From the outside people see couples rather simply. We can appear "heterosexual", "gay", "lesbian", or "bi-sexual". When we realize that nature created a variety of people out there, we now realize that couples can be many different types of people. When one stops to think about all the variety of bodies out there, such as… Continue reading The different types of Lesbians and Gay Men.
Blogs I have written about how intersex is not a defect, a syndrome, or about being disordered: 1) My genitals are not “Normal”, but I don’t think normal is normal. 2) It is time to stop the “normalizing” genital surgery on intersex infants! 3) “It’s too small, let’s make them into a girl!” Yup, this atrocity is still happening… Continue reading Intersex Bodies are Not an error: My Intersex Story, and the stories of so many others.
They said we need to take a second look They said he needs to be fixed She had no voice ***** They said you now have a beautiful boy They misplaced the words that would open our eyes She had no voice ***** They washed their hands clean and sent us on our way The… Continue reading An Anonymous Poem, From a Parent of an Intersex Child: She Had No Voice
Parts are parts! If it belongs to a girl, it's a girl part. If it belongs to a boy, it's a boy part. A penis is not just a boy part If it belongs to a girl it should not break your heart. A penis can be a girl part and Venus and Mars… Continue reading Poem: Parts are Parts, and Venus and Mars can get over it.
It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend. What will your friends say, when they find out, that I was born in-between, or was once called a beautiful woman with a "disorder of sexual development", or a "syndrome"? * I now appear a queer gay man, I won't even conform to… Continue reading Another Intersex Poem: It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend.
I am tired of hearing the words "normal". Who is truly "normal"? Is the government and the medical system that powerful that it can declare me, or anyone "defective" or "disordered", when our genitals do not add up to "normal"? So far the answer is "yes"; And yet, nature created my intersex body and… Continue reading My genitals are not “Normal”, but I don’t think normal is normal.
I wrote this poem to help explain who I truly am and to invite clarity for the many who seem confused when they describe me incorrectly using words that stuff me into stereotypical boxes: I am not the bearded woman But thank you For letting me know I am beautiful >< I am not… Continue reading Poem: I am not….. I am…..
We now know that intersex traits are very common in humans. Some say that the occurrence of intersex traits is as high as 1 in 150. Since this is the case, this an obvious scientific explanation to why we have so many different types of people walking around. We have different sexual orientations, different… Continue reading Why the “I” should come First: I LGBTQA+
I would like to bring to attention, that to change one's gender, if assigned wrong by the authorities at birth, in some states in America a person has no choice but to have genital surgery to match the typical genitals for the male and female binary. To find out the laws in each state that… Continue reading The Surgical Assignment of Gender and the Public Bathroom Problem in America
One's self-determination of gender can come in many forms, and it is not always the male/female binary. There are other options out there! All too often, I see that some are not even told or shown that non-binary options are out there. We are expected to live up to this list of expectations, which come… Continue reading Do I pass? What Gender am I?
Rev. Anunnaki Ray Marquez, M.Div. 