The two of us We were both young with curly hair Both with "too many" earrings Mistaken as siblings Misfits in many ways not lovers Hidden within me a man You got to see a woman back then You loved me When no one else would Medically abused Psychiatrically misused Corrective raped and beaten They… Continue reading Poem: Two Loti Flowers | Our 25th Silver Aniversary
The United States 2020 Census didn't include my sex. You see, my legal existence is not intersex, the way that I was born. September 2018 this erroneous error on my original birth certificate was corrected to my true sex: intersex. I am Proudly the First in Colorado to get an Intersex Birth… Continue reading The United States 2020 Census Didn’t Include My Sex!
A conversation starter: Was my husband at one time a person that could have been considered a "pervert" or a "chaser" for being curious and wanting to date me, and have sex with me, an intersex trans person? My answer is "yes". And yet, here we are thirty years later in the same marriage. Yet, today I… Continue reading Is my husband a pervert?
Little did we know, we married on Pete Burns Birthday, August 5th, 1995. If you do not know Pete was a beautiful man in the '80s and the lead singer for "Dead or Alive". His legacy lives on for breaking the gender stereotypes and living as a beautiful man! I would not discover… Continue reading Our 24th Wedding Anniversary and Serendipity with Pete Burns
Here is my blog in response to lots of people assuming that my gender identity would be "Gender Neutral" due to being born intersex. This assumption is profound and not accurate for so many of us born anatomically intersex. A "Gender Neutral" birth certificate is good only for people whose gender identity is gender… Continue reading My Anatomical Intersex Body Does Not Create My Gender Identity
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpPTf-00ab0 The Source Page for my TEDx Talk. ~.V.~
Our kids are proof that it is about educating only about the male/man & female/woman binary, and intersex erasure, that messes up the truth around natural bodily variations existing in us humans. You see, our children were taught that intersex bodies and transgender bodies existed. We educated them as soon as I realized I was… Continue reading A Woman’s PENIS and A Man’s VAGINA; and explaining this to our children.
What a Ride! I watched a November 2015 Dr. Phil show episode entitled, Mama's Little Boy or Daddy's Little Girl: Identity Confusion or Brainwashing?. The reason I’m giving that show space in my blog is to illustrate the way NOT to advocate for intersex human rights, and I almost got coerced into it. The… Continue reading Why I said ‘no’ to Dr. Phil.
How did my husband and I become a sexual minority? First of all, I did not want to be a sexual minority. None of us get to pick how we are born. I was born as a 46, XX Intersex Person. My husband and I fell in love back in 1989. He never knew that… Continue reading Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.