A common question I am asked: How do you go to the bathroom?

I am asked often: How do you go to the bathroom?

My joking answer and to the point:

I find a bathroom, go into the bathroom, if it is a stall, I shut and lock the stall door, sit down and do my business like you do.

My more serious answer: 

1) I first have to find a safe bathroom.
2) I go in, shut the bathroom stall door.
3) Pray that everyone is minding their own business.
4) Depending on my gender expression, sometimes I even use a bathroom buddy, in case I am bullied or attacked. My fears in the bathroom have far surpassed your fears of me in the bathroom. I assure you.

5) Sometimes I simply hold it if there nowhere safe to go.

I used the Women’s bathroom for the first forty-six years of my life.  Not once in that time did the sky fall because of my phallus.  I now live and appear as a man, so I used the Men’s bathroom.  So far, the sky is not falling due to my vulva and vagina.  Whenever I can I will use a family bathroom or a gender-neutral bathroom, but they are few and far between, and this is for my safety, not yours.

I look forward to an Earth that has all-gender neutral and safe bathrooms.

Watch below, when back in 2016 as a new Gender/INTERSEX activist, I speak out to all this bathroom fear at the Human Rights Ordinance in Jacksonville, Florida.

This video is about Anunnaki Ray’s public comment on Jacksonville’s City Council Public Comment Section for the Human Rights Ordinance, that occurred in January of 2016. This video is in the public domain.

I am Proudly the First in Colorado to get an Intersex Birth Certificate

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