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Bridge Building, Civil Rights, Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice, Self-Determination, Transgender, United Nations

Every Human Deserves Self-Determination

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It is impossible for me to please everyone in the intersex and transgender community.  MLK Jr was NOT liked by all in his community. He moved forward anyway.  I do the best I can to respect everyone.

I always say:  when you have met ONE intersex person you have met ONE intersex person.   Some of us are cis-gender (agree with our birth assignment) and heterosexual, and not needing nor wanting the support of the LGBTQ+ Rainbow.  Yet, some of us appear LGBTQ+ and want those added supports.  It is a balancing act as an educator of Gender/Intersex topics, and as an activist to try to please everyone.  I have the best intentions always and am always open to suggestions.  You can write me in the contact form below.

I  do what I am doing mostly to save children from nonconsenting cosmetic genital surgeries and to teach the world to give ALL children the self-determination of gender.

I am not doing this for financial gain obviously. I am doing this to save children. I am not doing this for fame, to be a rock star or to be the most popular. I am doing this for children. I have made it very clear to the world that it is our self-determination that is a human right.

I have never excluded a soul, not even those who are NOT intersex. I say: Gender/intersex for a reason.  Gender Identity/Biology.   Both different but work together.  This means I include transgender in my human rights quest. 

All humans, regardless of their biological sex being endosex or intersex, have the right to self-determine their own gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation; and it should have NOTHING to do with their genitals, reproductive system, chromosomes, and hormones unless THEY want it to be about that.

No human being should be aborted, physically mutilated, psychiatrically violated, or coerced into having surgery due to laws, social stressors to conform, or being a psychosocial emergency. Those who conform should NOT be the only people who get privilege in society while casting out those who do not conform violently.

For those adults who do elect to have genital reassignment surgery, it is also our human right to alter our bodily appearance.  However, these surgeries should never be done on non-consenting intersex children or due to the coercion of government laws claiming we have no choice but to do so to change our gender identity.

Last,  I feel it is our human right to be who we are naturally, as intersex or transgender people,  and to not have to abide to social rules at the cost of losing our fertility, orgasm and genital integrity.  Unless of course, that is our choice to do so as a consenting adult.

I do not care how one labels themselves, or how one is diagnosed. Human Rights are Human Rights violations and this world has to stop hurting people.

 

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Bridge Building, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Relationships

Why I feel INTERSEX should be added to the LGBTQ rainbow

I feel it is now time to create more allies, create more supportive organizations, and give a way for organizations that want to become intersex inclusive direction on how they can help us end these atrocities that intersex people face.  These human rights violations are in regards to aborting healthy intersex fetuses, and ending non-consenting cosmetic corrective surgeries that are not medically necessary that are being done to intersex infants and children.  Surgeries that often fail miserably, create genitals with poor sexual sensitivity.  Surgeries that often assign us the wrong gender, are not reversible, take away our fertility, and sadly lead to repeat surgeries.  All of this leading to psychological and physical trauma throughout our lives.

Many organizations such as PFLAG are now showing they are welcoming to intersex, and many PFLAG chapters are wanting to become more inclusive to intersex.  However, adding the “I” needs to be done with great care and I personally can be contacted to make sure that this is done responsibly.

Here is my e-mail: anunnakiray@outlook.com and a page dedicated just to PFLAG chapters who are ready to become intersex inclusive: Intersex Inclusive PFLAG Chapters.

Below I will talk about the reason to add the “I” to the acronyms LGBTQ+.  Below I show why I am for this inclusion of intersex:

Reasons to add the “I”:

