Poems

Poem: My Broken Family

A generational tragedy Over and over again I wanted to end it but learned I could only change myself I decided to live you didn't Over and over again a type of generational tragedy that will not stop repeating itself suffering, death, dying So much I am powerless over I was taught that I could… Continue reading Poem: My Broken Family

Hope, Our Intersex Love Story, Poems, Relationships, Zen Buddhism

Poem: When Suffering ends, life ends too.

To have peace with suffering one has to realize that when suffering ends life ends too.   To have peace with suffering is to find peace in this fallible life in its entirety.  Not just praising our joys - but embracing our blood, sweat and tears, too.   Our very death becomes as sacred as birth. Our… Continue reading Poem: When Suffering ends, life ends too.

Poems

Poem: My First Christmas without you.

Your beautiful red urn: "Forget the hearse, 'cause I'll never die." Back n Black AC/DC | The song you picked out to be played at your memorial. Your last meal with me was Magnolian Beef Your favorite We knew it was the end - hospice would be starting The fortune cooking said, "You will be… Continue reading Poem: My First Christmas without you.

Civil Rights, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Intersex Traits, My Intersex Story, Our Intersex Love Story, Prejudice

Dear Medical Complex and Government, Gestational Fathers Exist!

Dear Medical Complex and Government, My son and daughter are biologically related to both of their parents. We are two men, a gestational dad, and a seminal father. You see, I am an intersex man. I am not a woman.I am not female. We are not the only family like this. Please update your forms immediately! Your prejudice… Continue reading Dear Medical Complex and Government, Gestational Fathers Exist!

Hate Crimes, Human Rights Violations, Relationships

When it is not safe to share our pronouns.

I often have conversations with people on Facebook, and the comments I share below are an accumulation of responses to this post: Please share a time when it is not safe to share your own or another person's true pronouns. Note: "True Pronouns" are what we have self-determined to reflect our authentic gender identity and… Continue reading When it is not safe to share our pronouns.

Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Relationships

Reading This Can Change Your Perspective – Anya Kylie

Sometimes intersex friends share with me things that they want more people to read. Here is a letter to you, from a beloved intersex friend of mine. She writes to you about being assigned wrong, coerced as a nonconsenting child into surgery, and forced the wrong hormones. She was never supposed to be a boy… Continue reading Reading This Can Change Your Perspective – Anya Kylie

Intersex People, Religion and Bridge Building

More than Two Sexes Exist in Jewish and Christian Scripture: Male, Female, and Intersex in the Image of God.

As a Master of Divinity Student at Meadville Lombard Theological School, I originally wrote this as my midterm paper for a summer 2022 class I took at Chicago Theological Seminary. The class was Very Different Visions: Jewish and Christian Biblical Interpretations; with professor Nick Schaser. I received an A and now share it with you… Continue reading More than Two Sexes Exist in Jewish and Christian Scripture: Male, Female, and Intersex in the Image of God.

Hate Crimes, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Phobia, Poems, Prejudice

Poem: Shamed into silence – eugenics

Shamed into silence A form of eugenics without killing us Shamed into silence Then cut us and create infertility to fit your binary notions Shamed into silence So we do not talk about our bodies to anyone - hush, you say with your M.D. and Ph.D.! Shamed into silence The government, with its patriarchy, colonialism,… Continue reading Poem: Shamed into silence – eugenics

My Intersex Story, Relationships, Short Messages

A call for action: My pronouns are not “preferred” they are required.

A Call for ACTION to our allies. I am asking for language to change regarding pronouns. Please say instead: "Please share your required pronouns with me, but only if you feel safe." Here are my reasons: 1) My pronouns are not preferred, they are required and never negotiable. 2) It is not always safe to… Continue reading A call for action: My pronouns are not “preferred” they are required.