From the outside people see couples rather simply. We can appear “heterosexual”, “gay”, “lesbian”, or “bi-sexual”. When we realize that nature created a variety of people out there, we now realize that couples can be many different types of people. When one stops to think about all the variety of bodies out there, such as intersex or transgender, these labels, gay, lesbian, and bi-sexual, sometimes don’t even make sense.
Gender expression is how we appear to the outside world. We can appear a typical male, a typical female, or we can appear gender nonconforming and androgynous.
Sexual orientation is who we desire to have sex with, and romantic attraction is who we desire to have a relationship with. Sexual and romantic attractions have to do with what we find attractive in gender expression (how we dress or act), or what kind of bodies, we want to have sexual relationships with (our genitals and reproductive organs).
Thanks to nature’s diversity couples come in many varieties, as I have shown you below:
If you need help understanding the symbols below, please visit this page I created: All the Gender Symbols
Since my biological sex is intersex, and my husband’s sex is a typical biological male, this is what our symbols ALWAYS appeared as:
Since my gender expression is now an androgynous/gender non-conforming male, we now appear a “gay couple” to this world. However, when my gender expression was female, we appeared a “heterosexual” couple to this world. We legally married in 1995, as a “heterosexual couple”, and our marriage was, and remains legal. We have been together for almost twenty-eight years now, and have two biological children, and one adopted daughter.
You can learn about all the Gender Symbols and Helpful LGBTQIA+ Definitions here:
To learn more about my intersex story, I also wrote:
And a silly poem about me: