Jim Costich, The Man with the Hidden Playground

……But Now I Have to Scream

A Memoir from Jim Costich, 2003           I was 44 before I found out what my body contains and what being intersex might mean as I age. I was born with ambiguous genitals in 1957 and I had no surgery.  I've been on hormones since I was a teen because I have… Continue reading ……But Now I Have to Scream

Celebrations, Emancipation, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Intersex Awareness, Intersex People, Self-Determination, Transgender

My Gratitude​ for Thanksgiving 2018

From a Life Event on Facebook: I survived when I truly believe that few do. Being brave, and sharing a memory from November 2014. I was having an adrenal crisis with a urinary tract infection. I suffered from disabling autonomic dysfunction back then, among other things related to mitochondrial disorder and related problems due to… Continue reading My Gratitude​ for Thanksgiving 2018

Cultural Dysphoria, Homophobia, Intersex Phobia, Poems, Prejudice, Transphobia

Poem: Was it my penis?

The void of emptiness. A hole in my heart.   Was it your assumptions, your embarrassment, your shame? Why won't you call me a friend now? Was it my beard, my penis, my appearing a gay man now? You said I had lied to you when I appeared a woman. Why did my becoming an… Continue reading Poem: Was it my penis?

Gender Nonconforming, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Self-Determination, Short Messages

Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

How the government and I define my existence:  My Biological Sex: Intersex My Legal Sex: Intersex. As proven with medical documentation after going to Florida Court to prove I was born intersex, and now as documented accurately on my Colorado Birth Certificate: Intersex. At this time, my driver’s license and social security both legally say… Continue reading Trying to belong to a binary-only​​ world: My Biological Sex, My Legal Sex, My Gender Identity, ​My Gender Expression, ​and My Sexual Orientation.

Intersex Awareness, Poems, Transgender

Poem: My sweet child, you’ll be blessed.

I was not able to be your father until now. They took that from me.   They say that a man can not grow a baby in his womb.   They say that only a woman can do that. They are wrong. My child, you'll be blessed.  ¤ I was not able to be your… Continue reading Poem: My sweet child, you’ll be blessed.

Civil Rights, Emancipation, Human Rights, Intersex Activist, Poems, Prejudice, Self-Determination, Short Messages

Poem: I AM A MAN

I see the pictures of the past "I AM A MAN!"  These pictures blast What is the difference? There isn't one No Civil Rights for me.... It has just begun.     By Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez Dedicated to ANY HUMAN who might understand. I used African American History to make this point because groups of… Continue reading Poem: I AM A MAN

Celebrations, Hope, Human Rights, Self-Determination

I CAN EXIST NOW! Thanks to a Lesbian trapped in a hairy man’s body.

In 2014,  I virtually met a man, who dealt with some of the same metabolic problems as ours.  Facebook had connected him to me through a support group I used to run.  I was his first contact who dealt with this same condition of ours. At the time I was pretty much roommates with my husband.… Continue reading I CAN EXIST NOW! Thanks to a Lesbian trapped in a hairy man’s body.

Culture Dysphoria, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

Why was I diagnosed with GENDER DYSPHORIA?

As a person born intersex, October 2014, I desperately needed to reclaim my true gender.  It was for health, mental and spiritual reasons.  It had become life or death for me at this point.  To get help, I had to seek out a transgender doctor, because no other doctor would go against my assigned gender… Continue reading Why was I diagnosed with GENDER DYSPHORIA?

Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.

It is important that I share with you something I see many having confusion around when referring to a person born with intersex traits. My body was born with physical traits of both male and female.  There are many different ways this can happen in a person, but to keep things simple, for me it… Continue reading I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.