I am asked often: How do you go to the bathroom? My joking answer and to the point: I find a bathroom, go into the bathroom, if it is a stall, I shut and lock the stall door, sit down and do my business like you do. My more serious answer: 1) I first… Continue reading A common question I am asked: How do you go to the bathroom?
I am dear friends with Phyllis Gallisath, a mother whos buried her transgender son died last year. His name was Liam, and he had been found dead, after not coming home one day after completing suicide. Like many of us assigned wrong at birth, he suffered from horrible depression and it finally took his life.… Continue reading Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.
Intersex, Transgender & Non-Binary People: There are few human or civil rights for you and me, the fight has just begun! And here we are within the rainbow fighting each other. Intersex people outcasting, gatekeeping and judging other intersex people as being posers or fake. Transgender people fighting, outcasting, gatekeeping and judging other transgender people… Continue reading Poem: Together we are stronger LGBTQIA+; with Martin Luther King Jr. and his gay friend Bayard Rustin.
The void of emptiness. A hole in my heart. Was it your assumptions, your embarrassment, your shame? Why won't you call me a friend now? Was it my beard, my penis, my appearing a gay man now? You said I had lied to you when I appeared a woman. Why did my becoming an… Continue reading Poem: Was it my penis?
Intersex Girl My name is Joey and I’m here to say, I am intersex and that’s okay. I love to dance, sing and play football too and that does not make me different than you. I love being me and you love being you, there is so much we can do. We can kick a… Continue reading IAD 2018 Poem: I am an Intersex Girl
I WISH THIS WORLD WOULD STOP EQUATING GENITALS and Body Parts to GENDER. I believe it is harming intersex children, gender non-conforming people and those transgender people who want genital integrity and the genitals they were born with. NOTE: Biological Sex is of or relating to the physical, whereas gender is of or relating… Continue reading STOP! Surgery Does Not Create an Intersex Baby’s Gender
I have heard it will take time. That it is going to take time to stop mutilating the genitals of innocent children. No, you are not "fixing us" and getting away with it no longer. Yes, you heard right. We all shout from the rooftops now! That this world is so barbaric! Everyone will… Continue reading My Plea to this World on New Year’s Day 2018.
I have a dear friend of mine who is an intersex survivor. His name is Jeffrey A. Benedict, and he has allowed me to share this with you today. Like many of us intersex people, he has had those moments where he felt like the only one. This world wants you to think we are… Continue reading We are not rare!
I like to teach that gender is our personality and that a penis and a vagina does not create our gender identity. I feel that my gender identity is a personal feeling and a way I internally feel about myself. My gender identity has nothing to do with my chromosomes, hormones, genitals or reproductive system.… Continue reading The way I see it: A Penis and a Vagina does not Create our Gender Identity