On social media I receive this questions so decided to also turn my answer into a blog too: What about pubery blockers and surgery? I do believe that if the family and child have received informed consent, and know that any human being (endosex or intersex) can exist as man/boy, woman/girl, both or neither, that… Continue reading My thoughts: What about puberty blockers and surgery?
Most of my life I was taught that the monster was within me If only I could be more feminine be more inteligent be more conforming be more ordinary be a proper girl Most of my life I was taught that I was the problem and I worked hard to prove you right Conforming to… Continue reading Poem: The Monster was you all along!
Moose, Our beloved dog. You loved your family loyally since day one. A gift to us from the angels. Your ability to detect seizures and lactic acidosis even. We found a dog school that taught us to train you into service. You officially became a service dog and went everywhere with us. Allowing us to… Continue reading Poem: A Service Dog’s Perfect Love
When I faced the streets alone I looked up into the Florida winter sky The stars seemed further away than usual God nowhere to be found in my heart I thought I was alone I now know God was there but not at the time just darkness you see, boys don't cry... or do they?… Continue reading Poem: When I faced the streets alone
All my life false and real, right and wrong tangled Playing with the moon, ridiculing wind, listening to birds Many years wasted seeing the mountain covered with snow This winter I suddenly realize snow makes a mountain. - Eihel Dogen For those who do not know, this is an example of a Koan. A Koan… Continue reading A Zen Koan: The winter of my life.
We both felt like we were from another world. You on one side of the country, and me on the other. And we would not know it until half our lives were over. You would be born a decade before me. Sharing with pride to all your friends your genitals from another world. All… Continue reading Poem: When two lonely aliens become brothers
I put out a poll on social media to prove a point about implicit bias and gender identity. It asked: "When you think about Ancient Greek Hermaphrodite Statues what pronouns would you reflexively use to describe that person depicted?" As you can see Most said she/her. Facebook did not offer me a third option,… Continue reading Implicit bias making Hermaphrodites “she/her” and being called an “it”.
A friend shared this quote with me when I was dying and saving myself from the horrors of forced gender assignment back in 2014. Back then, I felt like I was drowning in the middle of the cold Atlantic Ocean with no raft, no life jacket. Abandoned by those who should have cared, but did… Continue reading Why medical prejudice and malpractice didn’t kill me.
By James Costich April 8, 2019 It would seem that General Casimir Polaski, Revolutionary war hero serving directly under Washington himself was an intersex man instead of a male man. This is of great interest to intersex people who have been made to feel like lesser human beings. Otherwise, it is of very little… Continue reading Thoughts of an Intersex Man on the Discovery that General Pulaski Was Likely Intersex | By Jim Costich
When I recently learned about General Casimir Pulaski, like when I have discovered other intersex people in history, I become elated and I celebrated.....but it was short lived. Then my heart sank. Here we were once again, in our binary world misgendering the past; a past that gave people like me more human rights… Continue reading Please do not misgender Revolutionary War Hero, General Casimir Pulaski: Pronouns He/Him