A conversation starter: Was my husband at one time a person that could have been considered a "pervert" or a "chaser" for being curious and wanting to date me, and have sex with me, an intersex trans person? My answer is "yes". And yet, here we are thirty years later in the same marriage. Yet, today I… Continue reading Is my husband a pervert?
While I sit in Facebook Jail. My thoughts: To every single endosex/cisgender/heterosexual who talks about us intersex people to get "wows" and "laughs" and views at our expense. And worse, by using the wrong language, but Facebook doesn't take you down. Maybe you will someday figure out there is an intersex person's heart on the other… Continue reading While I sit in Facebook Jail
I am dear friends with Phyllis Gallisath, a mother whos buried her transgender son died last year. His name was Liam, and he had been found dead, after not coming home one day after completing suicide. Like many of us assigned wrong at birth, he suffered from horrible depression and it finally took his life.… Continue reading Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.
If we are to change our culture's view of intersex people, there is something very powerful we all can do. It is as simple as changing the language used to describe intersex children and adults. The United Nations' states: "Because our bodies are seen as different, intersex infants, children and adults are often stigmatized and… Continue reading Dear Medical Complex, Please stop saying Disorder of Sex Development.
When I recently learned about General Casimir Pulaski, like when I have discovered other intersex people in history, I become elated and I celebrated.....but it was short lived. Then my heart sank. Here we were once again, in our binary world misgendering the past; a past that gave people like me more human rights… Continue reading Please do not misgender Revolutionary War Hero, General Casimir Pulaski: Pronouns He/Him
Here I am again Not much has changed here on Earth Only promises, suggestions, and resolutions. We still have so many growing up without restitution. Here I am again Promising this world that I will not be silenced until every baby born intersex is not cut on or forced to be who they shouldn't be… Continue reading My New Year’s Resolution for 2019
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpPTf-00ab0 The Source Page for my TEDx Talk. ~.V.~
My thoughts for the day: The invention of sex being only typical male or typical female bodies happened in the late 1800s. At this point, the government and medical complex work together and from that point forward only two options would be given at our birth. Thus, hurting all intersex and gender variant people who… Continue reading Eugenics & Genocide: The Male & Female Binary Myth
The void of emptiness. A hole in my heart. Was it your assumptions, your embarrassment, your shame? Why won't you call me a friend now? Was it my beard, my penis, my appearing a gay man now? You said I had lied to you when I appeared a woman. Why did my becoming an… Continue reading Poem: Was it my penis?
Intersex Girl My name is Joey and I’m here to say, I am intersex and that’s okay. I love to dance, sing and play football too and that does not make me different than you. I love being me and you love being you, there is so much we can do. We can kick a… Continue reading IAD 2018 Poem: I am an Intersex Girl