults, needing more support here.  So, today I have agreed to serve as PFLAG of Jacksonville’s  Director of Intersex and Gender Education!  

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Left to right:  Mx. Anunnaki Ray, Garry Bevel, President PFLAG of Jacksonville,  and Frieda Saraga, Board of Directors, and Founding Board Member.  The Yellow and Purple flag is the Intersex  Flag, that was created in Australia, that I have chosen to promote here in the USA too.  Please “like” on Facebook:  PFLAG of Jacksonville

 


You can read more about my position here: 

Mx. Anunnaki Ray, Director of Intersex and Gender Education for PFLAG of Jacksonville

Position Description and Purpose:   About those who are born intersex and the common language used in speaking about intersex lives. Raise awareness about intersex human rights and how those rights are often violated. Offer outreach and support for the parents of intersex babies, or children, in Jacksonville, and guide them to the appropriate organizations that will reinforce Self-Determination of gender of their intersex child.  This is to avoid misinformed, unnecessary, and non-consensual medical intervention, saving physical and emotional lives.

My Goal and Objectives:  Educate PFLAG about the importance of intersex inclusion, and how to include intersex responsibly; while including the understanding of the prevalence of intersex, and erasure of intersex experiences. Distinguish intersex (natural bodily variations, from typical male and female dyadic biological sex), sexual orientation, gender, gender identity and gender expression.  Provide workshops and training to PFLAG of Jacksonville and their local agencies.

Strategies and Evidence-Based Support:

  1. United Nations Intersex Fact Sheet: https://www.unfe.org/system/unfe-65-Intersex_Factsheet_ENGLISH.pdf)  
  2. Oii USA, and Executive Director Hida Viloria:  (http://oii-usa.org)
  3. InterACT, Advocates for Intersex Youth (http://interactadvocates.org)
  4. Additional support from, Judi Herring, M.D.

Tasks initiatives:

Promote the use of common, affirming language, in regards to descriptions of gender and  sexual minorities.  This would include:  Biological sex (Dyadic Sex and Intersex), Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity, and Gender Expression.  Encourage shifts in medical and business cultural humility and intersex inclusion.


Memories of my PFLAG Presentation on January 19th, 2017:

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For this PFLAG presentation I also played two videos:  Judi Herring, M.D.’s, TEDx TALK:  Gender Bound, Lessons From the World Between, and Dr. Tiger Devore’s Interface Project Message “No Body is Shameful”.  Everyone also received an Intersex Fact Sheet, from the United Nations.  

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Here is my autobiography: About Mx. Anunnaki Ray

Book Mx. Anunnaki Ray To Come Speak

Blogs that guide in adding the “I” responsibly to LGBT: 

  1. Why I feel INTERSEX should be added to the LGBTQ rainbow
  2. Adding the “I” responsibly to LGBT
  3. The difference between transgender and intersex and the harm that wrong language can bring
  4. INTERSEX Erasure Hurts! Examples of Misguidance from Doctors.
  5. Doctors call us a disorder, defect, or syndrome, when we are born. We are simply INTERSEX.

Please “like” on Facebook:  PFLAG of Jacksonville

If you would like to responsibly add the “I”, I look forward to guiding you:

 

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Bridge Building, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Erasure, Relationships

Adding the “I” responsibly to LGBT

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A letter I shared on: Mx. Anunnaki Ray, Gender/Intersex Activist Facebook Page:

Sending a note, to simply say thank you again, for listening, and sharing this page. It is sometimes hard for people to hear about a culture different than their own, especially when daily the news can be so depressing and unimaginable.
I have actually discovered that since LGB are already marginalized, it is sometimes harder to get through to LGB people than typical people. Transgender are a lot easier, actually. I think because they are even more marginalized that LGB, and they too face drastic choices ahead of them when it comes to genital integrity and owning their true selves.
At times, I would rather give a talk to a room full of Baptists, closed minded people, than LGBT Equality workers. I don’t know if they will ever have it in their hearts, or energy to responsibility add the “I” here in my city. But until then some of us find it a blessing. Because instead of saying LGBT, those of us further outcasted and marginalized can say “LGBT and INTERSEX”. We get to say the entire word. That is pretty amazing actually! Because then questions are asked, and one can educate.
I used to think LGBTQIA+ was showing true inclusivity, and still am very proud to see that happening in some circles because it shows total inclusivity! But then I realized it could be just a careless act of adding letters, and not paying attention to the horrid atrocities we face with erasure, eugenics (abortion), and genocide (forced sterilization with non-consensual surgeries). It woke me up fast! YIKES! Please, please, do not add the “I” carelessly.
So, with all this said, since some of you are intersex allies, and messengers now, never forget to share about these atrocities, when you tell a person to add the “I”, or when you add the “I” Let this world know the horror allowed in the USA, and pretty much everywhere around this world.
This is the United Nations’ Fact Sheet, any intersex ally should study this at least once. Notice how they say “natural bodily variation”, for one, instead of “disorder”, “condition” or “syndrome”. Notice also that they validate the torture happening, with intersex genital mutilation (IGM), and ask this world to STOP. In changing speech we change culture and save bodies and lives.: The United Nations: Intersex Fact Sheet/Free & Equal
Again I thank you all,
Mx. Anunnaki Ray
www.anunnakiray.com
#StopIGM #UnitedNations #NaturalBodilyVariations #WeAreHuman #WeArePeople #HumanRights

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Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Gender, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice, Self-Determination, Transgender, United Nations

My thoughts about the Third Gender Box, Gender Neutral or Gender X


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I was born with intersex variations, here is my autobiography.   My body does not comply with the rules that would put me into either the biological male box or the biological female box. So at my birth, and during my life, and up until the emancipation of my true gender, I was forced, mostly by social expectations, to conform to the female box when that was not my true gender.

As you know, at our birth they can mark either the Male box, Female box.  For many of us, our true biological sex cannot be marked on most forms.  Some believe we need a third box, gender-neutral, or gender X box,  for those of us born intersex, gender variant, non-conforming gender, non-binary gender, or transgender.

When I started to think about this option of a third gender box, I realize that it is not as simple as adding a third box or gender X option on our birth certificates.   In reality, there are some really good reasons to do this for consenting adults, and some possible really bad consequences to doing this with infants and children.   Below I write about the Pros and Cons, the way I see it, and a rather radical solution is given at the end of this blog.

Before I go into the option of a third gender box though, and how I feel about this, I need to first educate you about what intersex means, since few understand about us.  The below was taken from the United Nations’s Fact Sheet on Intersex:

What does ‘intersex’ mean?

Intersex people are born with sex characteristics (including genitals, gonads and chromosome patterns) that do not fit typical binary notions of male or female bodies.

Intersex is an umbrella term used to describe a wide range of natural bodily variations. In some cases, intersex traits are visible at birth while in others, they are not apparent until puberty. Some chromosomal intersex variations may not be physically apparent at all.

According to experts, between 0.05% and 1.7% of the population is born with intersex traits – the upper estimate is similar to the number of red-haired people.

Being intersex relates to biological sex characteristics, and is distinct from a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity. An intersex person may be straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual or asexual, and may identify as female, male, both or neither.

Because their bodies are seen as different, intersex children and adults are often stigmatized and subjected to multiple human rights violations, including violations of their rights to health and physical integrity, to be free from torture and ill-treatment, and to equality and non- discrimination.

To read more from the United Nations please go HERE



Now that you understand what it means to be born intersex I will share my thoughts.

Seven Possible Negative Consequences  if our Government offers  third gender, gender X,  gender neutral, option:

  1. Some intersex people are happy with their birth assignment being either male or female, and would not want it any other way.  Simply due to one thing, prejudice.  If they had been thrown into a third box at birth, they would then be obvious intersex sexual minorities.
  2. If intersex infants were marked the third gender box at birth or the gender X box, we would not be able to live stealth later in life (not known to the public).  Anywhere where we have to prove our gender or show our birth certificate, everyone would instantly know we are an intersex sexual minority. The consequences in a society that has much prejudice around this could be dreadful, especially in a world that offers few laws to protect LGBTQIA+ people.
  3. If assigned at birth the third box or gender X, once again the self-determination of gender taken away. It is no different than experts deciding for us, male or female.
  4. If an intersex infant is put into the third box at birth, it could be more of a stigma for the parents of the intersex child, that could lead to the very surgeries many of us intersex advocates and activists are trying to stop.  Surgeries that could be justified in order to get their child out of this third box.  Once again, taking away the self-determination of gender for the child.  Note:  I have spoken to other intersex advocates and activist, in countries that provide a third box or gender X box. They have all voiced concern around cosmetic genital surgeries showing an increase.  Note: Surgeries that can take away sensation, fertility, and sexual pleasure later in life. Not to mention, that the wrong gender may be assigned.
  5. Right now, if they detect some forms of intersex in-utero, through testing, a genetic specialist can suggest aborting that intersex fetus.  Even though the United Nations states that we born with human bodily variations, most doctors still call us a “disorder”, “syndrome” and “condition”.   If parents had to worry about their child being an obvious minority with a third gender box or Gender X box, this might increase the eugenics and genocide of intersex humans through abortion.
  6. It also seems that a third gender box continues this patriarchal and misogynist views of the world. Where even typical females are seen as the “weaker sex”.  A third box, or “gender X”  person would definitely be faced with similar prejudice, if not worse!  A third box could simply continue cultural dysphoria around intersex bodies unless our society was able to accept human bodily variations better.
  7. Last, the suicide rate is already high for all sexual minorities, it could go higher if we were marginalized and prejudiced against even more with a third box, or gender X box.  Especially if we do not want this option.

My thoughts about how this could effectTransgender People:

  1. If transgender people were forced to mark the third gender box or gender X box, this would take away their right to self-determination of gender.  Some transgender are simply either male or female. Just because they were assigned wrong at birth should not take away their validity as a person who might identify binary male or female.
  2. However, some transgender people identify as gender non-conforming, non-binary, gender queer,  both male or female, or neither.  So as adults, having this option of third gender, gender neutral, or gender X, could be very validating and confirming of their existence and greatly welcomed.

