My Intersex Story, Relationships, Short Messages

A call for action: My pronouns are not “preferred” they are required.

A Call for ACTION to our allies. I am asking for language to change regarding pronouns. Please say instead: "Please share your required pronouns with me, but only if you feel safe." Here are my reasons: 1) My pronouns are not preferred, they are required and never negotiable. 2) It is not always safe to… Continue reading A call for action: My pronouns are not “preferred” they are required.

Anonymous Messages, Transgender

Dysphoria explained by a friend

I often offer my blog as a place to share things. My friend Tempnumen thought that more might relate to what they write about dysphoria, so I have published their thoughts for more views. Here is their message to you: My mind wouldn’t shut off, and it wandered over into the “Why don’t cisgender people… Continue reading Dysphoria explained by a friend

Human Rights Violations, Intersex People, Intersex Phobia, My Intersex Story, Our Intersex Love Story, Transgender

In 2014, when I came out, I was told I could never receive communion again.

In 2014, when I cam out my authentic gender identity, I was told by my church I could never receive communion ever again. All due living as a man now and going against my birth assignment. Now my husband and I would appear fabulously gay and I would be considered transgender to my birth assignment.… Continue reading In 2014, when I came out, I was told I could never receive communion again.

Bridge Building, Human Rights, My Intersex Story, Our Intersex Love Story, Self-Determination

My ‘Love What Matters’ Article: I’m a Gestational Father

https://www.lovewhatmatters.com/intersex-man-gestational-father-shares-self-discovery-journey/ My article for 'Love What Matters' By Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez | February 9th, 2022 | Edited by Sonia Beltz ~.V.~

Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Cultural Dysphoria, Emancipation, endosexism, Freedom, Genital Integrity, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Cosmetic Surgery, Intersex Erasure, Intersex People, Intersex Phobia, Intersex Traits, My Intersex Story, Prejudice, Science, Self-Determination, TEDx Jacksonville, Transgender, United Nations

My Plea: I am a 46XX CAH Intersex Nonconforming Gay Transgender MAN

This is the Poster I e-mailed for the Laurie Children's Hospital CAH Stories Symposium, Held on Feb. 4th and 5th, 2022. Email: cahstories@luriechildrens.org The text in the poster above reads: I AM A MAN I am a 46 XX CAH Intersex Nonconforming Gay Transgender MAN You will not erase my intersex existence with your bad… Continue reading My Plea: I am a 46XX CAH Intersex Nonconforming Gay Transgender MAN

Bridge Building, Freedom, Hope, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Self-Determination, Transgender

The Confusion of saying I “Identify as ______,” and a better solution.

I am struggling with language right now. Some are saying they "identify as intersex." I assume they are the variations of intersex that are rarely called "intersex." Such as CAH, Hypospadias, Klinfelters and or XXY people. In this regard, I understand the usage of the phrase "identify as intersex" because many of these variations of… Continue reading The Confusion of saying I “Identify as ______,” and a better solution.

Hope, Human Rights, Poems, Self-Determination

Poem: A Right of Passage

A Right of Passage To allow yourself the freedom to become. To end all inner conflict and fear. To invite yourself home. To love yourself enough to do it. A Right of Passage Many will die if they remain invisible in the mirror. Medical necessity for many is it for you? If yes, a special… Continue reading Poem: A Right of Passage

Bridge Building, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination, United Nations

Why Gender X Passport Doesn’t Work For Me.

Why Gender X passport doesn't work for me: It is because of my transgender intersectionality with my Sex not matching my Gender that this X passport does not work for me. My body and physiology appear intersex. I have not had surgeries to change my physiology to appear a male. Yet, I live full-time as… Continue reading Why Gender X Passport Doesn’t Work For Me.

Celebrations, Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Freedom, Genital Integrity, Hope, Intersex Traits, Poems

Poem: Mr. Vagina, Mrs. Penis, and Mx. Hermaphrodite

Welcome, Mr. Vagina, Mrs. Penis, and Mx. Hermaphrodite! Welcome to a new world that doesn't deny your existence. Where genitals can belong to any gender identity and any sexual orientation and you are all valid. Where us humans have learned to stop conflating sex traits with gender identity. Better yet, no one is diagnosed as… Continue reading Poem: Mr. Vagina, Mrs. Penis, and Mx. Hermaphrodite

Bridge Building, Intersex Awareness, Transgender

Where did “assigned male/female at birth” come from?

Yes, it is true that “assigned male/female at birth” came from the intersex community first and the transgender community now uses it too. Some in the intersex community say the transgender community appropriated it. Let me explain why this hurt. Typically an endosex person's sex is observed at birth and simply written down. When born intersex… Continue reading Where did “assigned male/female at birth” come from?