Cary G. Costello, Ph.D. shared this photo recently on social media. They were born intersex, and refer to themselves also as a transgender man. Like me, Cary gave birth to a baby. After much pregnancy loss, I had two babies, and we adopted our youngest. I have been with my husband for twenty-eight years, this… Continue reading “Womb Man” versus “Woman with a Beard”; My thoughts, my story.
I truly do not think most people want to hurt me, especially my friends. However, sometimes the things people say do just that. Since I know few have been educated about people like me, I try to simply explain why that was not an appropriate thing to say. I have to have much patience because… Continue reading Comments that people say that hurt me, as a person born intersex who is reclaiming their true gender.
I was not able to be your father until now. They took that from me. They say that a man can not grow a baby in his womb. They say that only a woman can do that. They are wrong. My child, you'll be blessed. ¤ I was not able to be your… Continue reading Poem: My sweet child, you’ll be blessed.
Before I answer, below, if I am transgender, or can an intersex person be transgender, let me educate about five things first. Biological Sex, Transgender, Gender Identity, Gender Expression and Secondary Sex Characteristics. You can read more here too: LGBTQIA+ Definitions of Human Sexuality. Biological Sex: It is typically assigned, at birth, by the “authorities”, based… Continue reading Am I Transgender? Can an intersex person be transgender?
Somebody Stepped Inside My Soul This world robbed me. Somebody else was in control. ∇ It took a lifetime for me to figure out this trouble. To unravel a mystery, I was lied to and taught this damn myth. When you lied to me as a little boy, somebody stepped inside my soul… Continue reading Poem: Somebody Stepped Inside My Soul
Yup, I used to have chromosome Dysphoria! It was caused by science not catching up with my very real existence as an intersex nonconforming man. Chromosome Dysphoria is very real. Chromosome dysphoria happens when we are taught that only females can have XX chromosomes and males have XY chromosomes, and we believe this myth! To… Continue reading Gender is NOT Determined by Our Sex Chromosomes.
Am I angry I was raised a girl? The true emotions are devastated, overwhelmed, and crushed. This world was not better prepared for my arrival, nor more than it is prepared for a baby born like me now. So I share my life story to change this. I wish my parents had been instructed to… Continue reading Am I Angry I was raised a Girl?
I was never in the wrong body How dare this world try to tell others they are in the wrong body too. It makes me angry. It makes me sad. I almost believed your lies. For a lifetime you tried to fix me! . I was born in the right body. Don't try to convince… Continue reading Poem: I was never in the wrong body. (With 6 Intersex flags from around the world.)
INTERSEX people are born as often as redheads, and possibly even more frequent. Sometimes when we are born, doctors do not even call us "intersex" or even "hermaphrodites". Instead, they tell our parents we are born with a "defect", a "disorder", or a "syndrome". Which is very misleading. This way they can justify corrective… Continue reading Doctors call us a disorder, defect, or syndrome, when we are born. We are simply INTERSEX.
Now that I appear a guy, my husband is often asked if he is gay? It is a difficult question since he has never been with a typical man before, nor wanted to be with one. He was with only typical females before me. As some already know, I was born intersex and… Continue reading Is my husband gay, now that I appear a man? I will use “Intersexual” as a Sexual Orientation.
Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez 