Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Phobia, Poems, Prejudice, United Nations

Poem: Little Baby in Africa

Little baby in Africa,

So innocent, so new.

Born both, to a world that disgraces you and mistakes your birth a curse.

Your mother who just gave birth,  in pain, yet has to run with you and hide you

from the snares of evil and those who want to do you both harm.

Please know we are praying for you both.

May God and heaven’s angels

protect you always from harm.

May your life and your genital integrity

be always yours.

My tears fall for you.

Please know I fight for you.

May this world become yours and keep you safe always.


By Mx. Anunnaki Ray 

Intersex Day of Remembrance and Solidarity

November, 8th, 2017  


United Nations Intersex Fact Sheet

Poem: I Promise to Be Your Voice










Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Hate Crimes, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice, Relationships, Self-Determination, United Nations

Being rejected by my family because of what I represent when I speak up for my intersex cousin who was mutilated.


I have an intersex cousin who was born about ten years after me. They allowed a surgeon to cut off their child’s phallus for no good reason. They allowed themselves to be talked into the utterly crazy belief that all there is to be a woman is to be missing a penis.  Worse, this surgeon had no regard for a woman’s genital integrity and her right to orgasm.

The truth is, intersex people exist and the female penis is very real.  If they were even a female, we will never know.  Their chance to self-determine their own gender taken from them too young.  They died broken, very sick, and at nineteen.  I will not refer to them by name.  They never got to share who they were, they never received self-determination.  That human right taken from them by doctors who reinforce a myth, the male and female binary.

Everyone of us is born with a phallic organ, and every human has one for a reason, and the reason is not always reproduction.  It is for sexual pleasure.  Most humans are born with the ability to orgasm, and it is their human right to keep this ability to orgasm!  Not all of us have a phallic organ for reproduction!  Dyadic Females are a good example of this!  The clitoris is a phallic organ.

When they remove the clitoris in third world countries everyone gasps, and yells out “TORTURE”!  Yet, these same surgeries where they cut it down or amputate it,  are called “intersex corrective surgeries” everywhere else, and are allowed to happen in the USA, Australia, Canada, United Kingdom, Ireland, and pretty much everywhere in the world right now.

So, when I called my family to talk about this cousin of mine it was so disheartening. They can’t stand to even look at me.  The phone never rings, I am as good as dead to them now.  I am a double abomination in their Christian eyes.  I went against my assigned gender as female, and I now appear a gay man to this world, and yes my husband and kids are happier.

Their implicit and explicit bias profound, and yes that icky feeling of cataplexy came over me with their judgement and conviction.  Their hate for me now  is a reflection of their hidden shame for agreeing with this surgical torture that was allowed to happen to my cousin.   They did not know better then, but now that they do.  None can look me in the eyes now.

I am now healthier, happier, happy and intact!  My very existence convicts them.  It’s a hell of a sad story, and important cautionary tale, but if they can’t deal with me, it’s really no surprise!


My promise to this world where I mention my mutilated intersex cousin:  

My New Year Resolution for 2017

Seven Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphallus, and Clitoromegaly.

The FEMALE PENIS and the MALE VAGINA; and explaining this to our children.

Christian Theologian Megan K. DeFranza, A True Ally, and Bridge Builder


Please read the United Nations’ Intersex Fact Sheet


Stop IGM = Intersex Genital Mutilation 



Anonymous Messages, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Short Messages, United Nations

An Anonymous Message From an Intersex Survivor of Non-consensual​ Surgery.


I want people to see what I get to see as an intersex advocate, educator and as a friend.  I received permission to publish this heart breaking response from a Facebook friend of mine who has survived non-consensual surgery as a child.  It was in response to the meme you see above:  

I am trying, it kills me to think that it’s still happening.  If only people knew what happens and what happens later on in life.  It’s a jail sentence for a crime us intersex individuals have to face in every aspect of our lives.

This cruel medical practice must stop, and I say to any mother or father in a position of having to make a choice on the matter please, please I beg of you with tears in my eyes, love you child, love them completely, love them with all the night in your heart, but please don’t destroy their body.

It’s a hard life, and a mental Truma I live with every day of my life.  Please all you need is to love and accept that your beautiful baby is normal and is not a deformative disorder.  Intersex is beautiful.

This person will never get restitution.   At this time only Malta and Chile have out lawed non-consensual corrective surgeries on intersex infants.  Below is what the United Nations says about it:


Here is the United Nations’Intersex Fact Sheet


Related Blogs about Malta and Chile (Flag Pin shown above): 

When will the rest of the world catch up with Malta?

Chile outlawed unnecessary Genital “Normalizing” Surgeries on Intersex Babies! 2nd country to do so since last April 2015, when Malta was the first.


#StopIGM = Stop Intersex Genital Mutilation 



Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Traits, Self-Determination

Doctors call us a disorder, defect, or syndrome, when we are born. We are simply INTERSEX.



INTERSEX people are born as often as redheads, and possibly even more frequent. Sometimes when we are born, doctors do not even call us “intersex” or even “hermaphrodites”. Instead they tell our parents we are born with a “defect”, a “disorder”, or a “syndrome”. Which is very misleading. This way they can justify corrective surgeries, hormones, and psychiatric treatments that shove us into the male or female boxes on our birth certificates. Often times, as infants, assigning us the wrong gender, taking away fertility, and even taking away sexual pleasure when we become adults. Gender is not in our genitals, reproductive system, chromosomes or hormones. Biological sex is determined by our genitals, reproductive system, chromosomes and hormones.   We have typical female, and typical male and sometimes a baby is born with the biological sex: intersex.  I repeat, our gender is NOT determined by our genitals, reproductive system, chromosomes or hormones.

Stay Calm, and let the baby grow up to decide their gender

Gender is like our personality. It is time that doctors told the parents of intersex babies to RELAX and simply LOVE their baby. Let the baby tell the world who they are when they get their VOICE.

In most cases intersex is NOT a medical emergency, so it needs to STOP being treated as one. This is NOT a psychosocial emergency either, or a race to mark the two boxes on the birth certificate with irreversible “corrective” surgeries.

This is a HUMAN, who is simply born ‪‎Intersex‬. ‪HumanRights‬ equal GenitalIntegrity‬! ‪ This world needs to ‎Stop IGM‬ (intersex genital mutilation). The ‪‎SelfDetrmenation‬ of ‪‎Gender‬, is every human’s ‪#HumanRight‬. The ‪‎UnitedNations‬ says StopIGM! ‪‎ It is time we all listened. It is time that laws to protect intersex babies, children, and adults were made.

Intersex is not a congenital condition, a disorder or a syndrome. It is like being born male or female. We are simply born intersex.


Definition of Biological Sex

Related Blogs: 

Chile outlawed unnecessary Genital “Normalizing” Surgeries on Intersex Babies! 2nd country to do so since last April 2015, when Malta was the first.

Intersex Is What it is…..

Two diagnosis that bring in the cash $$ for surgeons, psychiatrist, and therapist: Disorders of Sex Development, and Gender Dysphoria

Intersex Bodies are Not an error: My Intersex Story, and the stories of so many others.

Seven Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphalus, and Clitoromegaly.

How dare you say to my face, that it is ok if they had killed me as a fetus.

A poem written by a mother of an intersex child who was violated: 

An Anonymous Poem from a mother of an intersex  child who had no voice