My answer: Yes, I was violated. Tragically for me, psychiatrists, doctors, and the therapist had the solution to my being intersex, they started to fix me at three years old, and throughout most of my life. Back then the theories of Dr. John Money were very strong. He felt you could teach gender, despite… Continue reading My Intersex Story: Was I violated?
I am tired of hearing the words "normal". Who is truly "normal"? Is the government and the medical system that powerful that it can declare me, or anyone "defective" or "disordered", when our genitals do not add up to "normal"? So far the answer is "yes"; And yet, nature created my intersex body and… Continue reading My genitals are not “Normal”, but I don’t think normal is normal.
We now know that intersex traits are very common in humans. Some say that the occurrence of intersex traits is as high as 1 in 150. Since this is the case, this an obvious scientific explanation to why we have so many different types of people walking around. We have different sexual orientations, different… Continue reading Why the “I” should come First: I LGBTQA+
I would like to bring to attention, that to change one's gender, if assigned wrong by the authorities at birth, in some states in America a person has no choice but to have genital surgery to match the typical genitals for the male and female binary. To find out the laws in each state that… Continue reading The Surgical Assignment of Gender and the Public Bathroom Problem in America
One's self-determination of gender can come in many forms, and it is not always the male/female binary. There are other options out there! All too often, I see that some are not even told or shown that non-binary options are out there. We are expected to live up to this list of expectations, which come… Continue reading Do I pass? What Gender am I?
THE Female PENIS If you got one, you are told the rules. No make-up, no pink. This world will make you think You can't even act in certain ways or play in certain ways your world becomes blue All these gender roles taught to us Due to two small boxes Male and Female But… Continue reading My Poem: THE Female PENIS
This diagram, above, shows some of the varieties of genital appearance that can occur in some forms of intersex. Often, when a baby is born appearing like one of these varieties of human, it is considered a "psychosocial emergency"; and doctors want to make the child appear as typical as possible as soon as possible. The… Continue reading It is time to stop the “normalizing” genital surgery on intersex infants!
The answer is: NO Here is why: To me, gender is a spectrum as vast as the Universe and is as personal as each and every person's experience here on Earth. Gender is dictated by too many factors to mention here in the time allotted for one simple blog post. Some try to give gender… Continue reading Can We Really Identify All the Genders Out There?
For Warmth I hold my face between my hands no I am not crying I hold my face between my hands to keep my loneliness warm two hands protecting two hands nourishing two hands to prevent my soul from leaving me in anger By Thich Nhat Hanh My sorrow and empathy consume me when… Continue reading An Intersex Poem of Freedom: I Will Sing My Song
I have a few people in my life who are really trying to be good allies. I genuinely appreciate this. As a minority, in many ways, I know that it is not always easy to accept a person like me in your life. I know that most mean well, but here is the problem, with… Continue reading Dear Ally, Please Don’t Deny you are a Person of Privilege to Love Me