Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Intersex Traits, Science, Transgender

My cancer scare: 46XX and born with a prostate!

I have had pain with urinating for several years now, problems emptying my bladder, and outright bladder cramping due to spasms. These problems were happening even when I lived as an intersex woman. Now appearing and living as a man, the pain recently became so bad I was finally driven, by sheer desperation, to answers.… Continue reading My cancer scare: 46XX and born with a prostate!

Celebrations, Intersex Activist, Intersex People, Jim Costich, My Intersex Story, Poems, Relationships

Poem: When two lonely aliens become brothers

We both felt like we were from another world. You on one side of the country, and me on the other. And we would not know it until half our lives were over.   You would be born a decade before me. Sharing with pride to all your friends your genitals from another world. All… Continue reading Poem: When two lonely aliens become brothers

Cultural Dysphoria, Homophobia, Intersex Phobia, Poems, Prejudice, Transphobia

Poem: Was it my penis?

The void of emptiness. A hole in my heart.   Was it your assumptions, your embarrassment, your shame? Why won't you call me a friend now? Was it my beard, my penis, my appearing a gay man now? You said I had lied to you when I appeared a woman. Why did my becoming an… Continue reading Poem: Was it my penis?

Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Prejudice, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

How I was medically, and psychiatrically violated as an intersex person.

I was born in 1967 and assigned a female at birth and on my birth certificate. My medical career as a patient started at three years old.  It was after they realized they had a boy on their hands, that was not allowed to be a boy. Back then, they called me "perceptionaly handicapped", and… Continue reading How I was medically, and psychiatrically violated as an intersex person.

Intersex Awareness, Poems, Transgender

Poem: My sweet child, you’ll be blessed.

I was not able to be your father until now. They took that from me.   They say that a man can not grow a baby in his womb.   They say that only a woman can do that. They are wrong. My child, you'll be blessed.  ¤ I was not able to be your… Continue reading Poem: My sweet child, you’ll be blessed.

Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Self-Determination, Transgender

Am I Transgender? Can an intersex person be transgender?

Before I answer, below,  if I am transgender, or can an intersex person be transgender, let me educate about five things first.  Biological Sex,  Transgender, Gender Identity, Gender Expression and Secondary Sex Characteristics.  You can read more here too: LGBTQIA+ Definitions of Human Sexuality. Biological Sex: It is typically assigned, at birth, by the “authorities”, based… Continue reading Am I Transgender? Can an intersex person be transgender?

Emancipation, Freedom, Poems, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

Poem: I am not….. I am…..

I wrote this poem to help explain who I truly am and to invite clarity for the many who seem confused when they describe me incorrectly using words that stuff me into stereotypical boxes:   I am not the bearded woman But thank you For letting me know I am beautiful >< I am not… Continue reading Poem: I am not….. I am…..

Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Genital Integrity, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Traits, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

Eight Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphalus, Clitoromegaly and Pseudo-Penis.

Few realize this simple scientific fact: In the developing fetus, the same spot that develops into a typical (endosex) clitoris or penis is called the Genital Tubercle.  In embryology this spot has also been called the “primordial phallus.” As you can see below, the genitals are very much the same in appearance from 9 to 11… Continue reading Eight Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphalus, Clitoromegaly and Pseudo-Penis.