  1. Hida Viloria, the Executive Director of Oii-USA and Intersex Campaign for Equality shares how intersex people often identify, and how some of us will appear simply either male or female or queer:   How Intersex People Identify.  Co-authored with Dana Zzyyn.
  2. Statistics show that over 50% of us intersex people identify with a sexual orientation that appears gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, pansexual, asexual and more.  Statistics from: Demographics from Oii-Australia
  3. Statistics also show that an intersex person can have any gender identity.   Some intersex people are cis-gender (agree with birth assignment) and conform to either male or female.  Some of us are simply queer, intergender, non-binary or gender nonconforming.  There are also few of us who identify as transgender and intersex both. Statistics from: Demographics from Oii-Australia
  4. Cary Costello Ph.D. talks about how some of us who are intersex sometimes appear as transgender or identify and call ourselves transgender:   Cis Gender, Trans Gender, and Intersex  Cary also shares how homophobia is often behind genetic experts suggesting to terminate and abort healthy intersex fetuses:  On Eugenic Abortion of the Intersex.  An LGBTQ organization is going to have the sensitivity to deal with transphobia and homophobia.
  5. When a person, like myself, realizes that they are intersex instead of a disorder and that their biological sex is intersex, finding a safe space among other sexual minorities is important.  I know it was for my family, especially if we may also appear LGBTQ+.
  6. For me being a part of the LGBTQ+ groups showed me it was ok to be a sexual minority.  It allowed me to feel ok with my appearing gay and transgender.  Thus helping my self-determination and not having shame.  I feel it could give this gift to other intersex people who may also naturally appear LGBTQ+
  7. If an organization takes the time to educate themselves about intersex, it could create more safe spaces for us LGBTQ+ intersex people.  Especially those of us who also identify as transgender, non-binary, nonconforming, or queer.   I see how this happened when the “T” was added to LGB.  Although some trans appear heterosexual, some also now appear lesbian, gay or queer, just like some of us intersex people and this inclusion was very helpful to the transgender community.

Reasons to not add the “I”:

  1. The fear of intersex being mixed up as a gender identity or a sexual orientation problem.
  2. Some intersex people consider themselves a disorder of sex development still, and are happy with their intersex diagnosis and don’t feel their diagnosis has anything to do with being  LGBTQ+ or being a sexual minority.
  3. The way I see it, it could simply be a case of  Homophobia, Transphobia, Queerphobia, Intersex phobia that keeps people from wanting to add the “I”.
  4. Some intersex people are cis-gender (agree with their birth assignment) and also appear heterosexual.  They don’t have any reason to need to be affiliated with LGBTQ+, pride parades or any of it.

My solution to those who don’t want the “I” added:

To alleviate confusion, it is important to educate that intersex is about biological sex and biology, and that the biggest problems we face are the forced assignment of gender, surgically, or hormonally.  Intersex advocates, activists, and educators are trying to end our being aborted when detected in-utero and the non-consenting surgeries on infants and children.   When adding the “I” to your organization it is my hope that you will also make it a part of your effort to make this a safer world for those of us born intersex.  Last, it should be always educated that some intersex people do not appear LGBTQ+, nor need to.

Further, for those intersex people who do not even feel they are intersex, that is their right to not declare it and to embrace their diagnosis or conditions as not intersex.  However, just because they don’t feel they have a variation of intersex, nor want LGBTQI+ support, doesn’t mean that over half of the intersex community won’t benefit from it.  Which again, is a person’s right to self-determination and should always be respected.

With all this said: 

I personally feel that it is time to include the “I”, but only if it is done with great responsibility and education about ending non-consensual genital corrective surgeries on intersex infants and children.  While also guiding people to the correct organizations to support genital integrity.  Here is a list that is always necessary to make sure intersex people get the right supports and are not mixed up with transgender:

Important Organizations to Include on your website if you add Intersex to LGBTQ+:

Below are links that will ensure that parents in the USA, Australia, and other countries, are guided to informed and safe people that will reinforce the self-determination of gender,  and that “No Body is Shameful”, and can support  genital integrity:

Two PDF files you can print and distribute:

1) United Nations INTERSEX Factsheet from United Nations

2) Brief Guidelines for Intersex Allies

Links you should add to your organization’s website: 

1) Intersex Campaign for Equality  AKA Organization Intersex International, USA: Oii-USA.org  

2) Organization Intersex International: Oii-Australia

3) Organization Intersex International Network (World Wide list)

4) Intersex Support for Parents (Closed FB Group)

5) Houston Intersex Society

6) InterACT Advocates for Intersex Youth: interactadvocates.org

7) StopIGM.org (Ending intersex genital mutilation) 

8) Mx. Anunnaki Ray Gender/INTERSEX Activist, Educator, Writer and Speaker



References:  Important articles and data that shows me it is time to include intersex to LGBTQ:  

