Hate Crimes, Human Rights Violations, Relationships

When it is not safe to share our pronouns.

I often have conversations with people on Facebook, and the comments I share below are an accumulation of responses to this post: Please share a time when it is not safe to share your own or another person's true pronouns. Note: "True Pronouns" are what we have self-determined to reflect our authentic gender identity and… Continue reading When it is not safe to share our pronouns.

My Intersex Story, Relationships, Short Messages

A call for action: My pronouns are not “preferred” they are required.

A Call for ACTION to our allies. I am asking for language to change regarding pronouns. Please say instead: "Please share your required pronouns with me, but only if you feel safe." Here are my reasons: 1) My pronouns are not preferred, they are required and never negotiable. 2) It is not always safe to… Continue reading A call for action: My pronouns are not “preferred” they are required.

Genital Integrity, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Intersex Traits, Self-Determination, Transgender

Implicit bias making Hermaphrodites “she/her” and being called an “it”.

I put out a poll on social media to prove a point about implicit bias and gender identity.  It asked:  "When you think about Ancient Greek Hermaphrodite Statues what pronouns would you reflexively use to describe that person depicted?"   As you can see Most said she/her.  Facebook did not offer me a third option,… Continue reading Implicit bias making Hermaphrodites “she/her” and being called an “it”.