When I recently learned about General Casimir Pulaski, like when I have discovered other intersex people in history, I become elated and I celebrated.....but it was short lived. Then my heart sank. Here we were once again, in our binary world misgendering the past; a past that gave people like me more human rights… Continue reading Please do not misgender Revolutionary War Hero, General Casimir Pulaski: Pronouns He/Him
By Jim Costich February, 7th 2019 There is no such thing as an "intersex poser". There are only people who are trying to figure out whether they are intersex. Some of them have noticed things about their bodies that don’t match what is considered standard for the sex they’ve been told they are the most… Continue reading Jim Costich’s Intersex Imposter Rant
Here is my blog in response to lots of people assuming that my gender identity would be "Gender Neutral" due to being born intersex. This assumption is profound and not accurate for so many of us born anatomically intersex. A "Gender Neutral" birth certificate is good only for people whose gender identity is gender… Continue reading My Anatomical Intersex Body Does Not Create My Gender Identity
A Memoir from Jim Costich, 2003 I was 44 before I found out what my body contains and what being intersex might mean as I age. I was born with ambiguous genitals in 1957 and I had no surgery. I've been on hormones since I was a teen because I have… Continue reading ……But Now I Have to Scream
From a Life Event on Facebook: I survived when I truly believe that few do. Being brave, and sharing a memory from November 2014. I was having an adrenal crisis with a urinary tract infection. I suffered from disabling autonomic dysfunction back then, among other things related to mitochondrial disorder and related problems due to… Continue reading My Gratitude for Thanksgiving 2018
The void of emptiness. A hole in my heart. Was it your assumptions, your embarrassment, your shame? Why won't you call me a friend now? Was it my beard, my penis, my appearing a gay man now? You said I had lied to you when I appeared a woman. Why did my becoming an… Continue reading Poem: Was it my penis?
I was not able to be your father until now. They took that from me. They say that a man can not grow a baby in his womb. They say that only a woman can do that. They are wrong. My child, you'll be blessed. ¤ I was not able to be your… Continue reading Poem: My sweet child, you’ll be blessed.
In 2014, I virtually met a man, who dealt with some of the same metabolic problems as ours. Facebook had connected him to me through a support group I used to run. I was his first contact who dealt with this same condition of ours. At the time I was pretty much roommates with my husband.… Continue reading I CAN EXIST NOW! Thanks to a Lesbian trapped in a hairy man’s body.