I often have conversations with people on Facebook, and the comments I share below are an accumulation of responses to this post: Please share a time when it is not safe to share your own or another person's true pronouns. Note: "True Pronouns" are what we have self-determined to reflect our authentic gender identity and… Continue reading When it is not safe to share our pronouns.
A Call for ACTION to our allies. I am asking for language to change regarding pronouns. Please say instead: "Please share your required pronouns with me, but only if you feel safe." Here are my reasons: 1) My pronouns are not preferred, they are required and never negotiable. 2) It is not always safe to… Continue reading A call for action: My pronouns are not “preferred” they are required.
I put out a poll on social media to prove a point about implicit bias and gender identity. It asked: "When you think about Ancient Greek Hermaphrodite Statues what pronouns would you reflexively use to describe that person depicted?" As you can see Most said she/her. Facebook did not offer me a third option,… Continue reading Implicit bias making Hermaphrodites “she/her” and being called an “it”.
Four years ago today I emancipated my true gender identity to nonconforming gay androgynous man. As of December 19th, I am officially FOUR years old. Four years old, you say? How can that be? Well, in the transgender community we often count our birthday from the date we started our transition against our… Continue reading How I became pronoun fluid at four years old.
Since I have chosen to live as my true self, I have been having deep thoughts about this male/female binary. Being born an intersex person in the late 60’s, and even if I had been born now, there is no option to raise me gender neutral, androgynous, or non binary. Even transgender children, and transgender people, are being shoved into these two male/female boxes.
The pressure to conform so great surgeries are performed, and there is much stress to “pass” as the two “proper” and allowed genders, male or female. Which both have been defined culturally and socially by most everyone. The thing is, I do not fit one or the other box and I am not going to force myself anymore either. I was created like this, and I do not feel it is wrong.
I think this obsession for genitals to “pass” as…
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Since I have chosen to live as my true self, I have been having deep thoughts about this male/female binary. Being born an intersex person in the late 60's, and even if I had been born now, there is no option to raise me gender neutral, androgynous, gender non-conforming, or non binary gender. Even transgender children, and… Continue reading Mx. Anunnaki Ray and They, Them, Their, He, Him, His….
Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez 