A conversation starter: Was my husband at one time a person that could have been considered a "pervert" or a "chaser" for being curious and wanting to date me, and have sex with me, an intersex trans person? My answer is "yes". And yet, here we are thirty years later in the same marriage. Yet, today I… Continue reading Is my husband a pervert?
While I sit in Facebook Jail. My thoughts: To every single endosex/cisgender/heterosexual who talks about us intersex people to get "wows" and "laughs" and views at our expense. And worse, by using the wrong language, but Facebook doesn't take you down. Maybe you will someday figure out there is an intersex person's heart on the other… Continue reading While I sit in Facebook Jail
I am dear friends with Phyllis Gallisath, a mother whos buried her transgender son died last year. His name was Liam, and he had been found dead, after not coming home one day after completing suicide. Like many of us assigned wrong at birth, he suffered from horrible depression and it finally took his life.… Continue reading Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.
If we are to change our culture's view of intersex people, there is something very powerful we all can do. It is as simple as changing the language used to describe intersex children and adults. The United Nations' states: "Because our bodies are seen as different, intersex infants, children and adults are often stigmatized and… Continue reading Dear Medical Complex, Please stop saying Disorder of Sex Development.
When I recently learned about General Casimir Pulaski, like when I have discovered other intersex people in history, I become elated and I celebrated.....but it was short lived. Then my heart sank. Here we were once again, in our binary world misgendering the past; a past that gave people like me more human rights… Continue reading Please do not misgender Revolutionary War Hero, General Casimir Pulaski: Pronouns He/Him
Here is a sample that might work in respecting everyone when filling out forms for hospitals, doctors, mental health, or councilors. This would be a huge relief to me if I showed up at an emergency room and was given this instead of some conflated two options "male" or "female" that would not be accurate.… Continue reading My idea: How medical forms could respect everyone.
When I was born there was no way to define my true biological sex accurately. This is because I was born intersex. Because of this, they thought it would be in my best interest to assign me female and raise me a girl when I was never supposed to be a girl. By adolescence, being… Continue reading Surviving ‘Psychic Mutilation’, and how I was psychiatrically and medically violated and erased.
Intersex and Transgender There are few human or civil rights for you and me, the fight has just begun! And here we are within the rainbow fighting each other. Intersex people outcasting, gatekeeping and judging other intersex people as being posers or fake. Transgender people fighting, outcasting, gatekeeping and judging other transgender people as not… Continue reading Poem: Together we are stronger LGBTQIA+; with Martin Luther King Jr. and his gay friend Bayard Rustin.
Here I am again Not much has changed here on Earth Only promises, suggestions, and resolutions. We still have so many growing up without restitution. Here I am again Promising this world that I will not be silenced until every baby born intersex is not cut on or forced to be who they shouldn't be… Continue reading My New Year’s Resolution for 2019
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpPTf-00ab0 The Source Page for my TEDx Talk. ~.V.~
