INTERSEX people are born as often as redheads, and possibly even more frequent. Sometimes when we are born, doctors do not even call us "intersex" or even "hermaphrodites". Instead, they tell our parents we are born with a "defect", a "disorder", or a "syndrome". Which is very misleading. This way they can justify corrective… Continue reading Doctors call us a disorder, defect, or syndrome, when we are born. We are simply INTERSEX.
I am not transgender. I was born intersex. But since I was raised the wrong gender, and had to reclaim my true gender, Guess what? Almost everything that can happen to a gay person, lesbian, transgender person, or gender non-conforming queer person, has happened to me. I now know I am not alone.… Continue reading When you do not include the “I” in your human rights efforts, this is why it hurts me and other people born intersex:
Blogs I have written about how intersex is not a defect, a syndrome, or about being disordered: 1) My genitals are not “Normal”, but I don’t think normal is normal. 2) It is time to stop the “normalizing” genital surgery on intersex infants! 3) “It’s too small, let’s make them into a girl!” Yup, this atrocity is still happening… Continue reading Intersex Bodies are Not an error: My Intersex Story, and the stories of so many others.
They said we need to take a second look They said he needs to be fixed She had no voice ***** They said you now have a beautiful boy They misplaced the words that would open our eyes She had no voice ***** They washed their hands clean and sent us on our way The… Continue reading An Anonymous Poem, From a Parent of an Intersex Child: She Had No Voice
I am tired of hearing the words "normal". Who is truly "normal"? Is the government and the medical system that powerful that it can declare me, or anyone "defective" or "disordered", when our genitals do not add up to "normal"? So far the answer is "yes"; And yet, nature created my intersex body and… Continue reading My genitals are not “Normal”, but I don’t think normal is normal.
I would like to bring to attention, that to change one's gender, if assigned wrong by the authorities at birth, in some states in America a person has no choice but to have genital surgery to match the typical genitals for the male and female binary. To find out the laws in each state that… Continue reading The Surgical Assignment of Gender and the Public Bathroom Problem in America
This diagram, above, shows some of the varieties of genital appearance that can occur in some forms of intersex. Often, when a baby is born appearing like one of these varieties of human, it is considered a "psychosocial emergency"; and doctors want to make the child appear as typical as possible as soon as possible. The… Continue reading It is time to stop the “normalizing” genital surgery on intersex infants!
For Warmth I hold my face between my hands no I am not crying I hold my face between my hands to keep my loneliness warm two hands protecting two hands nourishing two hands to prevent my soul from leaving me in anger By Thich Nhat Hanh My sorrow and empathy consume me when… Continue reading An Intersex Poem of Freedom: I Will Sing My Song
As an intersex person, my story is a testimony that we do not have to be surgically altered to be loved; and yes, although my life was medically extremely difficult in many ways, I found a life partner of over twenty-seven years and we created a beautiful family. To my family I am not broken.… Continue reading Doctors, Please Stop Lying to Our Parents. Intersex people are lovable without being fixed. WE ARE HUMAN
I am a person born with intersex traits, that was assumed to be female, and raised female. A Cisgender person identifies as the gender they are assigned to at birth. I do not, nor have I ever felt Cisgender, even when I appeared female. All the therapy and surgery in the world could never achieve… Continue reading I am an Intersex Person. I never felt like a Cisgender Person and I Relate to Some Transgender Men.
Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez 