Intersex Phobia · Transphobia

Examples of Transphobia and Intersexphobia



The following are a few examples of transphobic attitudes:

  1. The belief/insistence that trans women are not “real women”
  2. The belief/insistence that trans men are not “real men”.
  3. The belief/insistence that non-binary genders are invalid and do not exist.
  4. The belief/insistence that transsexual people are gay people in denial and wish to have sex reassignment surgery to attempt to restore ‘heteronormativity’.
  5. The refusal to acknowledge a trans person’s true gender.
  6. The refusal to use the correct name for a trans person.
  7. Repeated and deliberate misgendering of trans people.
  8. The Exclusion of trans people from activities, services, or conversations.
  9. The belief that being transgender means you are mentally ill.
  10. The belief that conversion therapy and psychiatric manipulations, can some how “cure” a transgender person.
  11. The belief that transgender means you are a sexual deviant or a pervert.
  12. Thinking that forcing a transgender person to use the bathroom of their birth assigned gender will “protect” women and children, even if in reality it is actually increasing the chance of violence inflicted on the transgender person.
  13. The belief that a transgender person is an abomination or a sinner.
  14. Insisting that a transgender person must be confused about their own gender.
  15. The belief that we have to be segregated and not allowed in sports or gym class as our transitioned gender.
  16. The belief that we are some how a danger in locker rooms.
  17. Not being able to participate in sports as our authentic transitioned gender, due to a perceived advantage, only due to our birth assignment not matching our true gender identity.  This happening even after complete hormonal transition.


The following are a few examples of intersex phobic attitudes:

  1. Having problems with the word “intersex” because it has the word “sex” in it.
  2. The belief/insistence that intersex bodies are a disorder, syndrome, birth defect, or a condition, even when told that intersex is about having natural bodily variations.
  3. The belief/insistence of the medical community to continue their medicalized effort to eradicate intersex people from society by “normalizing” intersex bodies into more typically male or female bodies in order to maintain sex and gender norms.
  4. The belief/insistence that we are not lovable unless our bodies are hormonally or surgically fixed to conform to male and female sex and gender “norms”.  Which leads to violent discrimination, acted out through non-consensual genital surgeries on children.
  5. The belief/insistence that a person of the female gender can not have a larger clitoris, phalloclitoris, penis or testicles.
  6. The belief/insistence that a person of the male gender can not have a vagina, vulva, or ovaries.
  7. The belief/insistence that XY creates a male and XX creates a female.  When intersex XY women exist, and intersex XX men exist.
  8. The belief/insistence that intersex bodies do not exist and we are mythological.
  9. The belief/insistence that all intersex people are freaks, sexual deviants, perverts or pedophiles.
  10. The belief/insistence that intersex people are trying to trick or deceive you when referring to their true gender identity.
  11. The belief/insistence that gender is created by our genitals, reproductive system, hormones, and chromosomes when gender is more like our personality and can not be accurately medically determined through medical tests or lab work.
  12. The belief/insistence that if we are assigned the wrong gender, then we would have to be considered transgender if we emancipate our true gender later in life.  (This I feel is up to the person, and not to doctors, family or society).
  13. Intersex Erasure in the mainstream and alternative media.
  14. Intersex Erasure among the LGBT groups, in not wanting inclusion.
  15. Regulations against intersex female athletes (with high levels of natural testosterone) which require them to undergo medically unnecessary, “feminizing”, medical treatments such as hormone therapy, in order to compete as women.
  16. Feeling that intersex female athletes, who have higher natural testosterone,  are some how breaking the rules, and are in need of punishment or treated as criminals.
  17. The belief that we are born a sexual abomination, while at the same time sexualizing intersex infants due to homophobia and transphobia.
  18. The assumption that if you are intersex that you must be gay.
  19. The assumption that all intersex people are unhealthy and/or mentally affected.
  20. The assumption that we must truly be transgender when we are not.  Only some intersex people identify as being both transgender and intersex.  It has to be up to that intersex person to determine this not society.
  21. The belief that we are not “real” women or “real” men, due to our intersex bodies, chromosomes, or hormones.
  22. The belief that we are some how a danger to people in public bathrooms or locker rooms,  and being segregated out of gym class, or forced to use the nurse’s station’s bathroom in public schools as students.
  23. Being forced to use gender marked facilities that do not match our true gender identity, like locker rooms or bathrooms.
  24. As children having our bodies photographed without our consent, by doctors or predators, and later finding them published in medical journals, or on various websites, without our permission.

