When a friend or family member comes to you out of the closet sharing with you that they are LGBTQIA+ you might not want to say "I have an open mind" any more in hopes they will feel better. This blog will use the responses from others to prove why. I will first give you a… Continue reading Ouch! What to say instead of “I have an open mind”
My thoughts on prejudice today: My dad was a Castilian Spaniard. Our Spanish ancestors were Ashkenazi Jews that escaped Europe into the United States to survive being killed. They converted to Christianity due to Catholic missionaries in the United States as immigrants. My grandmother was so terrified of their speaking Spanish, they forbid it in… Continue reading Does my family know prejudice?
Here is my blog in response to lots of people assuming that my gender identity would be "Gender Neutral" due to being born intersex. This assumption is profound and not accurate for so many of us born anatomically intersex. A "Gender Neutral" birth certificate is good only for people whose gender identity is gender… Continue reading My Anatomical Intersex Body Does Not Create My Gender Identity
Four years ago today I emancipated my true gender identity to nonconforming gay androgynous man. As of December 19th, I am officially FOUR years old. Four years old, you say? How can that be? Well, in the transgender community we often count our birthday from the date we started our transition against our… Continue reading How I became pronoun fluid at four years old.
The surgeries for Hypospadias are sold like kool-aid or a Pepsi commercial by some clinics and hospitals. The new latest and greatest technique being competed for by surgeons. The life of the child in the balance. Is it a girl? Is it a boy? Never to ask if the child should get to decide… Continue reading A survivor of Intersex Genital Mutilation: Is Hypospadias Intersex?
First of all, I am not an expert, but I do legally live as an intersex man now and I do have two X chromosomes, a vagina, ovaries, and uterus. So, I have life experience living with a gender variant intersex body and happily doing so. I am an intersex person who describes themselves as… Continue reading When a MAN wants to KEEP HIS VAGINA
Short Answer: It is up to the intersex person to decide if they are transgender or not. So, never assume and always ask the person. Long Answer: Definitions First: Cisgender = When an Endosex (not born intersex) person, agrees with their birth assignment. Ipso Gender = When an Intersex person agrees with their birth assignment.… Continue reading Can an Intersex person be Transgender?
Both Transgender and Intersex children deserve to be medically and psychologically treated with dignity and respect and be given the human right to self-determine their own gender identity and gender expression. So below I will share two separate lists of how this can be achieved. These two lists are very different and will demonstrate the… Continue reading For Parents: How to Screen for a Safe Transgender or Intersex Therapist or Doctor