Hope, Our Intersex Love Story, Relationships

My husband’s message to me and the world.

James has been in my life for so long I can’t imagine a day when he was not in my life. When a relationship lasts this long, it is as if they become a part of you literally. Especially after surviving my transistion, from woman to man and him saying and convincing me he now loves me more.

He was diagnosed with CMML Leukemia in September 2020, and we almost lost him to ICU and full life support. He somehow survived, against the odds, when his doctors did not expect him to live. Our kids even got special permission to visit him one last time (during a pandemic), hooked up to the machines, to say goodbye. I would not allow the kids to say goodbye. Instead, we encouraged him, even though he was induced in a coma and we didn’t know if he could hear us.

He made it! He had to rehabilitate from muscle wasting, being able to walk again and care for himself. He had to survive chemo to put his leukemia into remission. On February 26th, 2021, he was admitted to fight for his life once again as he prepares for a stem cell transplant. He will be in the hospital for over thirty days. I can’t be with him due to Covid19 and his immune system being taken away from him to prepare for receiving his donor’s stem cells.

I share below his thoughts and his hope to survive CMML Leukemia and potentially go into full remission. With me disabled since birth and him no longer working, we cannot make all the bills, and government assistance is mostly failing us. The only reason we are surviving this is with our three teen kid’s having to work now, a bit from the government, and the extra income I am somehow suceeding to create.

Help us bring James home soon!

He wrote me this message before he was hospitalized and wanted me to publish it to the world, with our last photo together, the day before he was admitted (the orange ribbon is for Leukemia):


James’ message to me and the world:

Anunnaki and I have been together for over thirty years. Being married to an Intersex activist has been something of an adventure. I love him very much for who he is. He has been an inspiration to me. We have had our ups and downs over the years. Since he decided to live as his true self, a man, my world changed in so many ways. It was not easy for me in the beginning. My fears of being seen as a gay man were at the forefront of my mind. I now accept that the world sees me as a gay man, which I’m proud to be. It saddens me to see how the world treats Anunnaki.

There are some really nasty people out there. I’m sure if they took the time to get to know him, they would see the beautiful person I see. We have been abandoned by so many people for no logical reason. I’m grateful for the people who never left us. I can’t imagine my life without him. He is part of me and always will be. I haven’t always been the easiest person to live with, but he has stuck with me, even when I’m at my worst. For that, I’m extremely grateful to still have him in my life.

I’m hoping to have many more years with him after the bone marrow transplant. He is my motivation to get through it. I would also like to thank everyone who has supported us and been there for our family through all of this. “

If you could please consider donating, it will help us pay for the Hospital Hospitality House we have to live at soon, for three months. Medicaid won’t pay a dime of this, and we now live off SSDI only. Yet, we have no choice; he has to live near by the University hospital until he is physically capable to be reunited with his family over an hour away.

We are slowly finding a way to make this miracle happen. If you appreciate the work I do for this world, please donate (links below), even if it is simply a few bucks. It all adds up if there are many of you!

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Our two Symbols Interconnected


You can donate at Venmo @Anunnaki-Marquez

or Zelle: anunnakiray@gmail.com


My heart breaks but I have to be strong for him

Poem: Two Loti Flowers | Our 25th Silver Aniversary

What It’s Like: A WJCT Podcast with Anunnaki and his husband James

Our 24th Wedding Anniversary and Serendipity​ with Pete Burns​

I was born perfect, and I am lovable. Thank you, United Nations.

Is my husband a pervert? 

Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.


1 thought on “My husband’s message to me and the world.”

  1. Hi Anunnaki,

    I would like to send your family a gift through Venmo. Can you share the last 4 digits of your phone number? Venmo is requesting it for verification.

    Blessings, Sonya

    On Mon, Mar 1, 2021, 6:29 AM Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez wrote:

    > Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez posted: ” James has been in my life for so long I > can’t imagine a day when he was not in my life. When a relationship lasts > this long, it is as if they become a part of you literally. Especially > after surviving my transistion, from woman to man and him saying and” >


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