All my life false and real, right and wrong tangled Playing with the moon, ridiculing wind, listening to birds Many years wasted seeing the mountain covered with snow This winter I suddenly realize snow makes a mountain. - Eihel Dogen For those who do not know, this is an example of a Koan. A Koan… Continue reading A Zen Koan: The winter of my life.
A conversation starter: Was my husband at one time a person that could have been considered a "pervert" or a "chaser" for being curious and wanting to date me, and have sex with me, an intersex trans person? My answer is "yes". And yet, here we are thirty years later in the same marriage. Yet, today I… Continue reading Is my husband a pervert?
We both felt like we were from another world. You on one side of the country, and me on the other. And we would not know it until half our lives were over. You would be born a decade before me. Sharing with pride to all your friends your genitals from another world. All… Continue reading Poem: When two lonely aliens become brothers
Little did we know, we married on Pete Burns Birthday, August 5th, 1995. If you do not know Pete was a beautiful man in the '80s and the lead singer for "Dead or Alive". His legacy lives on for breaking the gender stereotypes and living as a beautiful man! I would not discover… Continue reading Our 24th Wedding Anniversary and Serendipity with Pete Burns
I morn and grieve for that little boy who had no support. Who was not allowed to emerge, who was told by his family and experts that he was a girl, that he had to be a girl. I use to cry alot and feel despair that led to only suicide and self destruction. I… Continue reading Finally, I am the man I was supposed to be.
The beauty of having an ally like Philip Batterham, the President of the International Genetics Federation: My TEDx: “Born Intersex: We are Human!” My Source Page for TEDx Jacksonville, 2018: “BORN INTERSEX, We are HUMAN!” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WpPTf-00ab0 I am Proudly the First in Colorado to get an Intersex Birth Certificate Poem: Your Open Mind Poem: This… Continue reading To the Right Wing: I exist even if your mind is closed.
This documentary is now at several Film Festivals. It is our hope that the world can see it soon! Please go here: To Watch the Trailer "It’s society that needs to be healed, not us." Stories of Intersex and Faith has created transformational experiences for individual viewers, faith communities, and physicians. Five powerful stories, gently and… Continue reading Stories of Intersex And Faith: a documentary my friends & family are in.
A friend shared this quote with me when I was dying and saving myself from the horrors of forced gender assignment back in 2014. Back then, I felt like I was drowning in the middle of the cold Atlantic Ocean with no raft, no life jacket. Abandoned by those who should have cared, but did… Continue reading Why medical prejudice and malpractice didn’t kill me.
I exist and yet you deny it. I exist and yet you are so intersex phobic, you can't even call it what it is: I N T E R S E X I exist and yet you tell the parents of babies born like me that I am a liar! I legally exist, and you… Continue reading Don’t say you Care, you don’t!
Imagine my world: Not one movie, show, book, article, comic, etc. include intersex people without educating or sensationalizing. Imagine my world: I have to educate calmly. I can't show anger. Even though I was violated and have few human rights. Imagine my world: To fit in I have ALWAYS felt like… Continue reading Poem: Imagine my world