I now appear a MINORITY in many ways. I am the SAME PERSON, only my labels have changed. I have much to share with this world about hate, prejudice, and judgment now. When I appeared a GIRL to this world: At one time I was considered Cisgender, Heterosexual, and had White Female… Continue reading How I lost all my Privilege
Short Answer: It is up to the intersex person to decide if they are transgender or not. So, never assume and always ask the person. Long Answer: Definitions First: Cisgender = When an Endosex (not born intersex) person, agrees with their birth assignment. Ipso Gender = When an Intersex person agrees with their birth assignment.… Continue reading Can an Intersex person be Transgender?
I wrote this poem to help explain who I truly am and to invite clarity for the many who seem confused when they describe me incorrectly using words that stuff me into stereotypical boxes: I am not the bearded woman But thank you For letting me know I am beautiful >< I am not… Continue reading Poem: I am not….. I am…..
One's self-determination of gender can come in many forms, and it is not always the male/female binary. There are other options out there! All too often, I see that some are not even told or shown that non-binary options are out there. We are expected to live up to this list of expectations, which come… Continue reading Do I pass? What Gender am I?
In 2014, I virtually met a man, who dealt with some of the same metabolic problems as ours. Facebook had connected him to me through a support group I used to run. I was his first contact who dealt with this same condition of ours. At the time I was pretty much roommates with my husband.… Continue reading I CAN EXIST NOW! Thanks to a Lesbian trapped in a hairy man’s body.
As a person born intersex, October 2014, I desperately needed to reclaim my true gender. It was for health, mental and spiritual reasons. It had become life or death for me at this point. To get help, I had to seek out a transgender doctor, because no other doctor would go against my assigned gender… Continue reading Why was I diagnosed with GENDER DYSPHORIA?
The answer is: NO Here is why: To me, gender is a spectrum as vast as the Universe and is as personal as each and every person's experience here on Earth. Gender is dictated by too many factors to mention here in the time allotted for one simple blog post. Some try to give gender… Continue reading Can We Really Identify All the Genders Out There?
I have a few people in my life who are really trying to be good allies. I genuinely appreciate this. As a minority, in many ways, I know that it is not always easy to accept a person like me in your life. I know that most mean well, but here is the problem, with… Continue reading Dear Ally, Please Don’t Deny you are a Person of Privilege to Love Me
Facebook allows us to see your memories. I am not so sure it is good to look back at times. A HUGE number of my "friends" vanished, or had to be blocked as they were revealed as uneducated about intersex, haters, bigots, and simply unable to accept me. Even educating them that I was an… Continue reading When Saliva Turns to Spit!