Celebrations, Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Freedom, Genital Integrity, Hope, Intersex Traits, Poems

Poem: Mr. Vagina, Mrs. Penis, and Mx. Hermaphrodite

Welcome, Mr. Vagina, Mrs. Penis, and Mx. Hermaphrodite! Welcome to a new world that doesn't deny your existence. Where genitals can belong to any gender identity and any sexual orientation and you are all valid. Where us humans have learned to stop conflating sex traits with gender identity. Better yet, no one is diagnosed as… Continue reading Poem: Mr. Vagina, Mrs. Penis, and Mx. Hermaphrodite

Bridge Building, Intersex Awareness, Transgender

Where did “assigned male/female at birth” come from?

Yes, it is true that “assigned male/female at birth” came from the intersex community first and the transgender community now uses it too. Some in the intersex community say the transgender community appropriated it. Let me explain why this hurt. Typically an endosex person's sex is observed at birth and simply written down. When born intersex… Continue reading Where did “assigned male/female at birth” come from?

Bridge Building, Gender Nonconforming, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Cosmetic Surgery, Intersex inclusion, Intersex Traits, Transgender

Human Sexuality is Diverse & Greater Than the Binary

Created by Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez Shared on Facebook January 9, 20201: All humans can be assigned wrong at birth. I saw another version of this floating around and took the liberty to make it more gender diverse and intersex friendly.Not all people assigned wrong at birth are transgender. Not all people assigned wrong at… Continue reading Human Sexuality is Diverse & Greater Than the Binary

Bridge Building, Prejudice, Relationships, Short Messages, Transgender, Transphobia

Leelah, I promise to be your voice | Rest in Power 2020

She is not here to speak up, so I will speak up for her in her memory year after year. On social media each year, I share her memory. This year I made this message, using her suicide letter to us. Until society changes, I will remind all of us that society needs to change.… Continue reading Leelah, I promise to be your voice | Rest in Power 2020

Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Intersex Traits, Science, Transgender

My cancer scare: 46XX and born with a prostate!

I have had pain with urinating for several years now, problems emptying my bladder, and outright bladder cramping due to spasms. These problems were happening even when I lived as an intersex woman. Now appearing and living as a man, the pain recently became so bad I was finally driven, by sheer desperation, to answers.… Continue reading My cancer scare: 46XX and born with a prostate!

Bridge Building, Cultural Dysphoria, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Questions and Answers, Transgender

My thoughts: What about puberty blockers and surgery?

On social media I receive this questions so decided to also turn my answer into a blog too: What about pubery blockers and surgery? I do believe that if the family and child have received informed consent, and know that any human being (endosex or intersex) can exist as man/boy, woman/girl, both or neither, that… Continue reading My thoughts: What about puberty blockers and surgery?

Bathrooms, Human Rights, Intersex People, Prejudice, Short Messages

A common question I am asked: How do you go to the bathroom?

  I am asked often: How do you go to the bathroom? My joking answer and to the point: I find a bathroom, go into the bathroom, if it is a stall, I shut and lock the stall door, sit down and do my business like you do. My more serious answer:  1) I first… Continue reading A common question I am asked: How do you go to the bathroom?

Civil Rights, Freedom, Hope, Human Rights, Poems

Poem: Human Diversity & Your Prejudice

This poem was made with the beautiful Pride SPACE Flags created by Laurie Raye and graciously shared to all to use.  If you need definitions please visit Helpful Definitions of Human Sexuality with Flags. Human Diversity & Your Prejudice   If you hate us LGBTQIA+ people this poem is for you: Human Diversity is Beautiful stop… Continue reading Poem: Human Diversity & Your Prejudice

Prejudice, Questions and Answers

Ouch! What to say instead of “I have an open mind”

When a friend or family member comes to you out of the closet sharing with you that they are LGBTQIA+ you might not want to say "I have an open mind" any more in hopes they will feel better.  This blog will use the responses from others to prove why. I will first give you a… Continue reading Ouch! What to say instead of “I have an open mind”

Homophobia, Intersex Phobia, My Intersex Story, Poems, Prejudice, Relationships, Transgender, Transphobia

Poem: When I faced the streets alone

When I faced the streets alone I looked up into the Florida winter sky The stars seemed further away than usual  God nowhere to be found in my heart I thought I was alone I now know God was there but not at the time just darkness you see, boys don't cry... or do they?… Continue reading Poem: When I faced the streets alone