A conversation starter: Was my husband at one time a person that could have been considered a "pervert" or a "chaser" for being curious and wanting to date me, and have sex with me, an intersex trans person? My answer is "yes". And yet, here we are thirty years later in the same marriage. Yet, today I… Continue reading Is my husband a pervert?
Little did we know, we married on Pete Burns Birthday, August 5th, 1995. If you do not know Pete was a beautiful man in the '80s and the lead singer for "Dead or Alive". His legacy lives on for breaking the gender stereotypes and living as a beautiful man! I would not discover… Continue reading Our 24th Wedding Anniversary and Serendipity with Pete Burns
Here is my blog in response to lots of people assuming that my gender identity would be "Gender Neutral" due to being born intersex. This assumption is profound and not accurate for so many of us born anatomically intersex. A "Gender Neutral" birth certificate is good only for people whose gender identity is gender… Continue reading My Anatomical Intersex Body Does Not Create My Gender Identity
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpPTf-00ab0 The Source Page for my TEDx Talk. ~.V.~
Our kids are proof that it is about educating only about the male/female binary, and intersex erasure, that messes up the truth around natural bodily variations existing in us humans. You see, our children were taught that intersex bodies and transgender bodies existed. We educated them as soon as I realized I was not a… Continue reading The FEMALE PENIS and the MALE VAGINA; and explaining this to our children.
What a Ride! I watched a November 2015 Dr. Phil show episode entitled, Mama's Little Boy or Daddy's Little Girl: Identity Confusion or Brainwashing?. The reason I’m giving that show space in my blog is to illustrate the way NOT to advocate for intersex human rights, and I almost got coerced into it. The… Continue reading Why I said ‘no’ to Dr. Phil.
How did my husband and I become a sexual minority? First of all, I did not want to be a sexual minority. None of us get to pick how we are born. I was born as a 46, XX Intersex Person. My husband and I fell in love back in 1989. He never knew that… Continue reading Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.
You are not broken to me.... Loving you for who you are Who you have always been to me I do not care about all those scars This world puts you through hell They convinced you I would leave you if you honored your true self How could I leave you after what they… Continue reading Poem: You are not broken to me….
For fun, I compare myself to a seahorse dad. For it is the seahorse dads who give birth. Yes, I am a gestational father, a term I got from my intersex friend. I am an intersex person, who identifies as being male and gender nonconforming. This means my biological sex (sex characteristics) is intersex,… Continue reading I am a SEAHORSE Dad