They told me I had to be a girl. Can you imagine being told you are a girl? Somebody else was in control. At three years old, they told me my body could never pass as a boy. Can you imagine being told your body is wrong at three? Somebody else was in control.…… Continue reading Poem: Somebody else was in control
It is important to understand that for me, being born in the middle as intersex, I need to be medically and socially recognized, as both male and female, to get the proper care I might be needing if I show up at the hospital emergency room, or have to be hospitalized. First of all, my…… Continue reading Why when I go to the Emergency Room I mark Both the male and female box.
Sharing my thoughts for today, and something that might surprise you! Lots of guys might have shame being a shorter stature. According to statistics a man is “short”, if they come in under 5’7″ in the USA. I am 5’5″! I have absolutely no shame or body dysphoria. I know I am fortunate that way!…… Continue reading Once assigned female: I am very proud to be a little man now!
I have an intersex cousin who was born about ten years after me. They allowed a surgeon to cut off their child’s phallus for no good reason. They allowed themselves to be talked into the utterly crazy belief that all there is to being a woman is to be missing a penis. Worse, this surgeon…… Continue reading Being rejected by my family because of what I represent when I speak up for my intersex cousin who was mutilated.
Dear Little Boy, who I used to be, Please do not believe the lies you were told. They convinced you that you were born wrong, that you would amount to nothing. They even convinced you that you would never be lovable as your authentic self. They told you over and over, from the time…… Continue reading A Note to self: Dear Little Boy, who I used to be
Stop Cutting us With Steel We are not a myth, We are real. We are hermaphrodites. To be cut by blade, and by steel. To be erased, by this cruel world. That is threatened by our existence. We are not myth, We are real. We are hermaphrodites. That word HERMAPHRODITE you even destroyed that too!…… Continue reading Poem: Stop Cutting us With Steel
I was born in 1967, and assigned a female at birth and on my birth certificate. My medical career as a patient, started at three years old. It was after they realized they had a boy on their hands, that was not allowed to be a boy. Back then, they called me “perceptionaly handicapped”, and…… Continue reading How I was medically, and psychiatrically violated as an intersex person.