James has been in my life for so long I can't imagine a day when he was not in my life. When a relationship lasts this long, it is as if they become a part of you literally. Especially after surviving my transistion, from woman to man and him saying and convincing me he now… Continue reading My husband’s message to me and the world.
Dear Senator(s) and whom it will concern, RE: SB 225 (Wiener) | January 20, 2021 I was born in 1967, with a rare form of Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia and with non-life-threatening genitals that made my mom feel that I might be her son. She was going to name me Anthony Ray. Closer inspection made them… Continue reading My Letter: SB 225 (Wiener) – My Intersex Story
By Jim Costich February 2020 This is the third in a series of three impressionistic writings. These aren’t formal essays but rather are meant to take you along on an emotional journey. It is autobiographical but in no way complete. The music elements are essential because I can not communicate what I’m hoping… Continue reading This is My Father’s World (3 of 3)
When I faced the streets alone I looked up into the Florida winter sky The stars seemed further away than usual God nowhere to be found in my heart I thought I was alone I now know God was there but not at the time just darkness you see, boys don't cry... or do they?… Continue reading Poem: When I faced the streets alone
All my life false and real, right and wrong tangled Playing with the moon, ridiculing wind, listening to birds Many years wasted seeing the mountain covered with snow This winter I suddenly realize snow makes a mountain. - Eihel Dogen For those who do not know, this is an example of a Koan. A Koan… Continue reading A Zen Koan: The winter of my life.
A conversation starter: Was my husband at one time a person that could have been considered a "pervert" or a "chaser" for being curious and wanting to date me, and have sex with me, an intersex trans person? My answer is "yes". And yet, here we are thirty years later in the same marriage. Yet, today I… Continue reading Is my husband a pervert?
Jim Costich June 30th, 2019 It had to be May because I was sitting in my two rope swing hanging from an apple tree covered in blossoms and honeybees. I remember looking down at my Buster Brown’s swinging higher and higher, sun filtering through the leaves and singing at the top of my four-year-old… Continue reading This is my Father’s World (Part 1 of 3)
Episode Info: Anunnaki, who was born intersex, was raised as a female, the gender his parents chose. Annunaki and James’ marriage survived Anunnaki’s transition to living as a man — how he identifies — and James’ adjustment to life as a gay man. Click here to listen: What It's Like WJCT Podcast: Anunnaki and… Continue reading What It’s Like: A WJCT Podcast with Anunnaki and his husband James
Four years ago today I emancipated my true gender identity to nonconforming gay androgynous man. As of December 19th, I am officially FOUR years old. Four years old, you say? How can that be? Well, in the transgender community we often count our birthday from the date we started our transition against our… Continue reading How I became pronoun fluid at four years old.
By Jim Costich December 2018 Being gay is not just a sexual orientation. It's a gender. Or rather there are different genders of gay. This surprised a friend of mine who is a tad new to gay culture. He didn't realize that among gay men gendered pronouns change in mid-sentence such as: "We had the worst… Continue reading Gender, Sex and Orientation Over(your)lap