Human Rights, My Intersex Story, Poems

Don’t say you Care, you don’t!

I exist and yet you deny it.

I exist and yet you are so intersex phobic,

you can’t even call it what it is: 


I exist and yet you tell the parents of babies born like me

that I am a liar! 

I legally exist, and you close your eyes to that too! 

I am not alone.

There are many other men like me.

We are the 46XX CAH BOYS!  

Yes, you read right!  



I exist and it won’t matter if you deny it.

My Birth Certificate is in your face now!

You will make fools of yourself if you don’t stop it.

And soon the world will laugh at you,

and shame on you for surgically chopping us into girls! 

Maybe we want to marry a woman.

Maybe we want to grow up to be gay men?

Of course, this is transphobia and homophobia! 

Don’t deny it! 

When you say CAH is not intersex,

this means you are intersex phobic too! 

Heck, I bet you are Queerphobic also! 

You probably hate the entire LGBTQIA+ rainbow! 

You say only proper CAH girls are allowed to exist.

Proper CAH girls that will marry men

and be proper

H E T E R O S E X U A L S! 

This is the only way you CARE! 

Admit it!

How can we ever forgive

you for erasing us CAH BOYS?

How can we forgive you

for chopping it off my friend


creating a vagina that

he will never want?  

My friend who is a M A N,

surgically made into a girl as a baby! 

Don’t lie to the world saying you are doing us a favor!

Corrective Genital Surgery My Ass! 

Fuck you!

Don’t say you Care!  

You don’t! 


By Mx. Anunnaki Ray Marquez 

April 3, 2019

Note: This is written to a specific CAH organization who does not Care.
I decided to not say their full name. They know who they are

Poem: I AM A MAN

Expecting marginalized people to disregard their own emotions to calmly educate you is the epitome of entitlement!”  

Source: cishits

Don't Say you CARE you do not!

Those who insist that all intersex people have a “real” sex of female or male covered up by intersex and that intersex can be stripped, sanded and ground away to reveal a buried binary then you are selling a product using shame and fear. Those who argue that intersex children should be subjected to genital mutilation, elaborate drugs to cover up their hormones instead of approaching hormone balances from a HEALTH point of view…. if you insist that all CAH XX people MUST become women and all XXY people MUST become men and all of them MUST be heterosexual then you don’t care about intersex people. You care about conformity and you pretend to be enforcing an authority over their bodies and lives that you have no business asserting. Shaming children is abuse. Forcing surgeries on intersex children who are being actively coerced if they have any choice at all while simultaneously denying trans children even the least right to live and grow into their identity as they beg for is just sadistic, abusive and vile.”  – A public comment this poem by Jim Costich, an intersex man.

Please also read: The 100% Female Intersex Girlz, By Jim Costich


These Human Rights Organizations and many more say it is time to Stop Intersex Genital Mutilation (IGM).

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XX Intersex Boys and XXY Intersex Girls

The 100% Female Intersex Girlz | By Jim Costich

Lane Palmer Rebuttal | By Michael Kreuzer, M.D.

Seven Names for the SAME thing: Penis, Phallus, Clitoris, Phalloclitoris, Micropenis, Microphalus, and Clitoromegaly.

I am Proudly the First in Colorado to get an Intersex Birth Certificate





5 thoughts on “Don’t say you Care, you don’t!”

  1. There are so many intersex men who were/are/will be born with ambiguous genitals and we are actively being covered up, silenced, ignored sometimes by other intersex people who mistakenly think that if they claim that all CAH XX people are just women with some “female trouble” that some random authority will stop questioning their right to be women. It actually works the other was around. Those who call them “imposter women” are those selling them things they never needed – they’re already women/girls. Just like we’re already men/boys. We are who and what we say we are because just like males and females we have gender identities that only we understand. Just like males or females we can have diseases, physical failures that need help and medical attention. Just like males or females the answer to our troubles shouldn’t always be to “cut it out, or cut it off”. A double mastectomy is NOT the only answer to a breast tumor, hysterectomy needn’t be the ONLY response to heavy menstruation, and a subtotal prostatectomy needn’t be the ONLY response to prostatic hypertrophy. We went through periods of just that kind of extremism and the wholesale genital mutilation of intersex children is part and parcel of those crazy decades between 1975-2000. Medicine woke up about the others. It’s damned time to put the hatchets down for external genitals as well. Wanton surgery is not good medicine and shame is not good religion.

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