By Jim Costich September 22, 2019 It is not appropriate to use the term “intersex” to describe a gender identity. Intersex refers to a person’s sexual anatomy, hormones or chromosomes. The most important thing to remember about the definition of the term is that it describes a person’s body, not their identity. The United Nations’ Intersex… Continue reading Intersex is Not a Gender Identity By Jim Costich
The way I see, and many other intersex born people see it: Intersex is not a term that should not be adopted by people who “feel” like they are intersex, but have endosex (non-intersex) bodies. I also feel that "intersex" can not accurately describe as an intersex person's gender identity, due to sex and… Continue reading “Intersex” can not be an Endosex Person’s Gender Identity.
By James Costich September 7th, 2019 Christianity has come to be nearly synonymous with the hatred, loathing, fear, and condemnation of LGBT people but this is a new development in the history of the religion, and it is far more linked to politics than theology. Since the 1980s it’s been used as a distraction… Continue reading This is My Father’s World (Part 2 of 3)
I put out a poll on social media to prove a point about implicit bias and gender identity. It asked: "When you think about Ancient Greek Hermaphrodite Statues what pronouns would you reflexively use to describe that person depicted?" As you can see Most said she/her. Facebook did not offer me a third option,… Continue reading Implicit bias making Hermaphrodites “she/her” and being called an “it”.
My thoughts on prejudice today: My dad was a Castilian Spaniard. Our Spanish ancestors were Ashkenazi Jews that escaped Europe into the United States to survive being killed. They converted to Christianity due to Catholic missionaries in the United States as immigrants. My grandmother was so terrified of their speaking Spanish, they forbid it in… Continue reading Does my family know prejudice?
They broke you. They broke me. We sit here together all broken. We are both bleeding, and yet you attack me. They taught us to hate ourselves. So you attack me some more. What else would we expect from the broken? Yet, I refuse to fight you. I see why you… Continue reading Poem: Our Broken Intersex Community
I am dear friends with Phyllis Gallisath, a mother whos buried her transgender son died last year. His name was Liam, and he had been found dead, after not coming home one day after completing suicide. Like many of us assigned wrong at birth, he suffered from horrible depression and it finally took his life.… Continue reading Why I now don’t call it my “dead name” anymore, and why semantics matter.
Little did we know, we married on Pete Burns Birthday, August 5th, 1995. If you do not know Pete was a beautiful man in the '80s and the lead singer for "Dead or Alive". His legacy lives on for breaking the gender stereotypes and living as a beautiful man! I would not discover… Continue reading Our 24th Wedding Anniversary and Serendipity with Pete Burns
Today I shared to the world on Facebook: My great aunt suffered electric shock treatment and being locked up in psychiatric hospitals for being a lesbian. She would ultimately commit suicide to escape institutionalized torture. I sometimes wonder if she was also intersex. I can't get any straight answers. If she was intersex, that would… Continue reading Poem: Institutionalized approved torture
Sally's Message to us in this youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xe8ngRLiUH0&fbclid=IwAR0p750HNCkc7BnNyuVwSHboFcYZuTye-aRgvxcUrM9xVwKITuWrcBccZec Note: In 2014, Sally died the same year I came out to the world. Sally holds a very, very, special place in my heart. RIP Sally, and thank you for your hope, encouragement, and love. You can read more about Sally here: SALLY GROSS REMEMBERED AS FEARLESS… Continue reading Intersex born, Sally Gross’ message to us.
Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez 