I see the pictures of the past "I AM A MAN!" These pictures blast What is the difference? There isn't one No Civil Rights for me.... It has just begun. By Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez March 4, 2016 Dedicated to any man who might understand. Billy Porter updated his Facebook cover with this photo… Continue reading Poem: I AM A MAN
Many people get Biological Sex and Gender mixed up. So I am writing this in hopes of making this make better sense to people. Our Society Teaches us that all people are born with either the male sex or the female sex. That is wrong. The TRUTH is that, naturally, people are born with a wide variety… Continue reading The Difference Between my Biological Sex and My Gender.
Since I have chosen to live as my true self, I have been having deep thoughts about this male/female binary. Being born an intersex person in the late 60’s, and even if I had been born now, there is no option to raise me gender neutral, androgynous, or non binary. Even transgender children, and transgender people, are being shoved into these two male/female boxes.
The pressure to conform so great surgeries are performed, and there is much stress to “pass” as the two “proper” and allowed genders, male or female. Which both have been defined culturally and socially by most everyone. The thing is, I do not fit one or the other box and I am not going to force myself anymore either. I was created like this, and I do not feel it is wrong.
I think this obsession for genitals to “pass” as…
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In 2014, I virtually met a man, who dealt with some of the same metabolic problems as ours. Facebook had connected him to me through a support group I used to run. I was his first contact who dealt with this same condition of ours. At the time I was pretty much roommates with my husband.… Continue reading I CAN EXIST NOW! Thanks to a Lesbian trapped in a hairy man’s body.
How did my husband and I become a sexual minority? First of all, I did not want to be a sexual minority. None of us get to pick how we are born. I was born as a 46, XX Intersex Person. My husband and I fell in love back in 1989. He never knew that… Continue reading Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.
The answer is: NO Here is why: To me, gender is a spectrum as vast as the Universe and is as personal as each and every person's experience here on Earth. Gender is dictated by too many factors to mention here in the time allotted for one simple blog post. Some try to give gender… Continue reading Can We Really Identify All the Genders Out There?
For Warmth I hold my face between my hands no I am not crying I hold my face between my hands to keep my loneliness warm two hands protecting two hands nourishing two hands to prevent my soul from leaving me in anger By Thich Nhat Hanh My sorrow and empathy consume me when… Continue reading An Intersex Poem of Freedom: I Will Sing My Song
I have a few people in my life who are really trying to be good allies. I genuinely appreciate this. As a minority, in many ways, I know that it is not always easy to accept a person like me in your life. I know that most mean well, but here is the problem, with… Continue reading Dear Ally, Please Don’t Deny you are a Person of Privilege to Love Me
A Sad UPDATE to this blog: We thought Chili had outlawed these surgeries on nonconsenting intersex children. It ends up that something else ended up happening to the creation of this new law that invalidates the original resolution. Quote: On August 23, 2016, the Chilean Ministry of Health issued Circular No. 7, 2016, which invalidated… Continue reading Chile outlawed unnecessary Genital “Normalizing” Surgeries on Intersex Babies! 2nd country to do so since last April 2015, when Malta was the first.
As an intersex person, my story is a testimony that we do not have to be surgically altered to be loved; and yes, although my life was medically extremely difficult in many ways, I found a life partner of over twenty-seven years and we created a beautiful family. To my family I am not broken.… Continue reading Doctors, Please Stop Lying to Our Parents. Intersex people are lovable without being fixed. WE ARE HUMAN
Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez 