Homophobia, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Phobia, My Intersex Story, Transphobia

What It’s Like: A WJCT Podcast with Anunnaki and his husband James

Episode Info:  Anunnaki, who was born intersex, was raised as a female, the gender his parents chose. Annunaki and James’ marriage survived Anunnaki’s transition to living as a man — how he identifies — and James’ adjustment to life as a gay man. Click here to listen:   What It's Like WJCT Podcast: Anunnaki and… Continue reading What It’s Like: A WJCT Podcast with Anunnaki and his husband James

Anunnaki Ray's Photographic Stories, Cultural Dysphoria, Gender Nonconforming, Gender Space Pirate, Hope, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Erasure, Intersex Phobia, Poems, Prejudice, Self-Determination, Short Messages

Poem: I am a Gender Space Pirate

  You think I come from outer space. Instead, I come to you with my feathers and lace. No, I am not a cultural disgrace. I am a part of this gender race. I do not care if I am misplaced. I love my beauty and being handsome too. I am a Gender Space Pirate! My… Continue reading Poem: I am a Gender Space Pirate

Poems, Self-Determination

Poem: Androgynous

ANDROGYNOUS  A     Anunnaki has no gender. It literally means "Ant Friend" in Ancient Sumerian. N     To say "Non-binary" admits there is a binary.  The binary is a social construct. D     Dream of a world that does not assign us at birth.  Who would you be if you were never… Continue reading Poem: Androgynous

Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Self-Determination, Transgender

Am I Transgender? Can an intersex person be transgender?

Before I answer, below,  if I am transgender, or can an intersex person be transgender, let me educate about five things first.  Biological Sex,  Transgender, Gender Identity, Gender Expression and Secondary Sex Characteristics.  You can read more here too: LGBTQIA+ Definitions of Human Sexuality. Biological Sex: It is typically assigned, at birth, by the “authorities”, based… Continue reading Am I Transgender? Can an intersex person be transgender?

Questions and Answers, Relationships, Short Messages

The different types of Lesbians and Gay Men.

From the outside people see couples rather simply.  We can appear "heterosexual", "gay", "lesbian", or "bi-sexual".  When we realize that nature created a variety of people out there, we now realize that couples can be many different types of people.  When one stops to think about all the variety of bodies out there, such as… Continue reading The different types of Lesbians and Gay Men.

Intersex Awareness, Poems

Poem: Parts are Parts, and Venus and Mars can get over it.

  Parts are parts! If it belongs to a girl, it's a girl part. If it belongs to a boy, it's a boy part. A penis is not just a boy part If it belongs to a girl it should not break your heart. A penis can be a girl part and Venus and Mars… Continue reading Poem: Parts are Parts, and Venus and Mars can get over it.

Celebrations, Emancipation, Freedom, Human Rights, Self-Determination

A fun blog: Limahl, Adam Ant, Chris Kattan, Pete Burns, and me!

As a teen "girl", in the 80's all the short rock stars and movie stars haunted me and intrigued me at the same time.  Limahl was one of them.  He was in the group, Kajagoogoo, as well as being a musician on his own.  He haunted me because I was not allowed to be a… Continue reading A fun blog: Limahl, Adam Ant, Chris Kattan, Pete Burns, and me!

Emancipation, Freedom, Poems, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

Poem: I am not….. I am…..

I wrote this poem to help explain who I truly am and to invite clarity for the many who seem confused when they describe me incorrectly using words that stuff me into stereotypical boxes:   I am not the bearded woman But thank you For letting me know I am beautiful >< I am not… Continue reading Poem: I am not….. I am…..

Celebrations, Human Rights, Self-Determination

Mx. Anunnaki Ray and They, Them, Their

Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez

We are human: pronouns

Since I have chosen to live as my true self, I have been having deep thoughts about this male/female binary.  Being born an intersex person in the late 60’s, and even if I had been born now, there is no option to raise me  gender neutral,  androgynous,  or  non binary.  Even transgender children, and transgender  people, are being shoved into these two male/female boxes.

The pressure to conform so great surgeries are performed, and there is much stress to “pass” as the two “proper” and allowed genders, male or female.  Which both have been defined culturally and socially by most everyone.  The thing is, I do not fit one or the other box and I am not going to force myself anymore either.  I was created like this, and I do not feel it is wrong.

I think this obsession for genitals to “pass” as…

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Human Rights, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.

How did my husband and I become a sexual minority? First of all, I did not want to be a sexual minority.  None of us get to pick how we are born.  I was born as a 46, XX Intersex Person.  My husband and I fell in love back in 1989. He never knew that… Continue reading Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.