When a friend or family member comes to you out of the closet sharing with you that they are LGBTQIA+ you might not want to say "I have an open mind" any more in hopes they will feel better. This blog will use the responses from others to prove why. I will first give you a… Continue reading Ouch! What to say instead of “I have an open mind”
When I faced the streets alone I looked up into the Florida winter sky The stars seemed further away than usual God nowhere to be found in my heart I thought I was alone I now know God was there but not at the time just darkness you see, boys don't cry... or do they?… Continue reading Poem: When I faced the streets alone
All my life false and real, right and wrong tangled Playing with the moon, ridiculing wind, listening to birds Many years wasted seeing the mountain covered with snow This winter I suddenly realize snow makes a mountain. - Eihel Dogen For those who do not know, this is an example of a Koan. A Koan… Continue reading A Zen Koan: The winter of my life.
If you can, please take note of all the organizations that support CAH (Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia and The Cares Foundation), XXY/Klinefelter's Syndrome Organizations, and even Hypospadias Organizations. When you visit them, you will sadly see that all of them utterly deny that we can have intersectionality with LGBTQ+, transgender and queer people on their websites.… Continue reading Why trans hate, transphobia and homophobia are hurting millions of intersex kids.
She died so that I could live. Her spirit literally moved over in surrender and in peace. Do you get what I just told you? † My son was told she would be gone by 2015. His spirit guide was right. Our kids now have two dads. I never dreamed as a woman. †… Continue reading Poem: Her, him and me.
We both felt like we were from another world. You on one side of the country, and me on the other. And we would not know it until half our lives were over. You would be born a decade before me. Sharing with pride to all your friends your genitals from another world. All… Continue reading Poem: When two lonely aliens become brothers
By Jim Costich September 22, 2019 It is not appropriate to use the term “intersex” to describe a gender identity. Intersex refers to a person’s sexual anatomy, hormones or chromosomes. The most important thing to remember about the definition of the term is that it describes a person’s body, not their identity. The United Nations’ Intersex… Continue reading Intersex is Not a Gender Identity By Jim Costich
The way I see, and many other intersex born people see it: Intersex is not a term that should not be adopted by people who “feel” like they are intersex, but have endosex (non-intersex) bodies. I also feel that "intersex" can not accurately describe as an intersex person's gender identity, due to sex and… Continue reading “Intersex” can not be an Endosex Person’s Gender Identity.
I put out a poll on social media to prove a point about implicit bias and gender identity. It asked: "When you think about Ancient Greek Hermaphrodite Statues what pronouns would you reflexively use to describe that person depicted?" As you can see Most said she/her. Facebook did not offer me a third option,… Continue reading Implicit bias making Hermaphrodites “she/her” and being called an “it”.
I am dear friends with Phyllis Gallisath, a mother whos buried her transgender son died last year. His name was Liam, and he had been found dead, after not coming home one day after completing suicide. Like many of us assigned wrong at birth, he suffered from horrible depression and it finally took his life.… Continue reading Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.
