I have a dear lady friend. Her name is Synthia Roy, and she lives in my city. She now lives her authentic gender, after being assigned male at birth. Her insight about what is happening around the definition of transgender, in our city, has truly concerned me. I would like to talk about two issues. Those who are jumping into transition without care, too fast, and those who are calling themselves “transgender” when we both personally feel they are not.
She feels that being “transgender” is in style now. She calls some of the kids (teens and young adults) who think they are trans “Trans Hipsters”.
First of all, Synthia sees that the message of transgender is being changed into something she feels it is not. To her transgender means to go from one thing to another. A complete transition from one gender to another. As in a complete transition from male to female (MTF), or a transition from female to male (FTM).
However, she now sees teens and young adults not truly realizing the seriousness of this; and like a McDonald’s Happy Meal, doing everything super fast. We see people going in for HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy), and having surgeries, that they may or may not later regret. This is a “fast food” world, after all. She sees many “transitions” ending with the person stuck in the middle; and not truly a transition from one gender to the other at all. She sadly has witnessed such “trans hipsters” de-transitioning back into their birth assigned gender; after reality hits. That reality being that they are now a hated sexual minority; with the loss of work, family, friends and all the other sad things that happen. When the seriousness of what it truly means to be transgender comes to light, most of these “trans hipsters” bail out. A truly transgender person could never bail out of owning their authentic gender.
Second, we both feel that if somebody is gender non-conforming, non-binary, or gender queer, that is fine. Just don’t call it transgender. We feel there is absolutely nothing wrong with non-conforming, non-binary, or gender queer. However, don’t take on the label of transgender. After all there is no transition from MTF or FTM. I might also educate, as for being intersex, a person can not become intersex or transition to being intersex. There is no such thing as transitioning to intersex.
Being that I was born intersex, and having to do things hormonally to appear female and now male; I could relate to being transgender in many ways. However, never felt truly comfortable saying I was transgender due to never having a complete transition. I now see this problem in our city and in our country. For my friend Synthia Roy and me, it has created an atmosphere where one doesn’t want to say they are “transgender” anymore. Like me, Synthia also feels she reclaimed her true gender as well.
So in conclusion to this problem, she said, from this day forward instead of saying that she is “Transgender”, now that transgender has turned into something else, she is going to say she is “GENDER CORRECT“. I personally love it! I too appreciate being able to say I am “gender correct” now, after living my wrong gender most my life.
So, as of today, November 29th, 2016; Synthia Roy and I hereby declare this day:
“GENDER CORRECT DAY!”