I'm Not You ask me who I am Who I like How I feel You say I can tell you anything That all I have to do is be honest So I am I like everyone Just...not like that. 'Oh, that's not okay' 'Everyone likes someone like that,' you say 'But you're engaged,' you say… Continue reading Poem: I’m Not By Alex Rae
By Jim Costich Jim's response to the above educational post seen on social media: When we include intersex into the conversation, simply saying "cisgender" tells nothing about the body that person was born into if they were born with an intersex bodily or intersex chromosomal variation. I once met… Continue reading Not all intersex people look intersex.
I run a Beyond the Binary: Gender Nonconformist Group on Facebook. It is an amazing place where we can all share our thoughts safety, learn from each other and get love and support. Julien is angry that self-determination was taken from him by the medical community. Today this poem was shared in this… Continue reading Poem: To be a Fighter By Julien Franke
Here is my blog in response to lots of people assuming that my gender identity would be "Gender Neutral" due to being born intersex. This assumption is profound and not accurate for so many of us born anatomically intersex. A "Gender Neutral" birth certificate is good only for people whose gender identity is gender… Continue reading My Anatomical Intersex Body Does Not Create My Gender Identity
Here I am again Not much has changed here on Earth Only promises, suggestions, and resolutions. We still have so many growing up without restitution. Here I am again Promising this world that I will not be silenced until every baby born intersex is not cut on or forced to be who they shouldn't be… Continue reading My New Year’s Resolution for 2019
Four years ago today I emancipated my true gender identity to nonconforming gay androgynous man. As of December 19th, I am officially FOUR years old. Four years old, you say? How can that be? Well, in the transgender community we often count our birthday from the date we started our transition against our… Continue reading How I became pronoun fluid at four years old.
By Jim Costich December 2018 Being gay is not just a sexual orientation. It's a gender. Or rather there are different genders of gay. This surprised a friend of mine who is a tad new to gay culture. He didn't realize that among gay men gendered pronouns change in mid-sentence such as: "We had the worst… Continue reading Gender, Sex and Orientation Over(your)lap
I tried to tell you I was a boy You even bought me trucks and drums for a toy The boys wouldn't play with me you dressed me in pink The girls wouldn't play with me not as a girl I did think ∇ You called me a "Tomboy" Toni would become my name But… Continue reading Poem: The Invisible Space Boy
Ode to a life A little child was born today, whether it’s a boy or a girl was hard to say. The poor, innocent mother they quickly sedated, While the doctors and nurses stood around and debated. One doctor said “The penis is too small, this will never, never do at all.” Another spoke up… Continue reading A poem from an intersex survivor of genital cosmetic corrective surgery: Ode to a life.
The surgeries for Hypospadias are sold like kool-aid or a Pepsi commercial by some clinics and hospitals. The new latest and greatest technique being competed for by surgeons. The life of the child in the balance. Is it a girl? Is it a boy? Never to ask if the child should get to decide… Continue reading A survivor of Intersex Genital Mutilation: Is Hypospadias Intersex?