Please feel free to E-mail me if you would like me to add one.

Thank you!  







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Helpful References:

United Nations’ Intersex Fact Sheet

The Phalloclitoris: Anatomy and Ideology By Cary G. Costello

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I am an Intersex Person. I never felt like a Cisgender Person and I Relate to Some Transgender Men.


I am a person born with intersex traits, that was assumed to be female, and raised female.  A Cisgender person identifies as the gender they are assigned to at birth.  I do not, nor have I ever felt Cisgender, even when I appeared female.  All the therapy and surgery in the world could never achieve that with me, however, there are some intersex people who do identify as being Cisgender or as typical male or female people.  Each of us are so different.

I know many intersex people who were assigned the wrong gender like I was.  I have never felt 100% male or female; although I definitely identify with being male, far more than female.  I am very gender nonconforming, and would rather not say “non-binary”, due to not believing the male/female binary/two categories are accurate in describing humanity.  Please note, I do not speak for other intersex people.  I only share my experience, strength and hope.

Until I honored my true gender, that of being a Gender Nonconforming, Gender Fluid, Androgynous Male.   I also like the word “inter gender” to describe my gender.   I feel that I was forced into a binary sex category (male or female).   In America and any country that has not adopted a “Third Gender” box, it is mandatory to pick either biological male or biological female.   Because of this, some intersex are subjected to infant sex assignment surgery, to make their bodies conform to the assigned sex.  This obviously can be catastrophic in some cases.  Even with this third box, surgeries are still being performed; so that is obviously not the answer either.  Some say, that getting rid of all the boxes might be a more sound solution.  I write about that here:  Seven Reasons to Why I do NOT want a THIRD GENDER BOX, and a possible solution.

Not only are some assigned the wrong gender in some cases,  they have lost body parts, during these childhood surgeries that they may have wanted later in life.  Also, their fertility is often taken without consent.  Worse, all too often their ability to orgasm, and enjoy sex  as adults  taken forever during these childhood genital surgeries.

To the surprise of many,  not all transgender people have or want genital surgery.  It should be left up to the intersex child, just like it is left up to the transgender person to pick what surgeries, if any they have.  Gender is a social construct.  Gender is a personal thing, and how one feels internally about themselves.  Gender is not in our genitals and never will be.  I made this meme because of it:

Some of us do not want surgery


It took me until I was forty-six years old to become sick enough, and desperate enough, to finally stop the insanity of it all, and accept my true gender.  I truly feared I was going to die, or end my life.  I had attempted suicide many times before.

Death becomes a very big motivator when one has kids and a husband they love.  So I stopped all testosterone blockers, many of my medications, and many of the steroids I was taking.  Yes, it was a risk, but I saw no choice.  I was facing my certain death.  With the help of my new reproductive endocrinologist I finally received the right help.

For me to become my true gender, I have had to do many things similar to  transgender men.  I inject testosterone every week, but at a much lesser amount due to my body (my adrenals and ovaries) creating my testosterone and androgens.   I have the most in common with gender nonconforming and non-binary transgender guys; or transgender guys that had Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, or have their own intersex traits.  I appreciate all the friends I have made even.

Needless to say,  I sadly can also received the same transphobia too.  First, when I had unusually high testosterone as “female”, and was using blockers and taking female hormones.  Some used to call me nasty insults that happen to transgender females.  Since I  now inject testosterone, and have stopped doing everything female I have received transphobia and prejudice.    Some of this transphobia has even been from other intersex folks, which is terribly disheartening.   Since they should know the difference between transgender and intersex, and have compassion for my story.  People who are marginalized like I am, should know better.

More ridiculous is the phobia, (both intersex phobia, and trans phobia),  I have received from the gay or lesbian community.  Thankfully, I have had more good experiences than bad, since I go out of my way to educate and share a message about love and acceptance.  I like to educate all people because I see that it erases their phobias, and irrational fears, or prejudice.



Self-determination is obviously the key here to achieving balance and happiness with oneself.  It is my hope that self-determination of gender becomes every human beings right, and every intersex child’s right in this world.

Here is a Related Blog by Cary Gabriel Costello, Ph.D.:  Cisgender, Trans Gender and Intersex


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