I am not transgender. I was born intersex. But since I was raised the wrong gender, and had to reclaim my true gender, Guess what? Almost everything that can happen to a gay person, lesbian, transgender person, or gender non-conforming queer person, has happened to me. I now know I am not alone.… Continue reading When you do not include the “I” in your human rights efforts, this is why it hurts me and other people born intersex:
Anonymous Message #3: More about bathrooms: I first want to thank my family and friends for all your love and support! This is for the rest of you. Let me explain a few simple facts. I support you and your children. I support each post where your children have been a victim of some… Continue reading About intersex children and bathrooms: An Anonymous Message from the mother of an Intersex Child.
It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend. What will your friends say, when they find out, that I was born in-between, or was once called a beautiful woman with a "disorder of sexual development", or a "syndrome"? * I now appear a queer gay man, I won't even conform to… Continue reading Another Intersex Poem: It is sad when it takes bravery to be my friend.
I am tired of hearing the words "normal". Who is truly "normal"? Is the government and the medical system that powerful that it can declare me, or anyone "defective" or "disordered", when our genitals do not add up to "normal"? So far the answer is "yes"; And yet, nature created my intersex body and… Continue reading My genitals are not “Normal”, but I don’t think normal is normal.
I would like to bring to attention, that to change one's gender, if assigned wrong by the authorities at birth, in some states in America a person has no choice but to have genital surgery to match the typical genitals for the male and female binary. To find out the laws in each state that… Continue reading The Surgical Assignment of Gender and the Public Bathroom Problem in America
I see the pictures of the past "I AM A MAN!" These pictures blast What is the difference? There isn't one No Civil Rights for me.... It has just begun. By Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez March 4, 2016 Dedicated to any man who might understand. Billy Porter updated his Facebook cover with this photo… Continue reading Poem: I AM A MAN
What a Ride! I watched a November 2015 Dr. Phil show episode entitled, Mama's Little Boy or Daddy's Little Girl: Identity Confusion or Brainwashing?. The reason I’m giving that show space in my blog is to illustrate the way NOT to advocate for intersex human rights, and I almost got coerced into it. The show’s… Continue reading Why I said ‘no’ to Dr. Phil.
This diagram, above, shows some of the varieties of genital appearance that can occur in some forms of intersex. Often, when a baby is born appearing like one of these varieties of human, it is considered a "psychosocial emergency"; and doctors want to make the child appear as typical as possible as soon as possible. The… Continue reading It is time to stop the “normalizing” genital surgery on intersex infants!
I have a few people in my life who are really trying to be good allies. I genuinely appreciate this. As a minority, in many ways, I know that it is not always easy to accept a person like me in your life. I know that most mean well, but here is the problem, with… Continue reading Dear Ally, Please Don’t Deny you are a Person of Privilege to Love Me
As an intersex person, my story is a testimony that we do not have to be surgically altered to be loved; and yes, although my life was medically extremely difficult in many ways, I found a life partner of over twenty-seven years and we created a beautiful family. To my family I am not broken.… Continue reading Doctors, Please Stop Lying to Our Parents. Intersex people are lovable without being fixed. WE ARE HUMAN
Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez 