A message from Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez: Help me end Cultural Dysphoria, please! I brought the word "endosex" to the table with my TEDx Born Intersex: we are human! Intersex-born Cary G Costello, Ph.D., is one of the first to use "endosex" in his writing. I believe I am the first to use it in… Continue reading Endosex: an important new word.
While I sit in Facebook Jail. My thoughts: To every single endosex/cisgender/heterosexual who talks about us intersex people to get "wows" and "laughs" and views at our expense. And worse, by using the wrong language, but Facebook doesn't take you down. Maybe you will someday figure out there is an intersex person's heart on the other… Continue reading While I sit in Facebook Jail
I am dear friends with Phyllis Gallisath, a mother whos buried her transgender son died last year. His name was Liam, and he had been found dead, after not coming home one day after completing suicide. Like many of us assigned wrong at birth, he suffered from horrible depression and it finally took his life.… Continue reading Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.
My thoughts today and the way I see it. (Revised July 23rd, 2019) I feel that one of the biggest problems society has right now, with the confusion of sex and gender, is that most people conflate anatomical sex with gender identity. After the medical invention of sex in the late 1800s, anyone… Continue reading Cultural Dysphoria: Stop conflating anatomical sex with gender identity.
The following are examples of Transphobic attitudes (note that sometimes these examples below can be examples of Queerphobia too): The belief/insistence that trans women are not "real women" The belief/insistence that trans men are not "real men". The belief/insistence that non-binary genders are invalid and do not exist. The belief/insistence that transsexual people… Continue reading Examples of Transphobia, Queerphobia, Intersexphobia & Homophobia
I have joined my husband of twenty-eight years to make this message to the world for October, 26th, Intersex Awareness Day 2016. After living for so long believing I was broken, I now know that I was born perfect and that I am lovable. Thank you, my sweet husband, for loving me for who I am,… Continue reading I was born perfect, and I am lovable. Thank you, United Nations.
Yup, I used to have chromosome Dysphoria! It was caused by science not catching up with my very real existence as an intersex nonconforming man. Chromosome Dysphoria is very real. Chromosome dysphoria happens when we are taught that only females can have XX chromosomes and males have XY chromosomes, and we believe this myth! To… Continue reading Gender is NOT Determined by Our Sex Chromosomes.
I was never in the wrong body How dare this world try to tell others they are in the wrong body too. It makes me angry. It makes me sad. I almost believed your lies. For a lifetime you tried to fix me! . I was born in the right body. Don't try to… Continue reading Poem: I was never in the wrong body. (With 6 Intersex flags from around the world.)
Bottom line: If they can convince us, or our parents, that we are born in the wrong body, there is a TON of money to be made. The two most common diagnosis that leads to genital surgery, sex reassignment surgery, or therapy are: Disorder of Sexual Development (DSD), and Gender Dysphoria. I hope to… Continue reading Two diagnoses that bring in the cash $$ for surgeons, psychiatrist, and therapist: Disorders of Sex Development, and Gender Dysphoria