They said we need to take a second look They said he needs to be fixed She had no voice ***** They said you now have a beautiful boy They misplaced the words that would open our eyes She had no voice ***** They washed their hands clean and sent us on our way The… Continue reading An Anonymous Poem, From a Parent of an Intersex Child: She Had No Voice
Parts are parts! If it belongs to a girl, it's a girl part. If it belongs to a boy, it's a boy part. A penis is not just a boy part If it belongs to a girl it should not break your heart. A penis can be a girl part and Venus and Mars… Continue reading Poem: Parts are Parts, and Venus and Mars can get over it.
I HIDE MY RAGE! As an Activist, I am on the front lines of a war. I won't walk away, or escape through that door. It is in front of me day in and day out and I do it without pay. * I see the pain, I talk to the people who are hurting… Continue reading Poem: I hide my rage!
My answer: Yes, I was violated. Tragically for me, psychiatrists, doctors, and the therapist had the solution to my being intersex, they started to fix me at three years old, and throughout most of my life. Back then the theories of Dr. John Money were very strong. He felt you could teach gender, despite… Continue reading My Intersex Story: Was I violated?
It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend. What will your friends say, when they find out, that I was born in-between, or was once called a beautiful woman with a "disorder of sexual development", or a "syndrome"? * I now appear a queer gay man, I won't even conform to… Continue reading Another Intersex Poem: It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend.
I am tired of hearing the words "normal". Who is truly "normal"? Is the government and the medical system that powerful that it can declare me, or anyone "defective" or "disordered", when our genitals do not add up to "normal"? So far the answer is "yes"; And yet, nature created my intersex body and… Continue reading My genitals are not “Normal”, but I don’t think normal is normal.
As a teen "girl", in the 80's all the short rock stars and movie stars haunted me and intrigued me at the same time. Limahl was one of them. He was in the group, Kajagoogoo, as well as being a musician on his own. He haunted me because I was not allowed to be a… Continue reading A fun blog: Limahl, Adam Ant, Chris Kattan, Pete Burns, and me!
I wrote this poem to help explain who I truly am and to invite clarity for the many who seem confused when they describe me incorrectly using words that stuff me into stereotypical boxes: I am not the bearded woman But thank you For letting me know I am beautiful >< I am not… Continue reading Poem: I am not….. I am…..
One's self-determination of gender can come in many forms, and it is not always the male/female binary. There are other options out there! All too often, I see that some are not even told or shown that non-binary options are out there. We are expected to live up to this list of expectations, which come… Continue reading Do I pass? What Gender am I?
Why did you want me to die? The last I heard you were "Devastated" that I saved my life. "Devastated" that you now have a brother "Devastated" that I did not die a broken and A very sick intersex woman Why did you want me to die? Did I ruin your plans for my funeral?… Continue reading Poem: Why did you want me to die?
Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez 