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If this is not eugenics and genocide what is it?

Stop the Eugenics and Genocide of Intersex

Here is something that should not go unspoken anymore: 

The plan for the extinction of us intersex people: If they can’t abort us when detected in-utero, when we are born they will make us infertile. If we are a risk of appearing homosexual to this world, they will cut off our parts, and create parts. Worse, these atrocities and human rights violations are all socially justified. If we appear non-conforming gender, they will make sure we are unemployable, be rejected by homeless shelters, and we will starve. There are far more things that make it impossible to survive, but this short list sums it up nicely. If this is not eugenics and genocide, what is it?

Articles that you may want to read regarding this: 
Selective Intersex Abortions: XXY 74%, Indeterminate Sex 47%, Hypospadias 2%
Why I’m Disturbed by Screening for Intersex Traits in Utero
Here is the United Nations’ Intersex Fact Sheet

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Related Poems I wrote: 
Poem: STOP the Unthinkable!
Poem: I am a Boxphobe!
My related blogs: 
My thoughts about the Third Gender Box and Gender X
Five ways I show that the Male/Female Binary is a Myth, and a Social Construct. Nature has always Created Sexual Variety and Diversity.

 

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Anonymous Messages · Human Rights · Prejudice · Relationships

An Anonymous Message from a Suicidal Intersex Survivor

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I have been helping an intersex survivor and asked to share their words to this world.  I Hope this makes everyone give pause.  It is no wonder why the suicide rate is so high.  I have felt the same at times:

I may seem like a strong person, but in reality, I am fragile deep inside, you have no clue to my daily battles, you have no clue what it’s like to be in my skin. When people treat me different I feel it deep within and though I shouldn’t let things get to me, they do, for I have to fight every day to be just me, when people see only my disability and disorders, you fail to see that I am just as good a human being like anyone else, so fuck you for making me feel worthless and unworthy of love, friendship and happiness like anyone else, because of the way I look and the way I was born.

I do dream of a day I will be seen just as human being with the same needs and wants as any other human being, sure my body is different, but so is the colour of your hair, and eyes, I am just another variance of the human experience, I get treated poorly by gay guys because of my feminine features and treated like I’m not worthy of love, friendship and dates. My experience with date sites has been nothing more than a million question time and curiosity seekers, never thinking I’m a person just like them.

Intersex is not a deformation of the human body, it is natural variance of the human experience, intersex is not a taboo, what is taboo is the ignorance of a society that has little to no respect for others in their own unique form, being intersex is not a religious sin of deformation, but what is a sin is you lack of acceptance and love, and further more intersex people are just that people, intersex people are within every facet of society and are worthy of love, peace and compassion, and if you fail to be on that Level of equality with any type of person then you have failed in being a child of God and you have failed to be a true human being with good humble values.

Maybe this world change, and become a nicer place for people born with a difference, and words like this never have to be spoken again.

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Civil Rights · Human Rights · Intersex Activist · Intersex Awareness · Intersex Erasure · Relationships · Short Messages

Stop Erasing us.

It is always interesting to me how some people would rather end a relationship, and sometimes end a long term friendship, than try to find in their hearts room for another type of person or culture. I become raw with it all.
It doesn’t matter even if they are blood and family. It doesn’t matter of they are lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. The rainbow does not always agree. I assure you! I have actually had an easier time changing the hearts of fanatical Christians, than the hearts of an LGBT person that depends heavily on a male/female gender binary to justify their existence.
I lived your reality for 46 years, and it almost killed me. I refuse to agree with this delusional world, when it comes to gender. Yes, to me it is a delusion, if it erased my right to exist in this world.
It’s societies turn to change. I am done conforming to a world that literally erased my right to exist, when I was standing in front of you! No, it doesn’t take an “open mind”; it takes common sense. If your mind is closed or not doesn’t matter to me. More like, OPEN YOUR EYES! When you open your eyes, you are no longer allowed to call me a disorder! How else do you describe my existence? The male/female binary is a social construct. It is not even based on good science if it is harming innocent children born intersex to this world.
I stand my ground. I change culture now so that little kids born like me have a place in society. WAKE UP WORLD! It is time to stop erasing us, mutilating us, aborting us, devaluing us, and outcasting us!
I long for that world that celebrates our birth. www.anunnakiray.com
Sincerely, Mx. Anunnaki Ray
Emancipation · Freedom · Human Rights · Intersex Awareness · Self-Determination

Once assigned female: I am very proud to be a little man now!

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Sharing my thoughts for today, and something that might surprise you!
Lots of guys might have shame being a shorter stature. According to statistics a man is “short”, if they come in under 5’7″ in the USA. I am 5’5″! I have absolutely no shame or body dysphoria. I know I am fortunate that way!
So many people with non-conforming bodies, and atypical genitals are not so fortunate. Be it if we are born intersex with natural bodily variations, or call ourselves transgender, this world can be a cruel cold place for those of us who have bodies that do not conform to “typical”.  This sometimes creates body dysphoria and gender dysphoria.  If you are wondering what intersex is, please go to this link:  United Nations’ Intersex Fact Sheet.
Being raised the wrong gender, as female, all my life, I have had this obsession over shorter men. More than likely because I was taught at three and four that I was not allowed to be a boy.  It would not be until the last two years of my life that I figured out that I had been lied to!
Starting as a young teen, I even memorized the names of famous, short statured, male actors and rock stars even!  As an unusual teenager posters of some of these shorter men were tacked onto my pink bedroom walls.   Well, obviously you could see why I had this short man obsession!  Now that I appear a little dude, and legally so!   I am absolutely celebrating my life more!
My entire existence has improved!  I have a life now!  I sadly lived the majority of my life with major depression, and being tormented by psychiatry and doctors.  My genuine existence had been completely erased.  Half my life is over now, however I now have HOPE, and can live my genuine and authentic self now!
I hope my story, along with many other stories, is a lesson learned to all the doctors, psychiatrists, and parents out there.  You can read more about me here. 
We do not need fixed! Just let us be please.  Fix Society Please instead!  
 THREE CHEERS to the Self-Determination of our own Gender and Autonomy! 
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Some of my thoughts about the self-determination of gender, that you might be interested in: 
Fix Society I don't have gender dysphoria
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Human Rights · Intersex Awareness · Intersex Erasure · Prejudice · Relationships · Science · United Nations

The male/female binary is a Myth!

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I am a man, with a few boy parts, that most call girl parts. But that is only because they believe in lies. They are all boy parts if they are my parts, because I am a boy.  I might be non-conforming, but they belong to me, and my legal gender is male.  As for my biological sex, it is intersex, and not even acknowledged by my country . The government has erased me.  The doctors shoved me into the female box at birth.  My birth certificate to this day can not demonstrate my true biological sex.  I was not born dyadic, I was born intersex.

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I will feel human, when I get my human right to exist.  I will take on the name of a human, and not that of an alien, when my government allows me to exist without calling me a disorder.  I have a natural bodily variation, according to the United Nations.  I was never a disorder, or transgender even.  I was born a boy, from day one.

Our self-determination of gender is about human rights.  It is time this world stop hurting, and torturing people born intersex and transgender.  It is time this world stopped equating genitals, reproductive systems, hormones and chromosomes with our gender.  It is a lie, a myth, and scientific proof, show that I stand before you, and other intersex people stand before you, and all of us prove this myth 100% false.

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No chart is perfect, but I still like this one.  Shared from: www.ItsPronouncedMetrosexual.com
If a person realizes that “intersex” means countless Natural Bodily Variations and they mix this with the other categories, you literally can have countless varieties of human walking around this Earth!
If they #StopIGM and forcing us intersex people into binary boxes. (Intersex genital mutilation). It is obvious that genitals, chromosomes, hormones do not make up our #Gender.
The #UnitedNations says that our #SelfDetermination of gender is about #HumanRights!  #WEareREAL!  #WeArePeople!
#WeAreHUMAN!
It is time we bust the male/female #binary. It is simply a myth folks! Not everyone is born #Dyadic. Dyadic means you were not born #Intersex.

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Being rejected by my family because of what I represent when I speak up for my intersex cousin who was mutilated.

The two of us, born intersex and named ‘Antoinette’ at our birth.

The FEMALE PENIS and the MALE VAGINA; and explaining this to our children.

Seven Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphalus, and Clitoromegaly.

I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.

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Cosmetic Genital Surgery · Hate Crimes · Human Rights · Human Rights Violations · Intersex Awareness · Prejudice · Relationships · Self-Determination · United Nations

Being rejected by my family because of what I represent when I speak up for my intersex cousin who was mutilated.

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I have an intersex cousin who was born about ten years after me. They allowed a surgeon to cut off their child’s phallus for no good reason. They allowed themselves to be talked into the utterly crazy belief that all there is to being a woman is to be missing a penis.  Worse, this surgeon had no regard to a woman’s genital integrity and her right to orgasm.

The truth is, intersex people exist and the female penis is very real.  If they were even a female, we will never know.  Their chance to self-determine their own gender taken from them too young.  They died broken, very sick, and at nineteen.  I will not refer to them by name.  They never got to share who they were, they never received self-determination.  That human right taken from them by doctors who reinforce a myth, the male and female binary.

Everyone of us is born with a phallic organ, and every human has one for a reason, and the reason is not always reproduction.  It is for sexual pleasure.  Most humans are born with the ability to orgasm, and it is their human right to keep this ability to orgasm!  Not all of us have a phallic organ for reproduction!  Dyadic Females are a good example of this!  The clitoris is a phallic organ.

When they remove the clitoris in third world countries everyone gasps, and yells out “TORTURE”!  Yet, these same surgeries where they cut it down or amputate it,  are called “intersex corrective surgeries” everywhere else, and are allowed to happen in the USA, Australia, Canada, United Kingdom, Ireland, and pretty much everywhere in the world right now.

So, when I called my family to talk about this cousin of mine it was so disheartening. They can’t stand to even look at me.  The phone never rings, I am as good as dead to them now.  I am a double abomination in their Christian eyes.  I went against my assigned gender as female, and I now appear a gay man to this world, and yes my husband and kids are happier.

Their implicit and explicit bias profound, and yes that icky feeling of cataplexy came over me with their judgement and conviction.  Their hate for me now  is a reflection of their hidden shame for agreeing with this surgical torture that was allowed to happen to my cousin.   They did not know better then, but now that they do.  None can look me in the eyes now.

I am now healthier, happier, happy and intact!  My very existence convicts them.  It’s a hell of a sad story, and important cautionary tale, but if they can’t deal with me, it’s really no surprise!

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My promise to this world where I mention my mutilated intersex cousin:  

My New Year Resolution for 2017

Seven Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphalus, and Clitoromegaly.

The FEMALE PENIS and the MALE VAGINA; and explaining this to our children.

Christian Theologian Megan K. DeFranza, A True Ally and Bridge Builder

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Please read the United Nations’ Intersex Fact Sheet

Stop IGM = Intersex Genital Mutilation 

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A Note to self: Dear Little Boy, who I used to be

Dear Little Boy, who I used to be,
Please do not believe the lies you were told.  They convinced you that you were born wrong, that you would amount to nothing.   They even convinced you that you would never be lovable as your authentic self.
They told you over and over, from the time you were three and four, that you could never be who you were born as.  They erased your very being, and turned you into something that could never be.  So stop wondering why you failed at being her!  So stop blaming yourself, and doubting yourself.   It is obvious they were the ones with the problem.
Today, you are surrounded by people who believe in you.  They get angry now when they see you reflect the decades of lies, and when you say you are less than and you doubt yourself!  They won’t put up with that shit anymore.  They know you almost did not make it!  They care my friend!
So, give yourself a damn break!  Decades, and decades of abuse is now over!  Their shit, was just that, a pile of stinking lies, that came from complete and utter nonsense.
I know you will not get restitution.  No one broke the law!  Yet, they almost got away with  destroying your complete and total life!
But you my sweet one, will create your own restitution!  You will help change this world, with others who were violated.  You will help change this world, to stop the pain, the suffering and torture around assigning gender.
You can now show this world that you are bold, brave, and courageous!  You can now tell your story about how after being spiritually, psychiatrically and physically demolished that you can survive hell, and still emerge from the dust and the ashes as a phoenix!
You can now show this world that they can be bold, brave, and courageous too! 
The one’s who broke you, were the one’s who were wrong and did wrong!  They are the one’s who have to change now!
Your only job now is to continue your journey, to shut the door on that past, yet never forget where you come from!
Your job now is to keep this tragedy from happening to another innocent little intersex or transgender child, and to promise to be their God Father and Guardian! 
With much self love,  flowing out to you, and over you, little boy.   Feel that self love that you never felt before in your life, until now!
Fly butterfly!  FLY!   Your wings have finally dried!  You are reborn from a mere caterpillar!
I know you can do it, because you are doing it!
Much love and confidence in you new friend!
Sincerely,
Mx. Anunnaki Ray

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