Joey is an amazing spirit, child, and has pure innocence. At nine years old she is very clear about her gender identity and embraces their feminine side, and yet still has a great passion for sports and aspirations to become a football player! May this world awaken gently to allow such amazing children to grow, bloom and become. It is her hope that she changes the rules of the NFL and that they will soon allow capable women! Look out world! Joey is coming!
Here is a message from Tiescha, Joey’s mother:
To watch a child grow into themselves is an remarkable journey to experience. Joey is an XY Intersex girl that embraces her feminine side along with naturally erasing the line in the sand of gender conformity.
She has a beautiful dream in life of seeing women join the NFL. From an early age she found a lovely balance of enjoying fashion, dolls, baking, loving anything Hot Pink and playing football. Any given day she walks in the house covered in dirt head to toe after hours of running slant routs, showers and puts on her Monster High PJ’s, plays with her doll house and works on her new fashion designs of Hot Pink dress with frills and sequins.
I believe one day our Joey will help others make the dream of women in football real. Her self-determination will take her there, not her chromosomes, or lack of testosterone production, her dream will get her there. She believes in possibilities and we believe in her. She hopes to show other kids they can be who they are and it’s okay to be Intersex. According to Joey it’s, okay to love football and play with Dolls, Pick flowers, and enjoy fishing, get a pedicure and play with bugs.
Here is a message from Joey’s mother, Tiescha, explaining why they allowed Joey to share her aspirations with the world:
“In the past few years, Joey started to ask questions about herself that were somewhat complicated to answer as a parent. We evolved with her and started using resources online to articulate what we could not find words for. She rapidly became more self-aware and in the past year found peace with who she is. Her questions did not stop, she began to conduct her own searches online and wanted to meet other Intersex children. This lead to her wanting to help others in learning (In her words) “It’s okay to be Intersex.” As a baby Joey was subjected to surgery, she never had a say and her voice was stolen. We vowed to never allow this to happen again. She is now using her voice and has our unconditional support, love, and guidance.”
Every Intersex Awareness Day is a very special day for me. However, this year is far more special. This year I would like to introduce a very brave little intersex girl named Joey. To our amazement there we were in the same city! Tiescha Thomasson is the amazing mother, my personal friend, and who is also the founder of the Facebook Group Intersex Support for Parents. I am the moderator and administrator to this group, where we gather with many important people in the intersex community to give support and guidance to the parents of intersex children.
You see, Tiesha’s daughter was born intersex. With the blessing of her parents, she comes out to the world to show all her pride this year with me as my pirate persona Pirate Antonio Phoenix! So now the world knows that Anunnaki merges forever with Antonio and for the intersex children I walk forth as both!
Let me also share a message from Joey’s mother, Tiescha, about how as parents they came to terms with agreeing to their daughter coming out to the world today. Here is Tiesha’s message of giving Joey, her daughter, her blessing to come out to the world:
In the past few years Joey started to ask questions about herself that were somewhat complicated to answer as a parent.
We evolved with her and started using resources online to articulate what we could not find words for.
She rapidly became more self-aware and in the past year found peace with who she is. Her questions did not stop, she began to conduct her own searches online and wanted to meet other Intersex children.
This lead to her wanting to help others in learning (In her words) “It’s okay to be Intersex.” As a baby Joey was subjected to surgery, she never had a say and her voice was stolen. We vowed to never allow this to happen again. She is now using her voice and has our unconditional support, love and guidance.
All pirates share their booty!
Here is a special coin I give to Joey! Joey’s parents are giving their daughter the right to self-determination: Joey’s Gift: Self-Determination. I am deeply honored to be a part this family’s life journey.
Joey, I promise to be there for your entire life journey. To me, you are like a God Child, and I promise that am forever here to protect you. This coin is a token to that promise. You have now found yourself in my heart forever.
Note: An intersex child named Nathaniel was the first to meet Pirate Antonio Phoenix, but he remains anonymous. If you have an intersex or transgender child who would like to meet Pirate Antonio Phoenix you can e-mail me and we can visit Old St. Augustine, Florida together: firstname.lastname@example.org
This message brought to you for INTERSEX Awareness Day 2017, with much gratitude to our photographer Seth Langner of Karmathartic.
and the world can now finally get over it, learn to accept me 100%, and can hopefully even learn to smile about it with me.
XX Men exist and XX Women Exist. Intersex and Transgender People Prove this truth all the time. Intersex people are as common as 1.7% of the population. That means we are as common as redheads. This pirate is out of the closet for good!
A life in the closet is no good for anyone.
We Are Human
When I was born in 1967, I put this world on its head. My true biological sex is intersex. I was not born male or female, but my birth certificate could not reflect my true biological sex, which is intersex.
Not knowing what to do with me they assigned me female, and therapy taught me as a child to be a girl when I was not a girl. Doctors made sure my hormones were aligned with girls when naturally they were not. I lived most my life appearing as a female.
In 2014 I decided to emancipate my true self. With the help of my new doctors and councilors, I recovered from being very sick and disabled and emerged an androgynous man.
After it destroying my life, I will no longer conform to the social and medical rules of the male-female binary. I deserve to live the rest of my life “out” and be respected for who I am. It is time for this world to awaken to the truth around intersex natural bodily variations and I am here to teach about it.
I now stand strong to educate and change this world for the intersex babies born like me. It is time that we all received our human rights and were given the right to determine our own gender as intersex children. The forced assignment of gender, through surgical procedures and therapeutic manipulations, has to end. Too many lives have been destroyed. The experiment of assigning our gender is over!
To help intersex or transgender children and their parents, as pirates, our family now offers to get to know your family and will spend the day in Old St. Augustine Florida with you. If you would like to hang out with us please e-mail me: email@example.com
I am a man, with a few boy parts, that most call girl parts. But that is only because they believe in lies. They are all boy parts if they are my parts because I am a boy. I might be non-conforming, but they belong to me, and my legal gender is male. As for my biological sex, it is intersex, and not even acknowledged by my country. The government has erased me. The doctors shoved me into the female box at birth. My birth certificate to this day can not demonstrate my true biological sex. I was not born dyadic, I was born intersex.
I will feel human when I get my human right to exist. I will take on the name of a human, and not that of an alien when my government allows me to exist without calling me a disorder. I have a natural bodily variation, according to the United Nations. I was never a disorder, or transgender even. I was born a boy, from day one.
Our self-determination of gender is about human rights. It is time this world stop hurting and torturing people born intersex and transgender. It is time this world stopped equating genitals, reproductive systems, hormones and chromosomes with our gender. It is a lie, a myth, and scientific proof, show that I stand before you, and other intersex people stand before you, and all of us prove this myth 100% false.
If a person realizes that “intersex” means countless Natural Bodily Variations and they mix this with the other categories, you literally can have countless varieties of human walking around this Earth!
If they #StopIGM and forcing us intersex people into binary boxes. (Intersex genital mutilation). It is obvious that genitals, chromosomes, hormones do not make up our #Gender.
Our kids are proof that it is about educating only about the male/female binary, and intersex erasure, that messes up the truth around natural bodily variations existing in us humans. You see, our children were taught that intersex bodies existed, as soon as I realized I was not a disorder and was actually born intersex instead. Yup, they were taught about the female penis and the male vagina. They were taught that sometimes a woman can be XY, a man can be XX, and those other chromosomal variations of human exist too, like XXY, XX/XY, XO and so many others. Here is the United Nations’ Intersex Fact Sheet, if you have never heard of intersex before.
You see, naturally, humans come with many variations of genitals, reproductive systems, chromosomes, and hormones. It simply is the way nature planned it all. We are a variety of human. It is that simple.
My kids had to actually learn that the male/female binary is what the rest of the world believes. After learning about intersex, it blew their minds that there were just two options: Male or Female bodies.
Now, imagine teaching your children that you have been erased by this world.
That there is no box for me, few doctors that will see me even because I am taboo. It truly sucked for them, my husband and for me. They felt violated themselves and angry and scared for me! We lost our home trying to chase down a doctor, across the country that would treat me. Yes, I was medically abandoned by doctors and told I was no longer patient compliant when I refused to do what they asked me to appear female.
It is hard to explain to a child that there is NO box for their type of father. That it is the world that messed up. That it was not my body and not my hormones that went wrong.
My children naturally never felt it was ME who had to surgically conform to this world. I believe that most children naturally know we want our genitals the way we are born!
That is why when people asked: “how are your kids taking it?”, when I emancipated my gender, we shared that they were HAPPIER! In the typical male/female binary world, it is devastating though. But most assumed otherwise and thought: “OMG! How horrible that those poor kids just lost their mother!” Typical people also immediately assumed I would be having genital conforming surgeries too when I do not. We can just imagine the gossip. We lost countless friends, who could not cope with it.
Everyone also assumed my husband, of twenty-eight years, would leave. I was so disabled and sick, that he too gained his sex partner back. I was asexual for over a decade, due to doctors giving me no choices. We had become roommates. So when people asked: “How is he taking it?”, it was an insult to me! Yes, things changed socially changed dramatically for our family, but it was not the end of the world. It was the beginning of a new healthier life as a couple!
To an intersex person, like me, and some of my intersex friends, like Tiger Devore, gender is all a “gender performance”. A phrase that Tiger likes to use, and created to explain what I am saying here today. So, my kids did not lose a thing. They gained a healthier parent who now had a different gender performance for the world! I became “Vader” to them, another word for father.
I did not die when I faced certain death if I had continued on appearing female. It is the male/female binary world that thinks things are so rigid and so concrete that the sky falls when one changes that performance. And this is sadly why we lost so many friends and family.
I know many intersex girls who have a penis, and this world should not threaten cutting it off either. Due to intersex erasure, eugenics (surgically taking away an intersex person’s fertility with non-consensual childhood surgery), and genocide (aborting us when detected before birth), most female penis’s or large clitoris get removed. I know many transgender girls too who have a female penis. They should not feel they have to lose theirs too, to be validated as real women. It sickens me that transgender children are taught to believe that they are in the wrong bodies, but that is another blog.
For us intersex people, Genital integrity is all we want.Our life as our ‘true selves’ is all we want. We simply just want the right to be LOVED the way we were born: INTERSEX! We simply want the human right to sexually experience OUR INTERSEX GENITALS, uncut and unharmed too.