Bridge Building, Civil Rights, Gender Nonconforming, Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Transgender, United Nations

For Parents: How to Screen for a Safe Transgender or Intersex Therapist or Doctor

Both Transgender and Intersex children deserve to be medically and psychologically treated with dignity and respect and be given the human right to self-determine their own gender identity and gender expression.  So below I will share two separate lists of how this can be achieved.  These two lists are very different and will demonstrate the… Continue reading For Parents: How to Screen for a Safe Transgender or Intersex Therapist or Doctor

Civil Rights, Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Relationships, Self-Determination

Why when I go to the Emergency Room I mark Both the male and female box.

  It is important to understand that for me, being born in the middle as intersex, I need to be medically and socially recognized, as both male and female, to get the proper care I might be needing if I show up at the hospital emergency room, or have to be hospitalized. First of all,… Continue reading Why when I go to the Emergency Room I mark Both the male and female box.

Poems, Self-Determination

Poem: Androgynous

ANDROGYNOUS  A     Anunnaki has no gender. It literally means "Ant Friend" in Ancient Sumerian. N     To say "Non-binary" admits there is a binary.  The binary is a social construct. D     Dream of a world that does not assign us at birth.  Who would you be if you were never… Continue reading Poem: Androgynous

Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

Anunnaki shares his life story

Here is my story in short: I believed I was a disorder, a condition, and a syndrome most my life. It took Pidgeon Pagonis, Hida Viloria, Cary Gabriel Costello Ph.D., Tiger Devore Ph.D., Tony Briffa, Buck Angel,  Judi Herring, M.D., and many other amazing souls, to help me realize that my adrenal condition, and PCOS,… Continue reading Anunnaki shares his life story

Cultural Dysphoria, Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Intersex Traits, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

Gender is NOT Determined by Our Sex Chromosomes.

Yup, I used to have chromosome Dysphoria!  It was caused by science not catching up with my very real existence as an intersex nonconforming man.  Chromosome Dysphoria is very real.  Chromosome dysphoria happens when we are taught that only females can have XX chromosomes and males have XY chromosomes, and we believe this myth! To… Continue reading Gender is NOT Determined by Our Sex Chromosomes.

Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

The Difference Between my Biological Sex and My Gender.

Many people get Biological Sex and Gender mixed up.  So I am writing this in hopes of making this make better sense to people. Our Society Teaches us that all people are born with either the male sex or the female sex. That is wrong. The TRUTH is that, naturally, people are born with a wide variety… Continue reading The Difference Between my Biological Sex and My Gender.

Celebrations, Human Rights, Self-Determination

Mx. Anunnaki Ray and They, Them, Their

Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez

We are human: pronouns

Since I have chosen to live as my true self, I have been having deep thoughts about this male/female binary.  Being born an intersex person in the late 60’s, and even if I had been born now, there is no option to raise me  gender neutral,  androgynous,  or  non binary.  Even transgender children, and transgender  people, are being shoved into these two male/female boxes.

The pressure to conform so great surgeries are performed, and there is much stress to “pass” as the two “proper” and allowed genders, male or female.  Which both have been defined culturally and socially by most everyone.  The thing is, I do not fit one or the other box and I am not going to force myself anymore either.  I was created like this, and I do not feel it is wrong.

I think this obsession for genitals to “pass” as…

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Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers

Can We Really Identify All the Genders Out There?

The answer is: NO Here is why: To me, gender is a spectrum as vast as the Universe and is as personal as each and every person's experience here on Earth.  Gender is dictated by too many factors to mention here in the time allotted for one simple blog post.  Some try to give gender… Continue reading Can We Really Identify All the Genders Out There?

Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Short Messages

Four Things most were never taught in Sex Ed, that Intersex People Know: With Judi Herring, M.D.

Four Things most were never taught in Sex Ed, that Intersex People Know:  Gender is a social construct that was created by us humans. Gender cannot be determined by our genitals, reproductive system, hormones.  This means that gender cannot be determined by the size of one's clitoris or penis, the presence of testicles or ovaries,… Continue reading Four Things most were never taught in Sex Ed, that Intersex People Know: With Judi Herring, M.D.

Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.

It is important that I share with you something I see many having confusion around when referring to a person born with intersex traits. My body was born with physical traits of both male and female.  There are many different ways this can happen in a person, but to keep things simple, for me it… Continue reading I was born with an Intersex body, but this does not create my Gender or my Sexual Orientation.