Human Rights, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination

Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.

How did my husband and I become a sexual minority? First of all, I did not want to be a sexual minority.  None of us get to pick how we are born.  I was born as a 46, XX Intersex Person.  My husband and I fell in love back in 1989. He never knew that… Continue reading Are my Husband and I Gay Men Now? How We Became Sexual Minorities, Our Intersex Love Story.

Human Rights, Intersex Awareness, Questions and Answers

Can We Really Identify All the Genders Out There?

The answer is: NO Here is why: To me, gender is a spectrum as vast as the Universe and is as personal as each and every person's experience here on Earth.  Gender is dictated by too many factors to mention here in the time allotted for one simple blog post.  Some try to give gender… Continue reading Can We Really Identify All the Genders Out There?

Anunnaki Ray's Photographic Stories, Hope, Human Rights, Human Rights Violations, Poems

An Intersex Poem of Freedom: I Will Sing My Song

  For Warmth I hold my face between my hands no I am not crying I hold my face between my hands to keep my loneliness warm two hands protecting two hands nourishing two hands to prevent my soul from leaving me in anger By Thich Nhat Hanh My sorrow and empathy consume me when… Continue reading An Intersex Poem of Freedom: I Will Sing My Song

Human Rights, Prejudice, Relationships

Dear Ally, Please Don’t Deny you are a Person of Privilege to Love Me

I have a few people in my life who are really trying to be good allies.  I genuinely appreciate this.   As a minority, in many ways, I know that it is not always easy to accept a person like me in your life. I know that most mean well, but here is the problem, with… Continue reading Dear Ally, Please Don’t Deny you are a Person of Privilege to Love Me

Human Rights, Intersex Cosmetic Surgery, Self-Determination, Short Messages

Chile outlawed unnecessary Genital “Normalizing” Surgeries on Intersex Babies! 2nd country to do so since last April 2015, when Malta was the first.

A Sad UPDATE to this blog:  We thought Chili had outlawed these surgeries on nonconsenting intersex children. It ends up that something else ended up happening to the creation of this new law that invalidates the original resolution. Quote: On August 23, 2016, the Chilean Ministry of Health issued Circular No. 7, 2016, which invalidated… Continue reading Chile outlawed unnecessary Genital “Normalizing” Surgeries on Intersex Babies! 2nd country to do so since last April 2015, when Malta was the first.

Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Hope, Human Rights Violations, Prejudice, Self-Determination

Doctors, Please Stop Lying to Our Parents. Intersex people are lovable without being fixed. WE ARE HUMAN

  As an intersex person, my story is a testimony that we do not have to be surgically altered to be loved; and yes, although my life was medically extremely difficult in many ways, I found a life partner of over twenty-seven years and we created a beautiful family.  To my family I am not broken.… Continue reading Doctors, Please Stop Lying to Our Parents. Intersex people are lovable without being fixed. WE ARE HUMAN

Cosmetic Genital Surgery, Gender Nonconforming, Intersex Awareness, Prejudice, Questions and Answers, Self-Determination, Transgender, Transphobia

I am an Intersex Person. I never felt like a Cisgender Person and I Relate to Some Transgender Men.

I am a person born with intersex traits, that was assumed to be female, and raised female.  A Cisgender person identifies as the gender they are assigned to at birth.  I do not, nor have I ever felt Cisgender, even when I appeared female.  All the therapy and surgery in the world could never achieve… Continue reading I am an Intersex Person. I never felt like a Cisgender Person and I Relate to Some Transgender Men.

Poems, Prejudice

Poem: And Once the Storm is Over, I was Buried Alive

And once the storm is over, I was buried alive I sit here wishing you had not buried me alive I was your brother I know I made a bad sister I was your son How could I be who I was never meant to be? Is this my punishment? And once the storm is… Continue reading Poem: And Once the Storm is Over, I was Buried Alive