  1. The Forgotten Vowel: How Intersex Liberation Benefits the Entire LGBTQIA Community By Hida Viloria
  2. How Intersex People Identify By Hida Viloria and Dana Zzyym
  3. Cis Gender, Transgender, and Intersex By Cary Costello Ph.D.
  4. On Eugenic Abortion of the Intersex By Cary G. Costello Ph.D.
  5. THEIR TIME After generations in the shadows, the intersex rights movement has a message for the world: We aren’t disordered and we aren’t ashamed
  6. Demographics of intersex people in Australia borrowed from Oii-Australia:

Quote:  An independent 2015 survey of 272 people born with atypical sex characteristics has provided us with good statistical information for the first time. The survey was led by Dr. Tiffany Jones of the University of New England, and it was published in February 2016. It shows very diverse understandings of intersex bodies, sexes, and genders.

Graphics below borrowed from Demographics from Oii-Australia:

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Assuming that human sexual behavior is similar to Australia globally, as you can now see, the evidence from Oii-Australia shows the need.  Thus helping all infants and children be taught that they are ok being born into the bodies they are born into, regardless of how their sexual orientation, gender identity, or actual biological sex is recognized by this world when they become adults.  Adults who may or may not even need marriage equality, if we grow up to appear gay or lesbian.  Here is a personal blog that shares about how my family needs intersex inclusion: Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.

Regardless of how us intersex people appear to this world when we grow up, the self-determination of gender and our genital integrity is our human right.

Here are Helpful LGBTQIA+ Definitions that help to explain Human Sexuality. 

If you would like guidance on adding the “I” responsibly to your organizations’ acronyms please contact me: 

 

 

 


Important blogs I have written that support adding the “I” to LGBTQ+: 

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Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Gender, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice, Self-Determination, Transgender, United Nations

My thoughts about the Third Gender Box, Gender Neutral or Gender X


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I was born with intersex variations, here is my autobiography.   My body does not comply with the rules that would put me into either the biological male box or the biological female box. So at my birth, and during my life, and up until the emancipation of my true gender, I was forced, mostly by social expectations, to conform to the female box when that was not my true gender.

As you know, at our birth they can mark either the Male box, Female box.  For many of us, our true biological sex cannot be marked on most forms.  Some believe we need a third box, gender-neutral, or gender X box,  for those of us born intersex, gender variant, non-conforming gender, non-binary gender, or transgender.

When I started to think about this option of a third gender box, I realize that it is not as simple as adding a third box or gender X option on our birth certificates.   In reality, there are some really good reasons to do this for consenting adults, and some possible really bad consequences to doing this with infants and children.   Below I write about the Pros and Cons, the way I see it, and a rather radical solution is given at the end of this blog.

Before I go into the option of a third gender box though, and how I feel about this, I need to first educate you about what intersex means, since few understand about us.  The below was taken from the United Nations’s Fact Sheet on Intersex:

What does ‘intersex’ mean?

Intersex people are born with sex characteristics (including genitals, gonads and chromosome patterns) that do not fit typical binary notions of male or female bodies.

Intersex is an umbrella term used to describe a wide range of natural bodily variations. In some cases, intersex traits are visible at birth while in others, they are not apparent until puberty. Some chromosomal intersex variations may not be physically apparent at all.

According to experts, between 0.05% and 1.7% of the population is born with intersex traits – the upper estimate is similar to the number of red-haired people.

Being intersex relates to biological sex characteristics, and is distinct from a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity. An intersex person may be straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual or asexual, and may identify as female, male, both or neither.

Because their bodies are seen as different, intersex children and adults are often stigmatized and subjected to multiple human rights violations, including violations of their rights to health and physical integrity, to be free from torture and ill-treatment, and to equality and non- discrimination.

To read more from the United Nations please go HERE



Now that you understand what it means to be born intersex I will share my thoughts.

Seven Possible Negative Consequences  if our Government offers  third gender, gender X,  gender neutral, option:

  1. Some intersex people are happy with their birth assignment being either male or female, and would not want it any other way.  Simply due to one thing, prejudice.  If they had been thrown into a third box at birth, they would then be obvious intersex sexual minorities.
  2. If intersex infants were marked the third gender box at birth or the gender X box, we would not be able to live stealth later in life (not known to the public).  Anywhere where we have to prove our gender or show our birth certificate, everyone would instantly know we are an intersex sexual minority. The consequences in a society that has much prejudice around this could be dreadful, especially in a world that offers few laws to protect LGBTQIA+ people.
  3. If assigned at birth the third box or gender X, once again the self-determination of gender taken away. It is no different than experts deciding for us, male or female.
  4. If an intersex infant is put into the third box at birth, it could be more of a stigma for the parents of the intersex child, that could lead to the very surgeries many of us intersex advocates and activists are trying to stop.  Surgeries that could be justified in order to get their child out of this third box.  Once again, taking away the self-determination of gender for the child.  Note:  I have spoken to other intersex advocates and activist, in countries that provide a third box or gender X box. They have all voiced concern around cosmetic genital surgeries showing an increase.  Note: Surgeries that can take away sensation, fertility, and sexual pleasure later in life. Not to mention, that the wrong gender may be assigned.
  5. Right now, if they detect some forms of intersex in-utero, through testing, a genetic specialist can suggest aborting that intersex fetus.  Even though the United Nations states that we born with human bodily variations, most doctors still call us a “disorder”, “syndrome” and “condition”.   If parents had to worry about their child being an obvious minority with a third gender box or Gender X box, this might increase the eugenics and genocide of intersex humans through abortion.
  6. It also seems that a third gender box continues this patriarchal and misogynist views of the world. Where even typical females are seen as the “weaker sex”.  A third box, or “gender X”  person would definitely be faced with similar prejudice, if not worse!  A third box could simply continue cultural dysphoria around intersex bodies unless our society was able to accept human bodily variations better.
  7. Last, the suicide rate is already high for all sexual minorities, it could go higher if we were marginalized and prejudiced against even more with a third box, or gender X box.  Especially if we do not want this option.

My thoughts about how this could effectTransgender People:

  1. If transgender people were forced to mark the third gender box or gender X box, this would take away their right to self-determination of gender.  Some transgender are simply either male or female. Just because they were assigned wrong at birth should not take away their validity as a person who might identify binary male or female.
  2. However, some transgender people identify as gender non-conforming, non-binary, gender queer,  both male or female, or neither.  So as adults, having this option of third gender, gender neutral, or gender X, could be very validating and confirming of their existence and greatly welcomed.

Two Possible Solutions that could work for everyone:

  1.  I feel it is a Human and Civil Rights solution to Give all people, of adult consenting age, the choice to pick a third box, or gender X option.  After all, at eighteen a person can legally change their gender to the opposite of their birth assignment if they are transgender.  This also is allowed to happen when us intersex people are assigned the wrong gender at birth.  It only stands to reason a person should be granted a third gender option or gender X if they feel they are both male or female, or neither.
  2. Here is a radical solution: Get rid of all gender assignment at birth and offer the self-determination of gender for every human being on the planet.  Along with a few out here, I believe that at our birth no one should be assigned gender.  Yes, this is a radical solution to some.   However, when one believes that the self-determination of gender is a human right, it stands to reason that this should become an obvious solution.

In closing, I  realize that the second solution is rather a radical one.  However, I believe that the self-determination of gender is a human right.  No matter what genitals we are born with I believe this to be true.  I believe that our genital integrity is a human right too,  and those cosmetic surgeries should stop in infants and children.  I also believe that transgender children should never be told that they are in the wrong body nor made to believe that they need genital surgery to conform.  

I will never feel that our reproductive system, genitals, hormones, and chromosomes determine our gender, and simply never will.  

So, I end this blog with a question to you:  Is time to Get rid of all the gender boxes? 



About my collaboration with Judi Herring, M.D., who believes it is time to “(un)know gender”:

I’m a Gender/Intersex Activist, who works collaboratively with Judi Herring, MD. Our collaboration grew organically through a series of interactions, among which, Dr. Herring’s 2014 TEDx Jacksonville talk, Gender Bound: Lessons from the world between, was key.  I have included the link to that, fourteen minute, TEDx below for your viewing.

In the talk, Dr. Herring delivered a message, which resonates with me, “It is time to (un)know gender.”:

“There is no question. The time is now.”

Judi Herring, M.D.

“It is time to stop cutting the genitals of infants and children just so that we can bind them into M-F boxes.

It is time to stop cutting the freedom of people, by applying labels, nonsense words – homosexual, bisexual, intersex, intersexual, transsexual, transgender – groin-focused words that bind us into in-groups and out-groups, entrenched in a state of perpetual dispute; destructive words that keep us bound, all of humanity bound in the realm of UVT – Us versus Them.

It is time that we unbind ourselves from thousands of years of certainties that place our reproductive parts, our reproductive potential at the center of who we are and how we relate.

It is time to raise our gaze from between the legs, so we can see. So we can see that it is our mind that is at the center of who we are and how we relate.

In my journey from one cell to sentience, through some magic of biology, through the wonders and the miracles of nature, my mind was embodied. I stand before you the embodiment of a mind. You are the embodiment of a mind. We are embodied minds, not bodies that happen to have minds attached to them so we can function and move and reproduce.

It is time to transcend our physical boundaries, to come together across these physical differences that divide us.

It’s time to unknow gender.”



If you would like to read more about this topic see the below links.

California the first to offer Gender Neutral as an option for Birth certificates: California 1st to Allow Gender-Neutral Birth Certificate

A Groundbreaking, Legal Case, in fighting for Third Gender in the USA: 

  1. Here is an article about Dana Zzynn, a person born intersex, who identifies as third gender.  Quote:   “A federal judge in Denver ordered the U.S. Department of State to reconsider its denial of a passport to a Navy veteran from Colorado who identifies as neither male or female, court documents showed on Tuesday.”  Judge Orders US to Reconsider Denying Passport to Intersex Veteran; NOV 23 2016.  And Lambda legal In Court Case: Zzyym v. Kerry

New York City Issues Nation’s First Intersex Birth Certificate:  

  1. ‘The protocol of the day was to lie’: NYC issues first US ‘intersex’ birth certificate
  2. Nation’s First Known Intersex Birth Certificate Issued in NYC

The nations second to have an Intersex Birth Certificate:  Hida Viloria: “I have an intersex birth certificate!”.

 

Articles are written by Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.; Tiger Devore, Ph.D., and Morgan Carpenter:

  1. The Problematic Ideology of Natural Sex By Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.
  2. Cis Gender, Transgender, and Intersex. By Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.
  3. Five Myths that Hurt Intersex People By Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.
  4. Cis Gender, Ipso Gender By Cary G. Costello, Ph.D.
  5. The Inbetween Sex / An interview with intersexual Tiger Devore, Ph.D.
  6. Male or female? Babies born on the sliding sex scale; With Tiger Devore, Ph.D. – BBC News
  7. Miraculous Thinking By Morgan Carpenter

My related Blogs: 

  1. Five ways I show that the Male/Female Binary is a Myth, and a Social Construct. Nature has always Created Sexual Variety and Diversity.
  2. Two diagnoses that bring in the cash $$ for surgeons, psychiatrist, and therapist: Disorders of Sex Development, and Gender Dysphoria
  3. INTERSEX Erasure Hurts! Examples of Misguidance from Doctors.
  4. Why I don’t like saying “non-binary gender” anymore.
  5. A Male/Female Mosaic Brain Proves We Need the Self-Determination of Gender
  6. I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.
  7. Seven Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphalus, and Clitoromegaly.

 

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Civil Rights, Freedom, Human Rights, Poems, Prejudice

Poem: The Alien and the Empty Bucket

 

I am 100% alien,

until law says otherwise

I could die without my human rights

African American Slaves  were called animals
Law had to finally say otherwise

The Civil Rights movement changed things

Black Lives Matter

They are human

If I die with human dignity

having full human rights

It will have to be given to me

I can not take what the government

will not give

to those of us born intersex

It is

an empty bucket

I can not own what is not mine

It is

an empty bucket

I will fight for my human rights

I will fight for our human rights

I will insist on it

I will declare it as mine even…..

But, I will not own it

until it is given to me

I can’t….
because it is an illusion to do so
an empty bucket

I could die

an alien

By Mx. Anunnaki Ray

December 14th, 2016

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United Nations INTERSEX Fact Sheet

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Related Blogs: 

Why did I name myself Anunnaki Ray?

Why do I feel like A VISITING ALIEN?

Related Poems: 

Poem: I AM A MAN

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Anonymous Messages, Bathrooms, Civil Rights, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness

An Anonymous Message From a Parent of an intersex child: What happens with the bathrooms when she grows up?

The Anonymous Messages

What happens with the bathrooms when she grows up? 

I often share the messages of parents to help change culture.  So you can hear their words, and not just my own all the time.  I do hope you take the time to read this one.  It is heart crushing.  This world has to stop the genital assignment of gender.  Errors are being made, and they are not rare.  The United Nations has declared genital correction surgeries to end.  It is time.  Please read this parent’s message below about their child, bathrooms, and growing up:

 

When our child was born I saw just a few feet in front of us. All the information was like running down a never ending tunnel. No true direction from doctors just what needed to be done in the moment. I engaged with others but reluctantly as I felt very scared of the things I could not fully understand. After surgery this moment of concern and regret over came me. What just happened to my baby. I did find a way out of the tunnel but not till it was to late. The hardest thing for a person/parent is, to make a choice for any individual that can’t express their own wishes. In hindsight it’s very clear, just don’t. Unless it’s a dyer life threatening situation. Recently our family traveled up North to Pennsylvania for Thanksgiving. We had to pass through North Carolina and of course stop and pee. 3 kids and a dog, means frequency in bathroom stops. I knew that Joey would not have any issues using the women’s bathroom, after all she is an 8 year old and no matter the gender of a child as a mom I would have accompanied my son just the same. But in this moment I realized that she is getting older and in a few years this could matter . As it does for many intersex individuals. So I went back to the place of anger when this monumental human rights violation happened. I then relived the decisions made years earlier. A man made part was installed like a car part. We had no option to delay the infamous M or F on the birth certificate. We had to pick her gender before any human could process what just happened.
I share this as a real moment that not only parents process but Intersex individuals do. There are so many amazing moments in between and life’s goes on but there is always that injustice hanging around. There is always that little reminder that challenges are ahead. I took her picture by the women’s bathroom in N.C as a reminder of how heartbreaking, the reality truly is. This is my reminder to always educate and fight for all rights . To help stop surgery without consent, to open up more dialog for all spectrums of intersex individuals. To just listen to those in need. To be a friend when one is needed. To be a parent and not forget that my child is intersex, and her thoughts always matter.

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Anonymous Messages, Bathrooms, Human Rights, Prejudice, Relationships

About intersex children and bathrooms: An Anonymous Message from the mother of an Intersex Child.

 

Anonymous Message #3:

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More about bathrooms:

I first want to thank my family and friends for all your love and support!
This is for the rest of you.
Let me explain a few simple facts.
I support you and your children. I support each post where your children have been a victim of some insane rule, law, bulling event, and issues that has unfortunately invaded their precious little world. Would it be wrong to say you would do everything you could to protect your child? Would it not be true that you use social media to alert the world that your child is in harms way do to social perception ? When March of dimes needs help, I am there. When you post about a child that is beating the odds despite that fact they were born with down-syndrome, I rally for you. I rally for autism awareness, teenage suicide reduction,, anorexia and obesity. I rally for you because I care. I care about the well being of your child’s future. I care that they have an amazing quality of life. I care that you have to go through something so difficult. I extend my heart to you.
So for me , I am rallying for my child with or without you. I support her right to have an amazing quality of life. I want her to feel okay being who she is. I want her to beat the odds.
You think these bathroom laws are a joke? They are not and they do not take away from the many other environments and human concerns that are happening. As a parent can you see why not only I but others are fighting to restore basic human rights? You change where my child goes to the bathroom and you will label her as an outcast. You will subject her to hate,and discrimination.
She did not make a life choice in the womb. She did not decide to be born intersex. She had no idea the world of hate she was opening her eyes to. She did not know that society would require her to be fixed.
She did not choose Partial Androgen Insensitivity syndrome. She was biologically born different then you and I.
In my opinion, she was born perfect and I will make sure that she embraces being intersex, and knows that she no longer needs to be fixed. So if you for a second think that the controversy over bathrooms is stupid, take a walk in the day and the life of an intersex individual. Try to conceptualize what it is like to be born this way. Try to imagine having doctors decide to take a knife to your genitals and pick your gender for you before you can even speak your first word. Please open your eyes beyond politics and religion and see what is right in front of you. TRUTH!


More: Anonymous Messages from others

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Christian Theologian Megan K. DeFranza, A True Ally and Bridge Builder

Educational Intersex Videos, Websites, Blogs, Authors, and Articles.

If you would like to share an anonymous message, here is a way: 

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