Jim Costich, The Man with the Hidden Playground

……But Now I Have to Scream

A Memoir from Jim Costich, 2003           I was 44 before I found out what my body contains and what being intersex might mean as I age. I was born with ambiguous genitals in 1957 and I had no surgery.  I've been on hormones since I was a teen because I have… Continue reading ……But Now I Have to Scream

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Celebrations, Emancipation, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Self-Determination, Transgender

My Gratitude​ for Thanksgiving 2018

From a Life Event on Facebook: I survived when I truly believe that few do. Being brave, and sharing a memory from November 2014. I was having an adrenal crisis with a urinary tract infection. I suffered from disabling autonomic dysfunction back then, among other things related to mitochondrial disorder and related problems due to… Continue reading My Gratitude​ for Thanksgiving 2018

Cultural Dysphoria, Homophobia, Intersex Phobia, Poems, Prejudice, Transphobia

Poem: Was it my penis?

The void of emptiness. A hole in my heart.   Was it your assumptions, your embarrassment, your shame? Why won't you call me a friend now? Was it my beard, my penis, my appearing a gay man now? You said I had lied to you when I appeared a woman. Why did my becoming an… Continue reading Poem: Was it my penis?

Gender Nonconforming, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Self-Determination, Short Messages

Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

How the government and I define my existence:  My Biological Sex: Intersex My Legal Sex: Intersex. As proven with medical documentation after going to Florida Court to prove I was born intersex, and now as documented accurately on my Colorado Birth Certificate: Intersex. At this time, my driver’s license and social security both legally say… Continue reading Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

Intersex Awareness, Poems, Transgender

Poem: My sweet child, you’ll be blessed.

I was not able to be your father until now. They took that from me.   They say that a man can not grow a baby in his womb.   They say that only a woman can do that. They are wrong. My child, you'll be blessed.  ¤ I was not able to be your… Continue reading Poem: My sweet child, you’ll be blessed.

Celebrations, Hope, Human Rights, Self-Determination

I CAN EXIST NOW! Thanks to a Lesbian trapped in a hairy man’s body.

In 2014,  I virtually met a man, who dealt with some of the same metabolic problems as ours.  Facebook had connected him to me through a support group I used to run.  I was his first contact who dealt with this same condition of ours. At the time I was pretty much roommates with my husband.… Continue reading I CAN EXIST NOW! Thanks to a Lesbian trapped in a hairy man’s body.

Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.

It is important that I share with you something I see many having confusion around when referring to a person born with intersex traits. My body was born with physical traits of both male and female.  There are many different ways this can happen in a person, but to keep things simple, for me it… Continue reading I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.