Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Poems, Self-Determination

Poem: Them | By Sara Kaplan

They

look in the mirror and it is not right.

They

strive for perfection, and what’s reflected back doesn’t work for them.

They

aren’t comfortable being bound by boxes and binaries.

They

are themselves although that’s an intimidating place to be.

They

hold their ground and position with a ferocious stubbornness. Proven first, with their colicky 5-month cry-fest.

They

follow every rule at school, but with angst and woes over perfectionism and a comparison complex.

They

don’t think they are smart, even after seeing an almost all “A” report card.

They

don’t think they have friends, even though it appears they are well-liked.

They

hate their clothing and don’t feel like they “match”. Not the outfit, but their peers.

They

want to be liked and loved.

They

feel different, and frustrated by that.

They

work so hard to bottle everything up. Especially in front of others. They don’t feel safe anywhere else, but home, to come undone.

They

lean into that safety at home to check boundaries and consistency.

They

want to be completely seen, heard, held, and loved.

They

think their life is too difficult, and it’s only going to get harder.

They

are terrified of Trump and owners of apartment buildings.

They

are anxious and frightened about the climate crisis.

They

are sensitive, caring, and loving.

They

are bright beyond schoolwork.

They

are sunshine, smiles, and laughter.

They

are terrified, anxious, and overwhelmed.

They

know who they are, but they don’t know if people are ok with them.

They

care a lot about others’ approval, although seemingly to also give no fucks.

They

are almost 8, and I pray they live a long and happy life.

They

are loved, affirmed, and cared about.

They

have community and role models.

They

are my heart. They must live. They must not give up. They deserve to be a happy carefree kid.

They

are my child.

They are my baby.

 

By Sara Kaplan 

The mother of an intersex child.

February 29th, 2020

Intersex Symbol


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