Two Possible Solutions that could work for everyone:

  1.  I feel it is a Human and Civil Rights solution to Give all people, of adult consenting age, the choice to pick a third box, or gender X option.  After all, at eighteen a person can legally change their gender to the opposite of their birth assignment if they are transgender.  This also is allowed to happen when us intersex people are assigned the wrong gender at birth.  It only stands to reason a person should be granted a third gender option or gender X if they feel they are both male or female, or neither.
  2. Here is a radical solution: Get rid of all gender assignment at birth and offer the self-determination of gender for every human being on the planet.  Along with a few out here, I believe that at our birth no one should be assigned gender.  Yes, this is a radical solution to some.   However, when one believes that the self-determination of gender is a human right, it stands to reason that this should become an obvious solution.

In closing, I  realize that the second solution is rather a radical one.  However, I believe that the self-determination of gender is a human right.  No matter what genitals we are born with I believe this to be true.  I believe that our genital integrity is a human right too,  and those cosmetic surgeries should stop in infants and children.  I also believe that transgender children should never be told that they are in the wrong body nor made to believe that they need genital surgery to conform.  

I will never feel that our reproductive system, genitals, hormones, and chromosomes determine our gender, and simply never will.  

So, I end this blog with a question to you:  Is time to Get rid of all the gender boxes? 



About my collaboration with Judi Herring, M.D., who believes it is time to “(un)know gender”:

I’m a Gender/Intersex Activist, who works collaboratively with Judi Herring, MD. Our collaboration grew organically through a series of interactions, among which, Dr. Herring’s 2014 TEDx Jacksonville talk, Gender Bound: Lessons from the world between, was key.  I have included the link to that, fourteen minute, TEDx below for your viewing.

In the talk, Dr. Herring delivered a message, which resonates with me, “It is time to (un)know gender.”:

“There is no question. The time is now.”

Judi Herring, M.D.

“It is time to stop cutting the genitals of infants and children just so that we can bind them into M-F boxes.

It is time to stop cutting the freedom of people, by applying labels, nonsense words – homosexual, bisexual, intersex, intersexual, transsexual, transgender – groin-focused words that bind us into in-groups and out-groups, entrenched in a state of perpetual dispute; destructive words that keep us bound, all of humanity bound in the realm of UVT – Us versus Them.

It is time that we unbind ourselves from thousands of years of certainties that place our reproductive parts, our reproductive potential at the center of who we are and how we relate.

It is time to raise our gaze from between the legs, so we can see. So we can see that it is our mind that is at the center of who we are and how we relate.

In my journey from one cell to sentience, through some magic of biology, through the wonders and the miracles of nature, my mind was embodied. I stand before you the embodiment of a mind. You are the embodiment of a mind. We are embodied minds, not bodies that happen to have minds attached to them so we can function and move and reproduce.

It is time to transcend our physical boundaries, to come together across these physical differences that divide us.

It’s time to unknow gender.”



If you would like to read more about this topic see the below links.

California the first to offer Gender Neutral as an option for Birth certificates: California 1st to Allow Gender-Neutral Birth Certificate

A Groundbreaking, Legal Case, in fighting for Third Gender in the USA: 

  1. Here is an article about Dana Zzynn, a person born intersex, who identifies as third gender.  Quote:   “A federal judge in Denver ordered the U.S. Department of State to reconsider its denial of a passport to a Navy veteran from Colorado who identifies as neither male or female, court documents showed on Tuesday.”  Judge Orders US to Reconsider Denying Passport to Intersex Veteran; NOV 23 2016.  And Lambda legal In Court Case: Zzyym v. Kerry

New York City Issues Nation’s First Intersex Birth Certificate:  

  1. ‘The protocol of the day was to lie’: NYC issues first US ‘intersex’ birth certificate
  2. Nation’s First Known Intersex Birth Certificate Issued in NYC

The nations second to have an Intersex Birth Certificate:  Hida Viloria: “I have an intersex birth certificate!”.

 

Articles are written by Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.; Tiger Devore, Ph.D., and Morgan Carpenter:

  1. The Problematic Ideology of Natural Sex By Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.
  2. Cis Gender, Transgender, and Intersex. By Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.
  3. Five Myths that Hurt Intersex People By Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.
  4. Cis Gender, Ipso Gender By Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.
  5. The Inbetween Sex / An interview with intersexual Tiger Devore, Ph.D.
  6. Male or female? Babies born on the sliding sex scale; With Tiger Devore, Ph.D. – BBC News
  7. Miraculous Thinking By Morgan Carpenter

My related Blogs: 

  1. Five ways I show that the Male/Female Binary is a Myth, and a Social Construct. Nature has always Created Sexual Variety and Diversity.
  2. Two diagnoses that bring in the cash $$ for surgeons, psychiatrist, and therapist: Disorders of Sex Development, and Gender Dysphoria
  3. INTERSEX Erasure Hurts! Examples of Misguidance from Doctors.
  4. Why I don’t like saying “non-binary gender” anymore.
  5. A Male/Female Mosaic Brain Proves We Need the Self-Determination of Gender
  6. I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.
  7. Seven Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphalus, and Clitoromegaly.

 

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